am i normal?

lyzi · July 2014

my children are 5 and a half and almost 3. I have never been away from them for more than a night. aside from when I had my second child. my husband has been telling me I need a break. I am a SAHM and have been since my first was born. my husband has taken the boys for the weekend to his parents. they have just left and I feel as though my heart is broken! crazy I know. I know they are coming back and I have been told by numerous people I deserve a break. I just love my kids. I love being around them and taking care of them!! is this abnormal??

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LaurelBee · July 2014

I've only been away from Ds for 2 nights and have never left Dd. It's really hard for me to pick up and leave my kids too, but a night away sounds LOVELY! Stop moping around girlfriend- go out to eat with friends, see a movie, go out for drinks, get take out, do something to take your mind off of your kids! The pain of missing your kids will lessen by Sunday and you'll be refreshed and so happy to see them. In the mean time, enjoy being you. Not wife or mom- just wonderful YOU for once!

ASmallWonder · July 2014

Your life is your normal so don't compare it to anyone else's

But do try to enjoy yourself. I'd only be concerned if you're honestly unable to find any enjoyment during the time they're gone.

azzyberry · July 2014

We are the same person apparently. My kids are 5, 3, and 5 months. I beceme a SAHM after I had my first and I've never been away from my kids. I don't know if we are "normal" or not

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Do something you never get to do and enjoy it!

[Deleted User] · July 2014

I'm away from DS for 10 days in a row every year. It's never easier.

Normal. Though I do think breaks are good. But it's okay to miss 'em like hell.

my5sons · July 2014

aditigirl said:

Normal is relative.

But relatives are NOT normal.

At least, mine aren't.....

:P

LC122 · July 2014

Sounds normal to me.
Was there any particular reason your H thought you needed a break?
Maybe he would like for you two to eventually take an adults-only vacation and thinks this is a stepping stone to that?
If I were you, I'd be thinking now was the time to do all those things you can't do as easily with kids in tow or because they are sleeping...then I would spend the rest of the night trying to remember what those things were.

lyzi · July 2014

thank you everyone! feeling better about it. I still miss them soo much but glad to know I am not alone. My husband just said that I deserve a break because I am always with them and I rarely do anything for myself. I go for coffee or lunch with a friend about once every three months. I don't buy myself things. I live for my kids. I know it's not good and that I have to do things for me too but it is hard.

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