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A question about "baby dust"

aburks1aburks1 member
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What the heck? Where did that phrase even come from?

Whyyyy would dust made from babies be a cute thing? Gross.
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  • aburks1aburks1 member
    I'm in no way trying to offend anyone. Just curious
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  • DaBearsFansWifeDaBearsFansWife member
    aburks1 said:
    I'm in no way trying to offend anyone. Just curious
    Are you really that clueless or do you not see how the term "baby dust" could be a trigger for those who have suffered a loss. Your curiosity is hardly a reason to trigger those who have lost their babies. 
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  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member
    I'm gonna tell it to you straight - baby dust reminds some of the ashes of the babies they have lost. We don't believe in glitter or rainbow unicorn farts around here. If you want to wish someone good luck, say good luck... hell, even happy humping is better than baby dust!

    I get that it was an honest question but maybe a PM to someone who expressed that we don't use it is better than a whole thread about it. If something appears offensive, stop...think... then ask yourself what might happen if you ask anyway. That's a sure fire way to survive relatively unscathed here :)



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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly member
    Also no preggers or baby dancing. Anyone have any other absolutely annoying, offensive or childish terms they would like to add.
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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly member
    Yea but why did OP ask the question in the first place? She probably didn't see it used here. I don't mind when a poster comes from Baby Center or What to Expect boards and ask why members of the Bump don't like here. But, OP already found offense to it, didn't like it and brought it up anyway. Also, seriously you don't even have to use TB search function. A Google search would have provided the same information.
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  • spiltmilkzspiltmilkz member
    Encchanted said:
    Yea but why did OP ask the question in the first place? She probably didn't see it used here. I don't mind when a poster comes from Baby Center or What to Expect boards and ask why members of the Bump don't like here. But, OP already found offense to it, didn't like it and brought it up anyway. Also, seriously you don't even have to use TB search function. A Google search would have provided the same information.
    Again, genuine curiosity. It's something I've wondered about, though I usually would forget to search by the time I get back to a computer. As for asking here, there are a lot of questions that could be answered by Google, but when you are active in a community, you tend to ask there first. I've asked on my BMB questions that the answers are a Google search away, but I would rather ask the women I've gotten to know who are also mothers. She has seen it in conjunction with TTC and came to her TTC community to see if anyone knew the answer. I'm not saying it was the best, but we all make misjudgments sometimes and I don't think insulting her was necessary at all.
    I don't think that anyone insulted her. I think she asked an honest question and was given honest answers. 
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    Encchanted said:

    I think there's some overreaction going on here. Yes, it may be seen as an insensitive question (as is stating dust made of babies is gross. My lost boy's ashes aren't gross.) but she wasn't asking to be malicious.

    Calling her clueless wasn't necessary for genuine curiosity.

    ETA: It isn't like she was arguing that it's harmless. She was questioning where such an offensive thing came from.

    I might have come across a little harsh but I said what I did to end the conversation completely in hopes that it would get buried in the pile of intros. It succeeded for a little while.
    I understand being curious but she obviously already knew it was wrong and stated in her intro why it was wrong (she mistakenly called it gross). She kinda deserved some harsh reality.
    Ultimately, I said what I did so that someone who has suffered a loss wouldn't have to. I can't imagine the pain and if I can help lessen that for those who have experienced it then I will.
    Or next time I can indulge these questions. Your choice. (Not being snarky)
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  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member
    I have to admit that I don't find the term offensive but I know there are some strong feelings here regarding its use.



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