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Melissa2216 · July 2014

The other post got me thinking...

A lot of you cited "unnecessary pain" as a reason for not circumcising. I was wondering, what is your stance on piercing baby girls' ears? I personally don't see the appeal in that at all. I understand that piercings aren't permanent like circumcisions, but I was just wondering what everyone's opinions are on piercings.

moroccojade · July 2014

I always said that I would let my daughter pierce her ears when she asked. (I thought that would come at age 4 or 5.)

But nope. It came at 2 and a half. I told her it hurt. That it was like taking a stapler to her ears.   She said she didn't care. I told her about the cleaning and turning a few times a day and how it wouldn't be fun.   Again, she said she didn't care.

So... I actually did take her in after seeing how serious she was.   So she got them done - didn't blink an eye and has been amazing with them ever since. I don't regret granting her request, and she was happy as heck.

Would I have done her ears as an infant? No. But I felt fine doing them at 2, as my husband's culture does pierce girl's ears around that age. When he called his mom back home to tell her what our daughter had done she whooped for joy and offered congratulations.

Offering choices around our house is a big deal. My daughter had gorgeous, long, chocolate brown waves for a few years. She said "My hair is a pain to brush and not stylish. I want to chop it off into a short bob like the ladies had in Paris...."   So we went to the salon. The hairdresser patted me on the back and said "Do you know how many girls I get in here with miserable gnarled-up long hair that the parents will NOT let them cut?   Good for you. Her hair, her choice."

I wish it was as easy to let circumcision become a boy's choice.... lol.

mexinugget · July 2014

We will pierce our daughters ears when she is about two months old. I'm hispanic, it's a cultural thing.

mamaluzi · July 2014

mexinugget said:
We will pierce our daughters ears when she is about two months old. I'm hispanic, it's a cultural thing.

Same here (Italian). The idea is that either the baby is young enough to not play with her ears (so you can be on charge of cleaning them and also not worry about baby touching them too much and them getting infected) or, once they outgrow the no-tough stage, waiting for them to be old enough to ask/understand how to take care of them. Basically, in my family, it's either piercing at 2-3 months OR 5 years +

I don't think it's comparable to circumcision, but if have a boy I will have my son circumcised because my hubby says it's got medical benefits (cleaner etc) and also it's familiar lol :-P I figure I'd leave the boy issues to the man in the family haha

lisaren · July 2014

I pierced my daughters ears when she was 1 yrs old. It was done in the pediatricians office, and she still has the same pair in, she's 6 now

She loves them. She wants to wear my earrings but no. Not happening.

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

As others have said, not comparable.

But since you asked a question, I won't have my baby girl's ears pierced either. I'm not making any vanity modifications to my children's body. If she wants to do it when she is older (and we feel she is responsible enough to keep up maintenance) we will let her.

ETA: Our babies are half Hispanic so, like @mexinugget‌ said, it is a cultural thing to do. I imagine I'm going to get a lot of "When are you going to pierce her ears?" questions from DH's family. I hope they won't judge us too much for not doing it and I'll try not to side eye them for assuming I'm going to put unnecessary holes in our daughter's head. :-)

Carebella · July 2014

I haven't posted on the circumcision thread yet but definitely lean towards not because medical reasons and the permanence. I'm not sure what age I had my ears pierced the first time but I did end up with an infection and know it was my choice to pierce them again. I think while it is temporary, I would prefer to let my son or daughter choose to pierce their ears because it's their body and it's not medically necessary.

MalachiteDrake · July 2014

We'll be waiting until she asks for any sort of body art, and then we'll go through care, maintenance, and permanent/temporary conversations with her. I'm a very big believer in "her body, her choice" as well, and will hopefully be acting only as a guide to her choices when she's old enough.

My own ears were pierced twice, in my late teens and then early twenties, and they drove me nuts.

:P

brooklyngirl18 · July 2014

my mom pierced my ears when i was very young, probably under 1 and don't see what the big deal is but dh is very strongly against ear piercing until girls are older. i don't have a strong preference/opinion either way. i would assume most girls would want their ears pierced at some point so doing it while their young doesn't really bother me.

Ineedmorecoffee · July 2014

I am anti-circ for my family, but want to get my daughter's ear pierced. I think putting a hole in an ear is a lot different than cutting perfectly good skin off a penis, but that's just me and I am sure a lot of people do not agree.

tinkerbell1658 · July 2014

Ineedmorecoffee said:
I am anti-circ for my family, but want to get my daughter's ear pierced. I think putting a hole in an ear is a lot different than cutting perfectly good skin off a penis, but that's just me and I am sure a lot of people do not agree.

This, I agree. I had my ears pierced at a few months. I dont see a comparison either.

abbyful · July 2014

lissydee said:
yeah I don't see these two things as comparable at all. One is permanent alteration to your body, the other can be temporary. Also, piercing is way more simple of a procedure than circumcision.

that being said, IF this kiddo is a girl, we will let her pierce her ears A) when she is old enough to ask for it and when she is old enough to take care of her ears.

This exactly.

hiketheworld · July 2014

I think it's wrong to pierce a baby's ears. It's totally unnecessary and whenever I see babies with them I feel bad for them. Why not let them be innocent babies? Most girls will ask for them later. It isn't my body so it isn't my choice. Their body, their choice.

hiketheworld · July 2014

I'm also 100% opposed to circ. similar reasons.

krgriffin26 · July 2014

I will have my daughters ears pierced when she is very little and we will circ our future son. Neither will remember how each of those thing happened and if it hurt. I asked DH. He doesn't remember getting circ'd and loves his penis as much as any other guy.

It may be a cultural thing or depend on the region but honestly I have many friends (some who got around quite well) who have never in their life seen an uncut man. Ever. I lived up north and have only seen one.

I don't really understand why it is such a hot topic lol preference is preference. There is just as much literature out there for getting it done as there is for being natural. Neither is bad and neither is wrong to me.

meeshybee · July 2014

I don't undertstand why babies need their ears pierced. It just seems like way more work than it's worth.

My girls can get their ears pierced when they are old enough to take care of the piercing themselves. My oldest daughter is 7 and has never asked about it. If they want to get them done around 10 or 12 I'll let them, but it's not something I see as a necessity.

venussapphire · July 2014

Not until DD shows an interest and asks for it. Both are unnecessary pain for looks.

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