TPT!

theholmanherd · July 2014

It's the best day of the week...the day when everyone gets to throat punch their friends, loved ones, and random strangers for acting like jackasses.

Go!

theholmanherd · July 2014

***PG mentioned, not mine***

I'll start....

I love them both dearly, but two of my friends just announced pregnancies. TP to them and Facebook in general. And yes, I'm aware that this makes me a jealous freak.

WishUponAChild · July 2014

**Child mentioned**

There was a mean lady (she has 3 kids of her own) that was baby sitting a friends kid. She was really rude to the 4 year old and made him cry so I went and soothed him and told him a story. Afterward she glared at me and snarled "You don't have any kids do you?"

TP you lady! your an ass!

shirleymaeby · July 2014

**preg mentioned**

Biggest fattest TP to the chick in my FB feed who has to update every. single. day about her goddamn pregnancy. And then hashtags every post with #normalpregnancy. I want to kick her in the face so bad it's not even funny.

Also TP to my co-worker who is ultra sensitive about effing everything and wants to take me aside for heart to hearts every time I get short tempered even though I have already explained I'm on hormones and it isn't personal.

theholmanherd · July 2014

@WishUponAChild, wow wtf? I hate people like that.

WishUponAChild · July 2014

She was crazy rude. I wish I would have handled it differently. Instead of crying I wish I would have responded with "Just because it doesn't suit you doesn't mean I would be bad at it."

Also, I want to TP my ex bff who knows that all I have ever wanted was a family and a she spent her whole pregnancy telling me that I COULDN'T handle it.

now I am grumpy. I think I did TPT wrong...

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

I would like to TP DH. This man sleeps FOREVER. I'm telling you he will sleep until 2 if he doesn't set an alarm. Like a teenager. Today is my birthday and we both have the day off...I told him ALL I wanted for my birthday was for him to get up when I got up and spend the day together. Easy peasy, right?

Sooo cut to 9:30 (which is sleeping in to me) I get up and he says, "can you just let me sleep another hour or so and then I'll be good to go."

Ugh....I asked for one thing! Was that too much to ask?? Just get the fuck up you selfish man! And if he thinks I'm going in there to beg him to wake up, he's got another thing coming. If he's asleep at 12 I'm going to go treat myself to a pedicure.

He's going to have some serious making up to do tonight....

WishUponAChild · July 2014

@annaclaire256 Happy Birthday!

KristenG2011 · July 2014

@annaclaire256 I'm so sorry you are dealing with that on your birthday!! My DH can sleep forever too! I hope your day gets better!!

Well....I would like to TP my coworker...who was directing her anger at me yesterday for no reason. Yelling and carrying on and claiming she wasn't mad. She is the bully of the office and I have been putting up with so much crap from her...and her hubby who works here too (he is incompetent). She shouldn't have messed with me yesterday after my bfn...so I told her off. Felt pretty darn good...but I still want to TP her!!!

Gosh...I feel better now!

catlover790 · July 2014

pregnancy/child mentioned.

@WishUponAChild‌ I'm sorry about that situation! It sounds like you knew just what to do and will be a great mom!

@AnnaClaire256‌ Happy Birthday! Sorry about your DH, I hope he gets up soon or you go out! Do some shopping too!

@BlueJoan‌ I hope your phone call goes okay and you can switch your appt. If she isn't willing I would try to talk to the RE because I'd hate to spend money on a cycle and not get my full chances because of the nurse.

@kkeglar13‌ I'm sorry you have to deal with her! I have a pregnant coworker too and she has been complaining about her pregnancy lately. I also noticed last week I spend two days working with her and I heard alllll about her pregnancy but she never even asked what I was doing for the weekend; just a self-centered person!

My first TP is to my body! I stopped prometrium on Sunday afternoon and I still haven't gotten a period! My RE said to call if I hadn't started in 5 days and if I don't get it tomorrow then that is 5 days! I don't have any cramps or any signs of it coming; I just want to start a real cycle!

My next TP is to a pregnant coworker who I had to spend some time working on curriculum stuff last week. She spent the entire time talking about her pregnancy. A also, when I was complaining that I had a cramp in my leg she told me how she didn't get leg cramps until she got pregnant. I said, "yeah I doubt that's it". I was annoyed that everything I said turned back into talking about her symptoms and pregnancy,ugh.

WishUponAChild · July 2014

@catlover790 you can have my TP. {{Hugs}}

shirleymaeby · July 2014

@AnnaClaire256 - Happy Birthday!

catlover790 · July 2014

@BlueJoan‌ Sorry they are not being upfront all the time with info. I'm glad at least they finally changed it!

chicory · July 2014

TP to turning 30 yesterday and having a lame, depressing week. I wasn't able to take off any work days because someone else did, which is fine, I usually work on my bday anyway. Tuesday I took my medical records to work to scan and email to the new RE I have my consult with next week. The copier had a meltdown and ate my records. I FREAKED out because once I finally was able to extract the shards of my personal medical info (all while trying to keep my co-worker out of the way) I could not for the life of me find pages 4 and 6 of 27 pages. I don't know how I held it together at work, but finally I gave up and came home to cry. Called the clinic, the lady on the phone said "oh yes, there should definitely be a page 4 and 6." Tore apart my kitchen in tears looking for misplaced papers. DH, I think in fear for his and my sanity, finally called the clinic back to find out pages 4 and 6 were blank and they had "kindly" removed them for me. All this while I am thinking they are floating around at my work. TP to my SIL who sent me a bitchy text about not inviting her to dinner when she saw a photo of us out to eat with friends the night before my bday on facebook. She wasn't invited because she never comes to anything we invite her to "because when we have kids we'll understand parents just can't do whatever they want whenever they want" and if she does come, it's all the same line. TP to my actual birthday yesterday, I worked all day while DH went golfing and then I was on call. Andplusalso, the new RE's office has called twice in the last 24 hours to move our appointment time so after being bumped twice, we have to be there 4 hours earlier. And I can't complain about it because there's no one else decent to go to. They don't give a crap that I took a half a day (now a full day) off work to drive 2.5 hours one way to hand them $500 for just a consulf and put my reproductive future in their hands. I always told myself I would be doing alright if I had one kid by the time I was 30....well the big 3-0 can go f*ck itself! *****Deep breath******That felt good! The upside is that we're having a big party at our house this weekend, just for the hell of it, and I fully plan to enjoy myself! Sorry for the rant, I rarely TPT but this one felt good

catlover790 · July 2014

@chicory‌ I'm sorry you had such a rough birthday! I'm sorry too about the RE stuff; it is so stressful with IF in general and then the OOP costs make it even harder. I hope you get to have a fun party this weekend! (hugs!)

gsancho · July 2014

**baby and really stupid comments mentioned**

I want to TPT my old friend...who really, I haven't considered a friend in a while. She was one of those ignorant ass holes who had an oopsie baby and had zero understanding of what was proper to say around me. The kicker was back when she told me she was pregnant, she laughed and said, "here you always tell us it's harder to have a kid than you'd think, and really, you've just needed a pair of my ovaries and uterus all along!"

ANYWAYS...after not talking to her for months, she emails me, complaining about her abusive baby daddy who moved out - how she's so upset b/c he gets to live his life while she's stuck with a baby, how her life has been at a stand still since being knocked up, she moved to another city for him (which I told her not to). I'm not even responding to this moron. Who the fuck does she think she is emailing me, complaining about her baby?!?

Ok, this was more of a vent...I'm done.

WishUponAChild · July 2014

gsancho said:

**baby and really stupid comments mentioned**

I want to TPT my old friend...who really, I haven't considered a friend in a while. She was one of those ignorant ass holes who had an oopsie baby and had zero understanding of what was proper to say around me. The kicker was back when she told me she was pregnant, she laughed and said, "here you always tell us it's harder to have a kid than you'd think, and really, you've just needed a pair of my ovaries and uterus all along!"

ANYWAYS...after not talking to her for months, she emails me, complaining about her abusive baby daddy who moved out - how she's so upset b/c he gets to live his life while she's stuck with a baby, how her life has been at a stand still since being knocked up, she moved to another city for him (which I told her not to). I'm not even responding to this moron. Who the fuck does she think she is emailing me, complaining about her baby?!?

Ok, this was more of a vent...I'm done.

you know this is absolutely horrible of me and I haven't shared this with anyone EVER! but I get so tired of people who are pregnant complaining about it that I just turn around look them straight in the eye and say. "Hey, I can't seem to get pregnant how bout you just let me adopt yours! Did you know it is $26,000. to adopt a baby? I KNOW RIGHT? So, what do you say?"

They normally stfu after that.

gsancho · July 2014

@WishUponAChild Well, she actually said while she was pregnant the other lovely line of, "man I should just give you my kid b/c I don't even know if I want him". So I'd be scared of her actually taking me up on an offer if I said that!

lilmamapanther · July 2014

****PG & LO's mentioned ***** I'd like to TP my PG friend who had te nerve to tell me stop trying to get PG you're not ready because you don't know how much work it is. B**** you had 3 unplanned pregnancies at least me and my DH had a sit down to discuss growing our family. TP super fertile women who think they know everything about every PG.

TTCBabyJ · July 2014

TP to my RE.....she always phrases things like, "It should" or "probably." Stop speaking in these non-definitive terms. I mean I'm not asking for statistics and references but a little more confident in the job that you DO EVERYDAY....Geez! My DH says I bully her, I don't care I need real answers.

brijen44 · July 2014

**baby mentioned**

Ok...what is TPT? I get the gist of the convo but don't know what it stands for! Thx

Editted, as I am a dumb ass. I now understand it to mean throat punch. Annnnd, I'm not feeling too aggressive today but can certainly jump in on the fun. TP to the extra-fertile's who have the Ooopsie! babies. I was talking with coworkers today and remembering back to when I was younger, and my fear then of getting pregnant before I was ready! Little did I know I had nothing to worry about, huh?

catlover790 · July 2014

@gsancho That is so hurtful! I'm so sorry she said that to you and is contacting you now! I have a couple "friends" that I am considering not seeing anymore just because they are not nice! Not just insensitive unknowingly but really mean people.

@rainbowbridge14‌ I'm sorry you don't feel well! I was taking prometrium and it made me very dizzy and feel drunk almost! I hope you feel better soon!

@lilmamapanther‌ I'm sorry your friend said that! It is so frustrating to feel like we talked and planned ahead for a family and now we can't get pregnant!

@brijen44‌ It is funny (in a sad way) to think about sometimes! I could've saved all the money that I spent on the pill over the past 6 years for a vacation or something! So annoying! Anyway, I'm sorry you had a difficult convo with your coworkers about their pregnancies!

aves0708 · July 2014

@AnnaClaire256 Happy Birthday! Sorry your DH was being an ass. I hope he made it up to you and you had a great day!

@chicory

So sorry you had a rough week.

@gsancho Your not friend definitely needs a serious TP.

I would like to TP the upper management at my work. They are like children who tattle on each other, can't get along and have marathon meetings that accomplish nothing. Our president/ceo just left the company so we are in between right now while the board is doing interviews. So because they have no "boss" they are all just acting insane. The head of my department (we'll call her Betty) and the head of another department(we'll call him Joe) hate each other, so Joe emails a complaint about Betty to our acting head of the company and cc's the ENTIRE board of directors. Then my boss, Betty is furious and bitching to us about how immature he is. It's seriously exhausting working for them and it reminds me waaaayyyy to much of junior high. So basically my job is to be a sounding board for my boss right now, which takes up all my time and then requires me to do work on my days off. Grrrrr.

*******Pregnancy Mentioned******

All this drama is going on while my co worker, who is 20 weeks pregnant and knows some basics about our IF issues, is going on and on about all of her nursery theme ideas.

All if it is making for a not so pleasant working environment.

theholmanherd · July 2014

@AnnaClaire256, happy birthday! I hope you got out and did something

@chicory, I'm so so sorry for all your troubles! (((HUGS)))

@gsancho, I would honestly block her out of my life forever.

I'm adding a third announcement to my original TP. I need to stay off Facebook...

lebradford · July 2014

@chicory It sounds like you had a pretty rough week. I'm sorry. I'm 29 and already dreading the milestone of turning 30 with no baby. Ugh. I'm glad your papers aren't floating around your office.

I'd like to give a (gentle-ish) TP to my ovaries. I was really, really hoping to have 2-3 mature follicles this cycle since I'm on injects. I had 4-5 small ones on CD 8, but I only ended up with one mature. What. The. Fuck? Bodies do that on their own. It's only a gentle TP because I'm having my IUI over a week sooner than my fastest Clomid cycle.

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

Thanks y'all for all the sweet birthday wishes! You made me feel all warm and squishy!
DH did finally drag himself outta bed and we had a great day! Since I turned 29 I told him this is the last birthday I'm ever celebrating.....

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

Happy birthday to YOU @GinnyJones82‌.

AF is a mega bitch. Sorry she couldn't hold out one more day! Hope you had a good day anyway <:-P

cautiouslydomestic · July 2014

I would like to TP my own husband (albeit gently) due to the fact that he came up to me not once, not twice, but three times with maternity clothes in his hands while we were shopping at Target today. "I thought you would like them! I didn't know they were maternity!" If you got them from the same place as last time....yep, probably still in the maternity section.

Second place goes to the cashier at the book store that laughed at aforementioned husband when we got to the checkout with my new copy of TCOYF, and he happened to be the one to set it down on the counter. "Taking charge of your fertility, are you?" Ugh.

theholmanherd · July 2014

@GinnyJones82, Happy birthday! Sorry AF reared her ugly head today

nighthawk646wife · July 2014

Tp to the checkout lady in the grocery store who upon seeing sugar smacks in my grocery cart asked me how my kids are and how many I have

nighthawk646wife · July 2014

AlaskaDee23 said:
****pregnancy mentioned****

I would like to TP the group messages I kept receiving of the congrats of my sil and baby being home! Don't get me wrong, I instantly loved my nephew, and loved the picture of him my sil sent, but do not love having to read all the sweet things everyone was saying
I'd also like to TP this hideous mood I've been in all week and overwhelming feeling of being out my mind! Blah!

Ugh I'm so sorry! That's for to be really hard

juneroses · July 2014

I would like to TP the fatigue that had me dragging around all day, and the insomnia that has me awake at 2am

catlover790 · July 2014

@GinnyJones82‌ Happy belated bday! Sorry AF showed up! It always seems to have bad timing with me too!

@cautiouslydomestic‌ Sorry about that cashier, how annoying! Your DH sounds like mine, he just doesn't get it sometimes! In his defense Target does have the cutest maternity clothes and I have had to talk myself out of buying them because I'm thinking if I get the smallest size maybe it won't look like maternity! haha.

@nighthawk646wife‌ Ugh! I hate when cashiers talk to me about my purchases! I love going through the teenager's line because they never say anything, maybe a "hi how are you?" but that's it!

BunnyBerry · July 2014

Don't want to perpetrate any violence within the family, so...I would just like to TP IF for creating the awful environment in which, when the credit card bill arrived with most of our testing and IUI cycle charges, DH said the following:

"We're not doing this anymore."
"This is all your fault because you're so selfish." (for wanting children, apparently - let it be known that he wants them too, a lot!)
"Forget all this! We're going to do 1 IVF, and if it fails, we're done [TTC] forever."
"Cancel your surgery!" (upcoming hysteroscopy and lap - for pain & endo as much as IF)

It didn't take long for him to recognize how messed up his reaction was, and he was really apologetic and understanding, but I am quite tired of his go-to coping mechanism for the challenges and disappointments of IF to be acting like he doesn't want kids, anyways.

Hopefully by the time the surgery is over (Aug 5th) and we can try again, he'll remember why we're doing all this. It's been almost 6 months since seeing the RE - when we were told that our treatment would be Letrozole and IUI - and so far we've had one ICI. This is getting really, really old. I would like at least a chance of getting pregnant this year.

catlover790 · July 2014

@BunnyBerry‌ I'm so sorry things have been so hard for you and your DH. I think my DH worries about the costs a lot too, he has said, "we won't have to do ivf etc" hoping that it won't cost too much. I'm sorry you are going through so much in your journey TTC. Do you have anyone your DH could talk with about how he is feeling? Maybe a trusted friend or family member? It is so hard to be quiet about everything. I'm so sorry! (hugs!)

shirleymaeby · July 2014

@BunnyBerry - Although DH has been a total rockstar lately, he has pulled some of that "Maybe you should just accept it might never happen" shit on me before. We got into like a 3 day fight and barely spoke to each other about 6 months ago during his latest tantrum. I think he (at that time) was just tired of me crying all the time. But then his brother's wife got preg again and she's expecting a girl, which is what HE wants, so suddenly he was all into it again. I swear to God, sometimes his mood swings are worse than mine. Maybe HE should have AF instead of me.

theholmanherd · July 2014

@BunnyBerry and @kmdecoux, I'm sorry for your husband troubles. It's hard enough dealing with IF (many of us without a support system outside of 3T and our spouses), but to deal with your #1 supporter going ape shit is a little much. I hope things get better this year, bunny.

lebradford · July 2014

I'm sorry, @BunnyBerry. That's really hard. What about seeing a therapist together just to talk through things? I know some people think of that as what you do when you're in complete crisis (I don't think you are), but I really think of it as a proactive step to preventing problems.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

@catlover790 Thank you so much, it's so true that sometimes he needs someone he can talk to freely without worrying about hurting my feelings, and just get it out! He Skypes his parents in China every week and talks at length with dad about every. little. detail lol, and maybe I should encourage him to call more often to touch base. His best buddy (he tends to have only 1 or 2 real close friends at a time) just moved across country so he's probably reeling a bit.

@kmdecoux Thanks for sharing! Yeah, it sounds like our DH's are catching our hormones or something. I guess they just don't have that deep instinct we do. Actually, I think for MH it's an age thing - he just cannot comprehend what a ticking clock women have. We've already passed 1/12 of my likely fertile years without so much as an IUI yet...DH seems to have no concept of what a big chunk of time that is if will do this process for several kids.

@theholmanherd Thanks, that's so sweet of you! It's kind of hard to believe that we will have success after so long, and I think that my resigned hopelessness but dogged dedication to treatment is really, really confusing for my DH. Perhaps a little hopefulness for his sake would go a long way.

@lebradford Thank you so much for your suggestion! We saw a Christian counselor the first couple years of our marriage, and it was a huge help giving us tools we've continued to use, but that was in China. So far he's not been comfortable for us to see someone here, I think because of the cultural difference. I'll keep praying on it.

kallygirlie · July 2014

Pregnancy/loss mentioned)

So it's far past Thursday but I really need to TP a friend on Facebook! She updates every week on her pregnancy. This week we got a beautiful photo of her first ultrasound. YAH!!....not!! She just happened to conceive the same week as me so every update is a reminder of where We would have been. Don't want to TP her for being pregnant, more because 2 weeks before she conceive she was telling me how she was "thinking"about baby #2 but wasn't sure if she was quite ready. 2 weeks? Are you f$%# kidding me? UGH!!

catlover790 · July 2014

@kallygirlie‌ I'm sorry about your friend and her saying she "might" want to start trying soon! It must be so hard to see those reminders, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I have started unfollowing a few people that would post a lot about their babies and I feel so much better! I don't feel like that's all my newsfeed is anymore. You can still check the person's page here and there but it's on my own terms. Just an idea!

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!