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Getting personal - distance with hubby

drae2udrae2u member
in March 2015 Moms
Hey ladies,
An unexpected thing is happening that I don't understand. My hubby is very happy about the pregnancy but since I have been sick with morning sickness, fatigue and headaches he has distanced himself. He brings me food, ginger ale, crackers and anything else I need but then goes into the next room to be alone. He said he feels helpless :( that he can't help me feel better. He's a great guy so it's just odd to me. Anyone's partner have a similar reaction? It just makes me feel more alone in my misery.
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  • Katys84Katys84 member

    Maybe he just wants to give you space because that's what he would want if he felt so yucky. Mine was similar with my first.

     

    Also, he might just have a few "off" days, like everyone sometimes does, while he's processing the next 9 months and beyond.

     

    Don't worry, it will all even out :)


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  • kschrefkschref member
    So sorry to hear this is happening!  Some people just don't get it. You might ask him to just sit with you a little bit.  Maybe watch a movie together even if you're not feeling well and just let him see that he can be around you even if he can't *fix* everything - my DH is a fixer too.  With my first, I was horribly sick in the first trimester.  Sometimes I would just lie in bed and DH would come spoon me and watch a movie with me.  Perhaps you can convince yours to do something similar.  :)
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  • 4RingCircus4RingCircus member
    He can't read your mind, but if you express your needs to him hopefully he will understand.
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  • BostonAlisonBostonAlison member
    Mine needs to be across the house when I puke... He can't handle it. He also hates that he can't help me feel better.

    Talk to him? Tell him even his presence is comforting :)



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  • drae2udrae2u member
    Thanks ladies, I asked him to lay with me last night to watch a movie an he did. It's just a bummer. I'm sure 2nd trimester will be better for both of us!
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  • JennyP0222JennyP0222 member
    Aww, glad he ended up watching a movie with you. My H is doing this as well, but, I would be lying if I said I did not kinda enjoy a little bit of space. I dunno, I am introvert like that so when I am feeling like poo I come upstairs and hang by myself in bed and feel pretty happy about it! 
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