How strict are you about LO's sleep?

Re: How strict are you about LO's sleep?

• keags5496 member

  July 2014

  I'm in the same boat you are. With this LO he seems to be more go with the flow than DS1 needed that nap time in his crib daily or he was a beast. DS2 naps on the go much better. He still sleeps best in his crib, but he doesn't turn into a monster at the end of the day if he misses a crib nap. So to answer your questions:
  
  1. I never wake them. I figure if they're sleeping they need it and at this point sleep begets sleep.
  
  2. I'm fine with other people putting Lo down as long as he isn't overtired or overstimulated.
  
  3. We go to social events but if he doesn't nap one day I make sure he gets good naps the following day. If we have social events on back to back days, Ill try to go late or leave early from one to protect nap time.

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• RedSoxGirl10 member

  July 2014

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  I didn't even ask about bedtime because I am already strict about that ha ha. I find that pretty easy to be strict about though... there is no where I really need to take a baby at 8pm and the grandparents have only babysat at night a few times  

  
  

  

  
  

  

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• versed member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  We're very go-with-the-flow with the baby and sleep. He can mostly sleep anywhere and adjust to most schedules. He gets very cranky at 6:15 so we make sure to be somewhere he can be calmed at that time.
  
  1. Usually don't wake him up. We know he's ready to sleep about 90min. after wake up
  2. LO doesn't nap in crib. Naps in RNP, but I'm fine if one of grandmothers wants to hold him through a nap.
  3. We've taken the baby out past his bedtime. If we have the Ergo, he'll just sleep in that.
  
  The 2yr-old, on the other hand, you don't F with his schedule or you will feel his wrath. We don't disrupt his naps or bedtime. If we need him to nap earlier so we can do something, it's as easy as leaving early and driving around so he sleeps first. We're home every night before his 7:30 bedtime.

  
  
  

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• karich member

  July 2014

  We are extremely laid back about all our kids sleep schedules. I don't know any other parents who are as lax as we are.
  The only exception is when it's a school night for DD1. But, since it's summer, it's kind of like anything goes.
  1. No one has a nap schedule. If someone is tired, they sleep. If they nap, I let them wake up on their own.
  2. I don't have an issue with someone else putting him down for a nap. If you want a go at it, be my guest!!
  3. LO will nap anywhere.
  
  The result of us being so laid back is that our kids will sleep anywhere. Hotels, strollers....my kids will even nap at the beach in a tent.
  I have friends who have actually had to leave vacations because their kids won't sleep anywhere other than the crib. F that. We are a very active family, and I don't ever want to be tied to the house for a naptime.

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• TessyMessy member

  July 2014

  1. I usually don't have to worry about waking LO up.. he is usually up by 4:30. If he choses to sleep in on a work day I will wake him up around 6 so I can feed him before I get dressed.
  2. LO does not nap his crib yet. We just put the pack n play in the living room and start putting him on there for nap time. My mother and MiL are working on getting LO to go down in the pnp vs pushing him in the stroller.
  
  3. Sadly we haven't gotten out much lately but usually LO will pass out in the carrier. I'm not sure that will work if we are at a function outside in the summer. I would probably put him in the stroller to nap instead.

  
  

   

   

  
   

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• versed member

  July 2014

  @karich‌ - I don't think how kids sleep is all parents' doing. We were very laid back with DS1's sleep, and now he'll sleep in different places, but he still has his "sleep windows" that screw up the entire day/night if we miss them.

  
  
  

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• JackieP1023 member

  July 2014

  We are pretty relaxed with sleep. We don't wake her up, unless it's daycare day. (She needs to be up by 7 for daycare, and rarely is). Otherwise, we let her sleep. We are rarely around other people that want to put LO down for nap, so it hasn't become much of an issue. SIL has tried without much luck. However, LO naps the best in her swing during the day. She will catnap in the carseat, or the stroller. If she is tired enough, she will sleep anywhere. (She fell asleep sitting up on MH's lap during the fireworks). And as far as going out--we don't have any 'babysitters' so she goes where we go. If she falls asleep in the carseat on the way there, we try to leave her be until she wakes up. (Not always possible).

  
  

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• LetoileDuNord member

  July 2014

  1.Hahahaha. I wish this was an issue. Let's just say I haven't used an alarm clock since he was born. Sleeping in is not a problem in our house, waking up for the day at 4 is more of the problem.  
  
  2. Grandparents can put him down for naps or bedtime. I welcome the help! I would say that 98% of nighttime putting down is me at this point though.
  
  3. We mostly try to get him to nap at social events. In the beginning, he would sleep on anyone who would hold him. Now we try to find a quiet room with a bed and plop him in there. He's pretty crabby if he doesn't get two naps in a day.

   

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• karich member

  July 2014

  versed said:

  @karich‌ - I don't think how kids sleep is all parents' doing. We were very laid back with DS1's sleep, and now he'll sleep in different places, but he still has his "sleep windows" that screw up the entire day/night if we miss them.

  I hope I didn't come across as sounding like our way was the best way. This is what works for us. I don't think my kids easy sleeping is 100% us, but we've done the same with 3 kids....and so far, all 3 sleep the same.
  Right now, LO is sleeping in DH's arms while we are at a children's theatre production. (It's intermission

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• versed member

  July 2014

  karich said:

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  @karich‌ - I don't think how kids sleep is all parents' doing. We were very laid back with DS1's sleep, and now he'll sleep in different places, but he still has his "sleep windows" that screw up the entire day/night if we miss them.

  I hope I didn't come across as sounding like our way was the best way. This is what works for us. I don't think my kids easy sleeping is 100% us, but we've done the same with 3 kids....and so far, all 3 sleep the same.
  Right now, LO is sleeping in DH's arms while we are at a children's theatre production. (It's intermission

  Oh no - I just wanted to make it known that a parent can be very laid back and have a child that is very schedule-driven. I wish out "laid-backness" rubbed off on DS1!
  
  

  
  
  

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• RedSoxGirl10 member

  July 2014

  So interesting to hear about all the different ways everyone does it. Most of my friends are really strict about their babies naps (not to the point of leaving a vacation though, yikes!) so I just wanted to know what other possibilities exist. I have been super laid back so far and up until recently LO could sleep anywhere but now he seems to have changed, without me changing anything  

  
  

  I should clarify that by the second question I meant do you MAKE the grandparents put them down for naps lol. I more than welcome the help but they usually just want to hold the baby. This is totally fine with me but then he sleeps for 20 minutes vs. actually getting a good nap. 

  
  

  Sometimes I just feel like all the family members and friends enjoy the baby and mess up his naps and then I'm the one who pays at night haha. So I'm just wondering if I should be stricter or just push through this period and he will learn to sleep through anything? Sounds like it just depends on him though! 

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  

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• BB0214 member

  July 2014

  I honestly think it depends on the baby. I've tried it both ways with my LO. She's pretty schedule driven and really only naps in her crib. That's just how she is.

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• breadpudding member

  July 2014

  karich said:

  We are extremely laid back about all our kids sleep schedules. I don't know any other parents who are as lax as we are. The only exception is when it's a school night for DD1. But, since it's summer, it's kind of like anything goes. 1. No one has a nap schedule. If someone is tired, they sleep. If they nap, I let them wake up on their own. 2. I don't have an issue with someone else putting him down for a nap. If you want a go at it, be my guest!! 3. LO will nap anywhere. The result of us being so laid back is that our kids will sleep anywhere. Hotels, strollers....my kids will even nap at the beach in a tent. I have friends who have actually had to leave vacations because their kids won't sleep anywhere other than the crib. F that. We are a very active family, and I don't ever want to be tied to the house for a naptime.

  Hello twin.  :-h

  
  

  
  

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• Flyingtoast member

  July 2014

  I try to honor the sleep cues when I see them, but there are times where there nothing. At night she typically falls asleep in the car seat during the night feeding/tending. But she gets to transfered to bed once we get back to the house. If I'm home, I go to the house during the nap windows so she can have a longer nap in our bed. I'm very thankful that she is flexible, if she was very schedule/place driven I'm not sure I could get any of my choirs done.
  
  Since we haven't had any family really see LO nevermind try to put her down for an nap/bed, I have no real response for you.

  

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