Does anyone else do these crazy things? (BFP's mentioned, not mine)

wanderlust508 · July 2014

So one of my mom friends mentioned a Chinese gender predictor that's online ...it takes into account the day you conceived and your age to predict what gender your baby will be. It wasn't even accurate for 2 of my friends who tried it out before they knew what they were having! But still, each month (especially since starting IUI's) I plug in my info. Today I just did it for my current cycle and Ta-da! I'm having a girl

So silly and totally jumping the gun. And yet I can't stop doing it!!

I also stalk a site on twoweekwait.com (https://www.twoweekwait.com/bfp-by-iui) that gives IUI success stories. I get so happy when I read new stories of women who've been trying and end up getting pregnant by IUI. Anyone else look at this site too??

Hmm what else .....Oh yeah, another habit I have is looking for "signs". I play this bizarre mind game with myself. For example, I'm waiting for my husband to come home so we can go out to dinner together. I think to myself "OK, if he gets home before 7pm ...that's a sign from beyond that this cycle will be a BFP." So so silly and ridiculous. And often makes the 2WW worse! When I don't get the right answer (i.e. My husband gets home AFTER 7pm and my hopes are crushed), I actually get depressed which makes no sense at all!

Anyone else have similar stories of crazy behavior to share??

Autumray · July 2014

Yes I do these things lol. I also look at EDD for my cycle... I frequent countdown to pregnancy its terrible. According to the chinese calendar on TB I will have a boy for the rest of the year if I conceive lol. I already told the hubby that if I get pg then it will be Twin boys. I have stuck to this story the last few months. I just know thats whats going to happen! lol He thinks I am crazy for doing all this and thinking these things but I cant help myself!

nmccombs11 · July 2014

I do some of the same things too. I have all kinds of stuff on Pinterest about gender parties and showers.
Every time I have a cramp or am over tired I think oh maybe this is it. It's so irritating lol.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

Lol some of those are pretty funny! But I'm sorry it makes the 2WW harder for you.

Most of the time, I am a glutton for anything baby related. I wish pregnant friends and new moms would tell me all about it. It's like before I got married, all I wanted to talk or think about was weddings and marriage. I had a secret stash of Pregnancy magazines that were sitting out at the GYN's office a while back but finally recycled them to save space. I work on baby names at least weekly. And I "window shop" online for maternity clothes, baby stuff, children's books (which I often end up buying - somehow I find they are easier to rationalize), and children's toys. I plan out future homeschooling, and the latest hobby is coming up with a dozen amazing ways to turn a little basement room into a dream playhouse.

Before meeting DH, my life plan was to teach for a couple years and then stay home with kids until they were out of the house. Sometimes it really feels stifling to live this life as a career person that does not match who I am.

The one thing I find hard to do, though, is focus on EDDs, only because I realized how much it hurts when another year, another holiday, especially another Chinese zodiac animal (don't believe any of the mystique around it, but it's an important part of DH's culture) goes past. By the way, there are some really sucky Chinese zodiac animals coming up! Can't believe all the great ones we've missed. I was sure we'd have a Tiger baby at least.

Like you, I definitely find myself playing the game of trying to equate things to whether or not I'll be pregnant. I start convincing myself that being hopeless will help, then I start to think that if I give up it won't happen. As if our emotions on the matter had any bearing to whether an egg fertilizes and implants!

And like you, I do enjoy reading success stories - at certain times. But only when I choose to go searching for them. I enjoy blogs by SAIF women.

wanderlust508 · July 2014

Thanks for sharing girls! It helps to know I'm not the only one who has these little "quirks" that come with each fertility cycle.

@Autumray - I do EDD too! This is one of the ones I wish I could quit most because of how disappointing it's become when I realize that that month won't be it. But somehow each cycle, I have a fresh wave of hope and I look up my EDD all over again.

@AlaskaDee23 - LOL, that is some amazing planning!

I definitely have never thought about things in that much detail but I think it's cool in a way that when you do get your BFP you will already know how you want to handle things (because you've thought about it so much). I have FX for your cycle 23!

@nmccombs11 - I absolutely overanalyze every little symptom. I definitely feel you on that! Now you're making me want to go on Pinterest and create a (secret) board .....

@Bunnyberry - I think it's hilarious myself! I actually don't look at maternity or baby stuff because that feels too painful for me. But then I can't stop doing the EDD thing each month (even though it hurts!). I haven't looked into what Chinese Zodiac signs are coming up! Maybe my baby will be a monkey like me (no idea what year that will come next).

lebradford · July 2014

I definitely search EDD at several points throughout my cycle. I then think about what month we would tell people we're expecting, when I might start showing, how the EDD works with the school year (I'm a teacher).

I *don't* think about names, look at or buy clothes, etc. That's too painful for me.

Sadly, I can tell you that my EDD for the IUI cycle I'm in is the last day of spring break, so (if I gave birth on my due date), I'd have a paid week off before my EDD and could reasonably not return to school for the rest of the year and my maternity leave would extend into the summer. That is *way* too much thought to have put into this at 2 dpiui. :-P

juneroses · July 2014

Oh, I love this post. @Autumray‌ , I have been telling my husband we are having twins this cycle - I'm glad someone else does this. It is completely crazy...and I just can't stop. I have been pinning twin pregnancy announcements on Pinterest all week.

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

I can relate to soooo many of these!

FWIW @EastBayBride508‌ my mom did the Chinese gender predictor for all 5 of her children and it was accurate every time! I'm sure it's just coincidence but cool anyway!

I am oh so guilty of looking up my EDD. But, honestly, after years of TTC, I can pretty well calculate it in my head. The online calculator I use always gives you the option for calculating from the "day you conceived" but has a little note that says, "few women know this for sure."
Not in our world, bitch!

I have never bought any clothes, because that seems too painful. DH and I talked about names when we first started trying but now I don't even think about it. One step at a time....
I'm also guilty of overreacting to symptoms. If my nipples aren't sore by 10dpo I totally write off a cycle!

@lebradford‌ I'm right there with you! I think we have talked about this before. Late spring babies make for prime time maternity leave! FX this is it for us!

emmuffy · July 2014

I always look up my EDD. I almost didn't do it this cycle, because I don't have any real hope it's going to work (I'm really just waiting to start my IVF protocol at this point), but then I caved and did it anyway... because you never know!! I also look at name websites, etc. I've never heard of the gender predictors but I may have to check that out sometime.

shirleymaeby · July 2014

DH and I have had names picked out since we first started, but I spent the day after my iui working on two secret pinterest boards...one for a boy and one for a girl nursery. I had to stop after a couple of days though because I started to think I would "jinx" myself by doing that. I am able to keep myself from looking at maternity clothes or buying baby stuff, but I am definitely guilty of calculating EDD and what I will do for all the holidays I will be pregnant during. Also, every cycle that falls around a holiday I think about fun ways to tell people given the holiday. Like I really hoped I'd get pg in May so I could tell my dad and FIL on Father's Day. And DH's nephew turns one this month about a week after I can test so I thought "We could send him a t-shirt for his birthday that says 'I love my cousin' to announce it!"

I also have this fun running commentary in my brain that sounds something like "Oh! I think that's a cramp, maybe it's implantation cramps! Wait, it's only 2dpiui, that's not even possible yet. Well, maybe it's my fertilized egg bumping into the wall of my fallopian tube on it's way to the uterus! I mean, the follie looked huge on the u/s so a fertilized egg must be enormous right? Oh nevermind, that was just gas from the black bean soup I had at lunch. Jesus, I hope no one else can smell this. Oh! If I smell it and no one else does that's a good thing because I have a super sniffer! Do my nipples look darker? Are my boobs more sore than usual?"

This goes on for some time.

**BFP's mentioned, not mine**

I had two co-workers in IF hell with me. We always joked that it would be funny if we all got pregnant at the same time because our team would lose their shit if we were all on mat leave together. Well, one of them got her BFP in May and the other got hers in June. I have taken this as the surest possible sign that this is my month. Until around bed time when I lay in bed and convince myself that if they both got pg then the odds I ever will are very low because math.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

@kmdecoux ohmygoodness that was the funniest thing I have read on the internet in months. Thank you so much for that - wow...I need to go recover now.

TTCBabyJ · July 2014

Thanks guys for the Chinese gender predictor calculator....now I have one more site to obsess over during my 2ww. Lol! This is torture!

catlover790 · July 2014

I do this stuff too! My DH and I have had our top girl and boy names picked out for awhile and we refer to our future kids by these names (only in private!). I also look up my EDD and think of how the announcement time might fall around an upcoming holiday or family party etc. I know I end up being disappointed when the time passes but I can't help myself!

catlover790 · July 2014

@lebradford‌ I teach too and do the same thing! Although I haven't O'd so I just go with the month that we're in at the moment. I am getting anxious though because there aren't too many months left for this next school year for spring/ early summer EDD so I'm kind of sad about that. Anyway, you're not alone!

cupcake122 · July 2014

So glad to hear I'm not the only crazy one lol I'm nowhere near a tww yet but i try to read signs all the time. Every time I meet someone who had success from if with my RE I think it's another good sign for us!

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