Names: To tell or not to tell?

bubblesnco · July 2014

We have two names picked out - one boy, one girl. We don't know what we're having yet, and even when we do find out, I'm very hesitant to tell family (specifically) what we've picked. We have told some friends who have little to no contact with our family (because we're excited). I love the names, both are based on family from both sides, but they don't necessarily follow other family 'traditions', and I would rather not have to listen to reasons we should change them from certain opinionated family members.

My personal view is that once the kid is named, if you have an opinion about the name, you can keep it to yourself, otherwise you may become what DH and I would call, a jerkface :-). We are pretty close to both sides (soon to be vicinity and otherwise), so it's not going to be easy to keep our mouths shut, but I honestly think it's for the best.

Anyone else in the same boat?

Amyface813 · July 2014

My parents were both scarred by thir names and they are afraid we are going to name our kid moon sparkles or something! I decided we won't tell anyone until it's on the birth certificate and it's too late. Then at least I won't have to hear it from her!

irish2014 · July 2014

Yes!! I know everyone will just badger us with opinions about how we should choose something else, why they don't like it, etc. We don't know what we're having and the whole fam has been trying to name the baby for weeks already. Heck no I am not dealing with that.

ThePregosaurus · July 2014

DH and I are having a hard enough time with just the 2 of us. I don't need anybody else's opinion thrown in the mix so we're not sharing. They can just grin and bear it if they don't like what we choose

Jessie333 · July 2014

I have always found people to not comment on the name if it is the babys name already. We didn't tell DD's name to anyone (except a few close family members) until dd was born. Part of our reasoning was that we had told everyone the sex, so this was the one thing we could surprise people with.

leoandethansmom · July 2014

We didn't tell anyone DS' name until he was born even though we had it picked out at 20w. It was fun listening to everyone guess and I think we will do the same thing this time. Everyone knows it's a boy so it's fun to have something that's a surprise.

ajlmom · July 2014

I'm finding out the sex and sharing with ppl what we're having, but baby's name won't be revealed until birth. I'll just use the excuse of "we have a few names picked out but are undecided"

marriedinaugust · July 2014

We tell anyone who wants to know. We don't give a crap what their opinions are so they can say whatever they want. My grandma still hates my son's name and he is 4. Every time we see her she asks if we have decided to call him something different yet. Oh well. Doesn't phase me in the slightest. She will probably hate the next one's name too!

Kasey880 · July 2014

Based on my experiences, I'm not telling. ESPECIALLY family. I don't want their opinions and I KNOW they will give them regardless lol.

love2travel2014 · July 2014

Not telling friends or family. I don't want to hear any opinions...opinions just piss me off these days!

brittandjp · July 2014

I have no problem sharing names once it's been decided. When we do share it's very much this is what we ARE naming her and not up for discussion. When we shared DD's name, my IL's started bringing up family names, to which we immediately replied something to the effect of, "We aren't interested in any family names and it we already made up our minds." They never said another word.

littleboyermoose · July 2014

I have shared the names with anyone who asked. I have one for each sec picked out, so I'm not at all wishy washy when I share. I think people have gotten that there is no room for negotiation. My mom has been the only one not to react favorably.

kboyet · July 2014

We are saying "we can't agree just yet but we won't name him until we see him any way" really we have a pretty good idea of what his name will be but don't want opinions

mlee116 · July 2014

We chose not to tell with our DS and we will do the same this time. Along with the same reasons you listed above, I just have a weird feeling about naming a child before they are here. I don't think twice about other people doing it, but personally, I have a hard time committing to a name before I see the baby. I also feel weird calling my belly David or whatever.

mc0113 · July 2014

We're Team Green and have shared our names with immediate family only so far. We've had good reactions from everyone so as people ask I'm not going to not tell them. I also don't care enough if someone has a bad reaction. The names are set. Lol

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AllTheTeaInChina · July 2014

We didn't share last time and won't this time either. We haven't discussed names yet, waiting til we know what we're having. We don't want others opinions but also it's something just for us. Nothing is really "off limits" or private when it comes to pregnancy so the baby's name is our secret.

lionyloo32 · July 2014

We have shared names with the grandparents as we've worked through them. But we don't have a "final" name picked out since we don't know the sex yet, and even if we did, we haven't fully agreed on a name for boy or girl. I personally don't mind people giving their opinion on our name(s), since nothing they say will sway us one way or the other. It is after all our baby, not theirs.

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goatlady12 · July 2014

We will be keeping the name to ourselves. Other's opinions just annoy me about 99% of the time.

nebrtwin · July 2014

After the experience my sister had with telling family members her chosen name for her son, my husband and I decided not to tell to avoid any kind of drama and to surprise their grandfathers since they are named after them.

Long story short about my sister's situation... She and her husband chose a name they loved, told my uncle, who told our cousin who was due with a boy just a week before them. She decided she liked the name and took it for herself (and by "take" I mean she declared it on Facebook after having already decided on a name previously and about five minutes after she was told what my nephew's name was to be). Now, if these were cousins living in separate states or further apart in age then it wouldn't be that big of a deal in my opinion. However, they live less than two hours away and were born days apart.

BLH2014 · July 2014

We haven't seriously talked names since we don't know the sex yet. My husband doesn't think it's a big deal to share, but I already told him we're keeping it a secret whenever we decide. I like that it is one element that can be a surprise, since we will be sharing the sex, and of course I don't want to hear any pushy negative opinions about our choices either.

CandaceC1020 · July 2014

If you're dead set on the names, don't tell anyone. You are bound to find someone who will find something wrong with the names and they will not hesitate to tell you what is wrong with the name. I'd wait until your little one is born and then share the name.

JCM285 · July 2014

We aren't telling anyone the names. As everyone has said, its just not worth the drama! I don't foresee anyone having a problem with the girl or boy name we picked out anyway. I have just been telling people that its going to be a surprise :-)

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