FFFC

AshleyO925 · July 2014

I actually have one today!
Once MH gets out of the army he wants to be a paramedic so he will be home during the day while I work.

My FFFC: I would rather send LO to daycare because I don't like how he acts when he's alone with her.

He plays video games while putting her on her playmat and doesn't pay attention to her and also lets her CIO for naps by forcing the pacifier in her mouth instead of letting her spit it out and put it back in which makes her scream until she passes out. He also never wakes up when she cries.

kare_bear_12 · July 2014

Even though I don't take my baby to daycare in the mornings, I still look in the back just to make sure that I didn't forget him in the back because of the recent guy who left his 18 month old in the car that died.

BTBergstrom · July 2014

I've never read the random thread...it's to intimidating!

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AshleyO925 · July 2014

snow527 said:
Yikes @catsarefun‌ I would be having a serious talk with YH. Mine was sort of like that in the beginning but once she started smiling and being social he enjoys actually playing with her. Also, I know your avatar but I can't remember who you used to be.

I'm AshleyO925. He has definitely gotten better since she has started smiling and interacting but I still see some issues with his parenting. He says he just does it differently than me. He also has ADHD so I think he has a short attention span when it comes to entertaining her/dealing with her crying etc.

I'm home way more than him since he doesn't get home until 6 most nights and works some weekends so it hasn't been too much of an issue until the thought of him staying at home with her during the day.

Missfunball · July 2014

Jennibeanjld said:
I immediately delete resumes that don't follow the specific instructions of the job posting. Sending your résumé is the first impression I have of you, and if you can't follow the very first instruction, I'm convinced you won't be able to follow subsequent instructions. I used to feel guilty about it, but the times I did forward the résumé on to the hiring manager, the candidates were disappointments so I don't waste their time anymore.

THIS. I left instruction on what the subject line should be an actually had it route those to a folder. I didn't feel bad because I still had over 75 applications that I still went through. Ain't nobody got time for that!

linzerd · July 2014

When I got home last night and went to get Aubrey from my mother she was sleeping. I took her anyway and put her in the swing upstairs while I fed and took my dogs out. Then she passed out from 6-8, so when she woke up I nursed her and then tried to put her down for the night at 9:30. She did not want to go to sleep, and I was really tired. So I put her back in the swing. Buckled her in and went to bed. She yelled (not cried) just made some noises for a couple mins. and then was silent. I didn't have to get up with her once all night and slept until 6:30. It was heavenly.

kstar83 · July 2014

i have a part time nanny. I work form home. Part time. My kid loves her. I love her. I love the sanity having her gives me.

We should be saving that money for a down payment on a house, or paying off car loans, student loans or replenishing what we spent out of savings for maternity leave. But I feel like being happier and calmer mother helps us way more than saving more money. I feel spoiled and lucky. But I just know I am not cut out to be a stay at home mom. I suck at it.

angelsnight · July 2014

catsarefun said:

I actually have one today! Once MH gets out of the army he wants to be a paramedic so he will be home during the day while I work. My FFFC: I would rather send LO to daycare because I don't like how he acts when he's alone with her. He plays video games while putting her on her playmat and doesn't pay attention to her and also lets her CIO for naps by forcing the pacifier in her mouth instead of letting her spit it out and put it back in which makes her scream until she passes out. He also never wakes up when she cries.

I could have written this. MH is a great father and he loves LO, but he is just not hands on with her at all. I am really hoping this changes as she becomes more fun (ie not a sleeping newborn, which she isn't anymore but it's still hard to really play with her). That's not to say I never just plop her in her swing and take some me time, but MH would do this 90% of the day I am sure. I know when she's with my dad she's getting cuddles and tummy time and interaction most of the day.

@kare_bear_12 I know, all of the media attention lately has gotten me paranoid about leaving my baby. I honestly don't think I could ever do it....more often than not I am looking for her and try to get her from the backseat on the rare occasions I do run errands without her. But I do honestly believe a sleep deprived parent who doesn't normally do drop offs could make this tragic mistake. My dad watches LO so if I didn't show one day, he would be calling me to see where I am, and I sit and chat with him and snuggle her for at least 15 minutes every morning before I leave, but sometimes through out the day I'll just have a panicked moment, like omg, did I drop her off?

AshleyO925 · July 2014

@angelsnight‌ I'm glad I'm not alone! I definitely plop LO down to do dishes or throw in laundry or eat but that's my exact worry that he would do that all day long with her! I hope things get better for you as well.

angelsnight · July 2014

I'm putting in my two week notice today, and I'm really excited to be home with LO but I have to admit, it's a little bittersweet. I don't love nor even like most of my co-workers but my few friends there I will miss (and let's face it, it's hard to keep in touch with work friends when you no longer work with them) and they're breaking my heart when they were really sad when I told them I'm leaving.

I also do sometimes enjoy the freedom I have from working, and my job makes me feel important. I also feel a little bad that my dad won't get to watch LO all day anymore. I know eventually it would get tiring but for now he loves it, and I feel bad that I am "taking away" his little cutie pie (but we'll still go see him at least once a week).

But despite all of this, I know I'm making the right decision. If someone suddenly told me my plan won't work and I can't quit I'd be really upset. But I've been at this company for 9 years so I guess it's normal to be a little sad.

cdnmomma · July 2014

I'm crazy envious, in a good way, of all those who have the option of being sahm.

mfarmer0811 · July 2014

I got really stabby yesterday when Obama was in Austin. It was all that was on the TV, and his speech interrupted Days of Our Lives. Plus, the portion I did see of his speech all he was doing was bashing republicans. I'm just really glad I don't live in Austin proper and have to deal with all the traffic!
There's no telling how much all that cost!

tsmith312 · July 2014

cdnmomma said:

I'm crazy envious, in a good way, of all those who have the option of being sahm.

Me too !! While Im stuck at work I could do so much more at home with my LO. This way I wouldn't be up till midnight doing laundry and up at 4:30 to go to work

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karen31186 · July 2014

@babycaps‌ - Our mornings sound very similar!

mfarmer0811 · July 2014

lovethatdirtywater said:

I got really stabby yesterday when Obama was in Austin. It was all that was on the TV, and his speech interrupted Days of Our Lives. Plus, the portion I did see of his speech all he was doing was bashing republicans. I'm just really glad I don't live in Austin proper and have to deal with all the traffic!
There's no telling how much all that cost!
I feel you on Days (not that I'm home, but I got caught up on mat leave). As for the rest of it, A) of course he based the Rs. That how this goes. They bash him too. Hell, Boehner is trying to sue him. You can't be surprised. And yes, these things cost money, but Presidents can't stay in the WH. Bush travelled the country as well, and it cost money. Again, that's just how it goes.

I understand there will be some bashing between parties, but yesterday it was pretty extensive; he was in a Republican state, and I don't think it was all necessary. And with the economic state our nation is in, I don't think all the spending is appropriate. Plus, he did nothing to address the immigration issue that is going on at the Texas border right now. (at least I didn't hear him address it, please correct me if I'm wrong.)

nlane0723 · July 2014

Jennibeanjld said:
I immediately delete resumes that don't follow the specific instructions of the job posting. Sending your résumé is the first impression I have of you, and if you can't follow the very first instruction, I'm convinced you won't be able to follow subsequent instructions. I used to feel guilty about it, but the times I did forward the résumé on to the hiring manager, the candidates were disappointments so I don't waste their time anymore.

I also do this.

mfarmer0811 · July 2014

Jennibeanjld said:

I immediately delete resumes that don't follow the specific instructions of the job posting. Sending your résumé is the first impression I have of you, and if you can't follow the very first instruction, I'm convinced you won't be able to follow subsequent instructions. I used to feel guilty about it, but the times I did forward the résumé on to the hiring manager, the candidates were disappointments so I don't waste their time anymore.

@jennibeanjld I'm so glad you do this. I taught Professional Communications at the high school level, and I always went over resumes. It was difficult though, because they had nothing to put on them. I hope they remember what I taught them, that the Resume is the first impression a potential employer has of them. If grown, educated adults don't know how to produce a proper Resume, they should not get the job, IMO.

kare_bear_12 · July 2014

OOh got another one. Went to happy hour 2 weeks ago with my girlfriend. We went to a wine bar where we know there is a really cute bartender. We have been following him around the area for a few years. He knows who we are and gives us big hugs everytime we go in. We drank wine, flirted a bit and enjoyed the eye candy. It was a really great night and I was not ashamed to tell my DH the next morning how cute the bartenders were and how much I stared. LOL

Zombielove126 · July 2014

A couple of weekends ago when I went camping with my sisters and our so's I was pumping and dumping since I didn't think the milk would stay good in our cooler, and I wanted to drink some adult beverages as well. Well my sister and I (not the pregnant one;)) got a little tipsy and I was pumping. I started getting all emotional about having to dump out my milk so she said she'd do it for me. So I handed it to her and she asked me if she could taste it, I was like, ya sure. I was just thinking she would stick her finger in it for a little taste. Um no, she took a big gulp of it out of the bottle. Haha, she drank it down but she was so grossed out, she said, "I wasn't expecting it to be so warm!" Well it's body tempersture, duh.

kimberpoo · July 2014

DH hurt his back moving a hot tub and I honestly DGAF. not one F is given. all he has done for the last few months is complain about how tired he is. IDK what the F he is so tired from....I wake up with LO, I take him to grandma's house then go to work, work 8 hours, pick LO up, make the 1 hr commute back home, then either shop for groceries or clean the house. I also do all the cooking, laundry, and care for LO. What does DH do? work. that's it. and he's on afternoon shift right now so he can sleep in until noon if he wants, and isn't with lo at all except on his days off.

sorry, I guess that was more of a bitch than a confession. DH is a great H and dad, I just can't stand him complaining about being tired when I'm still up at midnight trying to pump and get laundry done. so I guess my confession is that IDGAF when is actually tired or hurt. he can STFU. now he knows how it feels.

EML2011 · July 2014

I'm absolutely pathetic. This just happened... Call to DH

Me: crying. I. Don't. Crying some more
DH: WHATS WRONG?! Did something happen to the baby?
Me: no.... Crying.... I don't wanna go to the pharmacy.
DH: ummm.... Ok?
Me: babbling about mom guilt and crying some more
DH: I guess I can stop on the way home from work?
Me: oh ok thanks!

I dropped LO off at my MILs for the second time today... The only difference is I don't have an "official" reason for it other than wanting a nap, getting a little cleaning done, and running some errands.

On my way to pick up LO I realized how ridiculous that conversation sounded to DH...

myfriendscallmemeg · July 2014

I think my used breast pads smell delicious.

mfarmer0811 · July 2014

I still swaddle and DS can roll from back to stomach. I've tried doing arms out and he wakes himself up every single time.

ProudMommy030614 · July 2014

Ever since m

NanaCook said:
I think my used breast pads smell delicious.

Me to! Like coconut oil and milk

LittlePigeon · July 2014

We have a wedding out of town this month that I am just counting down to because all of my friends will be there without babies to worry about so we can drink and be semi-wild like we were in our early twenties. I am way more excited about this that I probably should be. I feel a little guilty being so excited about being away from LO for the night.

cdnmomma · July 2014

Ok. So I know what a pack n play is and we have one. But what's a rock n play?!? Can someone post a pic

DiMama · July 2014

My confession is that I love baby shoes! The first picture is just an aw!

mrsdahamm · July 2014

babycaps said:

cdnmomma said:
Ok. So I know what a pack n play is and we have one. But what's a rock n play?!? Can someone post a pic
Here is a pic!! Contrary to popular belief and practice, this shouldn't be used much past first 6 weeks of life and shouldn't be used ever if baby isn't being watched in his/her sleep, like overnight!

Woops. I guess I have a FFFC then. I just took ours over to the sitter's for Jackson to sleep in during the day. She was letting him sleep on the couch (with her watching him closely), but now that he's rolling we needed do something else. She said he sleeps amazingly in it.

lnvane00 · July 2014

My confession... I dont want my linea nigra to fade away

first it shows people that I just had a baby when I am in a bakini....
and it just reminds me of the beautiful baby bump I had.

YankeePeach08 · July 2014

bandteacher said:

The last time my boobs ever expressed milk was into DH's mouth. I was weaning from EPing and my nipples were cracked. It hurt too much to pump but I needed to get the milk out. We decided it was the only non-painful option. He ended up sucking for about 5 minutes on each side. I never pumped again.

so, does he spit or swallow???