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Any body not finding out the gender?

maggie515maggie515 member
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My husband and I plan to not find out the gender of out 3rd child when we finally do conceive. I am wondering how other mommas prepare for a gender surprise baby. I know most buy gender neutral stuff, but my family had mentioned giving us a baby shower since this baby is going to be spaced further apart from our 2 older boys. DO we have a shower after the birth so they can buy gender appropriate gifts or do we get all yellow and green outfits till the baby arrives? Anybody have creative ideas on this?
Thanks, Good Luck to all of you!
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Re: Any body not finding out the gender?

  • mohartogmohartog member
    DH & I aren't finding out the gender, though this is our first baby so it makes it a bit easier for people to do gifts as we needed pretty much everything. I will say there is more than just yellow and green clothing that is neutral (we recieved some teal, tan, gray, and lots of safari print (to match our theme) in addition). We mostly got the big ticket items (crib, stroller, etc) from people along with some bottles, toys, and a few clothes at our baby shower. The majority of our friends and family took it upon themselves to wait to send gifts until after baby is born though so they knew boy or girl. So really I think it depends on what baby essentials you still have to accommodate the first week or so.

    Hope this helps:)
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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    Ditto PP who said having another shower is tacky.  Close family still can (and probably will) buy gifts.  
    We did not find out the sex with DS (our second).  It was amazing and I loved being Team Green.  We had purchased some neutral clothes, we were given lots of sweet baby boy clothes, and he wore lots of pink onesies that belonged to DD.  It's really not that serious of a situation.  
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  • maggie515maggie515 member
    Well, as far as the shower goes..  it wasn't my idea. It was the families, if its something they want to do for us then I'm not going to refuse. In our family and circle of friends we kind of live by the "any excuse for a party" motto and just like to have a nice time. We have been to a lot of "baby sprinkles" when the mom is having  the opposite gender from the first or the baby is spaced far out. Maybe it is a local thing that is more accepted. Nobody seems to be offended by it or finds it tacky. But I will keep what you have said in mind. Thanks for your help.
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  • maggie515maggie515 member
    Not yet, there have been some hurdles we had to get over to get to where we are now. But it is something the whole family is excited about, we talk about it a lot and it came up in conversation. We were just shooting around ideas. So I thought I would ask. There is nothing wrong with being excited. When it is something that has been a long time coming I think everybody gets a little excited about what ever it is. Thanks for your input.
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  • maggie515maggie515 member
    Well, nobody is sitting at the bottom of the bed recommending sex positions or anything creepy like that. ;)LOL.  But our families are all really close and we all lean on each other for support and friendship. No, not our entire family is involved just a few choice people. There have been some deaths and births and family milestones that have opened up conversations. Its something we feel fine with sharing about our family. Not like we are giving dates or anything. Like I said, we were just shooting around ideas. Casually. When we mentioned we wanted to not find out the sex of the baby next go around, they asked how they would plan a baby shower for us around a neutral theme. I didnt know, so I came here to find out if it is done and how it was done. That's all.
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  • LucilleAusteroLucilleAustero member
    maggie515 said:
    My husband and I plan to not find out the gender of out 3rd child when we finally do conceive. I am wondering how other mommas prepare for a gender surprise baby. I know most buy gender neutral stuff, but my family had mentioned giving us a baby shower since this baby is going to be spaced further apart from our 2 older boys. DO we have a shower after the birth so they can buy gender appropriate gifts or do we get all yellow and green outfits till the baby arrives? Anybody have creative ideas on this?
    Thanks, Good Luck to all of you!

    We are not finding out the sex until the baby is born. Gender typically comes much later than birth.

    I am old school and think it is pretty tacky to have a shower after baby #1. You already have two children, showers are for welomcing mothers into motherhood. That has already happened for you. But, if wind up having a shower for your third child anyway, please register for very small items only. And do it before the baby gets here.

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  • maggie515maggie515 member
    Welp, there ya go- I didn't even see the baby shower board. Thanks for the direction. Ya, every family is different. Thanks again, ahve a nice day!
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  • conradragingconradraging member
    OP, fair warning, the baby shower board is likely not going to take too kindly to this one.

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  • CreativeD1CreativeD1 member
    There are clear and concise etiquette guidelines relative to second + baby showers, do some research and I think you will find your answer.  :)  Good luck TTC!  :)
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  • Erin0303Erin0303 member
    Team Green here! I also was team green with my DD who is 5. I love neutrals anyway, but now that she is older, a pink bomb exploded in her room. It was only tough not knowing up until 30 weeks, after that it's smooth sailing.
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  • dschneider1583dschneider1583 member
    I have yet to be team green and do not know if I ever could. But this time around if I had found out we were having a girl I still wouldn't have wanted another shower. I had one the first time around and didn't expect one this time. I would definitely turn something like that down regardless if my family would want to throw me one, even though they didn't this time.

    I get you are excited and so if your family but the road TTC can be a long one and all that. I would really start thinking about stuff like this once I was expecting. I know you want to get ideas and give ideas to your family but you also don't want them to jump the gun. I mean anything can happen.

    So as excited as everyone is you aren't even pregnant yet and I really wouldn't "plan" anything until I was.

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