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Moving and Becoming SAHM! Advice?

nikkisun54nikkisun54 member
edited July 2014 in Stay at Home Moms
Hi Folks - 

Quick intro here - DS is 16m and I currently work for a mid-sized consulting firm in the DC/Baltimore area. I've been extremely interested in staying at home for a while, but between the cost of living in our region and the close proximity of our home from work, it just hasn't made sense financially. DS is at an in-home daycare and absolutely loves it, but...

Looks like we're moving to Houston! My mom is from the area, but left 30-some years ago and never looks back. I still haven't even visited. DH is going to accept a wonderful job offer for essentially his dream job with a former colleague from his old firm. I'm extremely excited that we've been blessed with this opportunity, as it is also the perfect transition for me to now stay at home. I'm just a little nervous about these two huge life changes. 

Where we currently live, my entire family is 1.5 hours away, my in-laws are down the street, and we have a great network of friends within arms reach, some with kiddos and some not. Between no longer working and moving, I'm fearful of getting lonely in a big, new place. Anyone been through this transition before and have any recommendations? I've already checked out Meet-Up and seen that the areas we're looking to settle in have Mommy and Me Groups, which is comforting. Just not sure what to expect! TIA 

(edited because I can't type...)

Little T Born 2/26/13
TTC #2 since August 2014
BFP #2: 4/15/15 * EDD: 12/19/15 * MMC: 5/7/15
BFP #3: 7/23/15 * EDD: 3/29/16



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Re: Moving and Becoming SAHM! Advice?

  • AndrewsgalAndrewsgal member
    I grew up in a Houston suburb and it was an amazing city. It has tons to offer, I am sure you will find your footing. Moving away from family is hard. Get involved in something (church, mothers group, gym). Good luck!
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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    We moved at the same time I became SAH. It can be lonely at first, but I had a newborn. Your DS is older so take advantage of that! My best advice is to be bold and open-minded. Ask your neighbors to lunch or a mom in your meet up group for coffee. Most people are looking for friends but are too scared to make the first move. Just try. If it doesn't work out, it's not a reflection on you (just like dating... Lol). Keep trying until you find people you connect with! Congrats on getting to SAH!
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  • mandymackmandymack member
    edited July 2014
    **edited this part out because I hadn't had any caffeine yet and read your post incorrectly! I thought you were moving closer to friends/family. So sorry I made that mistake**

    Our move just before I had my oldest was the same: we moved away from our family/friends/hometown across the country to an extremely high cost of living area BUT DH got his dream job so, while our adjustment was what I would consider to be the harder of the two, it's been 9 years and WONDERFUL!! There were times I was extremely homesick and lonely - I think that can happen to anyone moving to someplace new and when embarking on a new career/lifestyle - but in time, I found my home out here.

    It was important for me to get out walking the neighborhood to meet people and luckily, I was approached while in the hospital after delivery to join a new mom's group. We met up 2x/week after the babies were 6 weeks old for 12 weeks and because we all just meshed so well, we continued to do everything with our kids together over the years. I suggest your Local Bump board here to gather information about things to do/where to go/mom's groups and definitely searching Google for parks and playplaces and coffee shops close to you - that's where all the moms will be. ;)

    Very best of luck, sounds like it's going to be really great for all of you!

    eclaire 9.10.06  diggy 6.2.11

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  • nikkisun54nikkisun54 member
    Thanks, all! I know without a doubt it will be hard at times, but any transition will be. My mom is definitely doing her part to give me 101 reasons why it will be a horrible decision (not in those words, but that's how it makes me feel...) so it's great to come here and talk to those who have done the same and made it a positive experience! 

    Little T Born 2/26/13
    TTC #2 since August 2014
    BFP #2: 4/15/15 * EDD: 12/19/15 * MMC: 5/7/15
    BFP #3: 7/23/15 * EDD: 3/29/16



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