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Anyone else have MIL issues?

beth4joshbeth4josh member
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I'm starting to worry about what it's going to be like with the MIL once the baby comes. She is already so very controlling and it drives me CRAZY!!!

She took over our wedding including picking venue, cake maker, photographer and caterer. She has access to my husbands bank account so she can see what he is spending money on and reminds us every two second of a bill that will be due or when the dogs need to go to the vets. And even now she wants to know absolutely everything that's going on with the pregnancy.

And I just want to know does anyone else have MIL problems?
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  • GinnyJ2012GinnyJ2012 member
    Unless your MIL paid for your wedding, you allowed her to take it over by paying for the items she choose even if you didn't want them. There are ways to get her off your bank account, and that should be done. Also you said she had access to his account, is it a joint account in both of their names or does she just know your info for access? Do y'all have a joint account that you could transfer all your money into? Your H needs to have a serious conversation with his mom.


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  • missnacholovermissnacholover member
    She has access to your husband's bank account?

    Unless your husband is 12, this is unacceptable.  Tell him to grow a pair.
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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    Ditto everyone else.  These are not MIL issues.  These are husband issues.  Please sit down and have a serious conversation with your DH before baby comes and set some boundaries.  Your MIL should not have access to bank accounts and should have nothing to do with your bills.  

    Honestly, if my MIL had attempted to plan my whole wedding I would have eloped.  Good luck
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  • mermaid1113mermaid1113 member
    Same as all PP- yeah she is the one doing these things, but you two are allowing it. You are both about to become parents and you are doing yourself no favors by continuing to allow this behavior to be accepted. 
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member
    ashiscute said:
    Ditto everyone else.  These are not MIL issues.  These are husband issues.  Please sit down and have a serious conversation with your DH before baby comes and set some boundaries.  Your MIL should not have access to bank accounts and should have nothing to do with your bills.  

    Honestly, if my MIL had attempted to plan my whole wedding I would have eloped.  Good luck
    Ooooh there would be a disturbance in the force if my MIL behaved that way.  She's bad enough as it is.  I agree with what others are saying though, she's getting away with it because you and her son are allowing her to. 
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  • katiescarlett1katiescarlett1 member
    Oooh she sounds like a handful! I'm sorry, I'd be nervous too. Something's gotta give or you're gonna kill her when the baby comes!

    My MIL drives me nuts too...she means well but is so bossy and just straight rubs me the wrong way. She had offered to come stay with us to help out, for a few weeks, after baby comes...I told hubby there is just no way.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    Why the fuck does she have access to his bank account

    It's a BOY










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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    You don't have a MIL problem. You have a husband problem.


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  • summererobinsonsummererobinson member
    I agree with everyone else. As much as I believe in allowing mothers to be included in things (after all I’m a mother and would want to be!) this is a bit much. Her being on the account doesn’t make any sense to me at all. You really do need to set some boundaries or you’re going to be miserable.
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