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Steph1673 · July 2014

With whom do you discuss your 2IF?

Steph1673 · July 2014

I'm just curious who has a support system IRL and who keeps IF between them and their partner...

I fall into category #1. A few close friends and my mom know I'd welcome a baby at any time, but none are aware of specific issues, testing, treatments, etc.

pettycrocker · July 2014

No RL for me personally, but H talks about it with his boss for some reason 8-|

sailorgal · July 2014

A select few for us. Well I'm on a local mom's message board and as I've gotten advice on fertility clinics in our area on there, I guess got a lot of people do know but very few that I discuss it with. The closest people in my life do not know.

MrsAtch · July 2014

I don't go in depth with everyone but I have a very good support system IRL. My friends and family know, and they have supported me through all four surgeries and the last year of crap.

ETA: Many of my coworkers know too.

jen4ny · July 2014

I have been pretty open with everyone. My friends and a lot of my family know. A lot of my coworkers know too. I work in healthcare so we are pretty open with everything at my job. I talk about it because I feel like a lot of people have no idea about secondary IF. I have had so many people say to me well you got pregnant once it will happen again- and it drives me nuts.

annibes · July 2014

Enough people have asked if I'll have a second and I always mention that we've been trying. For the most part it leads to questions and I don't mind answering them. I'm an open book.

iheartsippycups2 · July 2014

No one for me except dh of course. When we struggled with infertility with our son, I told pretty much anyone. It just brought on too many dumb comments (Just relax, etc), and too much pressure- "are you pregnant yet" "well why didn't it work". It was all just too much for me. My boss (mrs one and done bitter bitch) even made the comment "I've never heard of people who just can't get pregnant, people have been getting pregnant for years without medicine." - It took almost everything I had not to punch her & walk out that day...

lawmom747 · July 2014

I've been more open with our struggles over the last year to try to stem the 'when are you having another one' comments. But still only close family and a few friends know about my m/c of the twins which still breaks my heart to think about now.

Bananappeal145 · July 2014

I started out just between DH and I, then I told my mom. Eventually I got so tired of keeping it a secret. I find it to be much less stressful if I just tell people.

Jodee37 · July 2014

I pretty much bitch to anyone about my struggle but I don't discuss all my losses with them. Unless they say dumb shit to me like and then I will unload on them. But I figure there's no reason I should have to hide it I guess (not that those who don't share it are hiding it) just for me I feel comfortable talking about it

sept14 · July 2014

It varies. Obviously DH knows the most. His parents know we've been trying and not succeeding. I have 2 good friends who also have dealt with IF, they know a lot. I've also shared a lot with my brother and SIL. With others... I am fairly open if it comes up, but I don't bring it up.

topaz7777 · July 2014

I tell everyone, turns out a lot of other people are going through the same struggle but never talked about it to anyone. It also cuts back on the majority of stupid things people say who don't know any better. Somehow educating people about how it works and things they say that can be hurtful makes me feel better.

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