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Creative way of delaying return to work?

vszappvszapp member
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DS is almost 10 weeks, and I originally said I would go back at 12 weeks. I really feel like we need a few more weeks - he still BFs every hour sometimes, plus our nanny would now be watching him and our toddler (no small feat!). I have a fairly senior level position at a biotech company, but I went P/T a few months before my maternity leave. I don't think they'll be crushed if I want to wait, but unfortunately my boss (a sr. director at a large company) returned to work 6 weeks after her second a few years ago (not sure she'll have much sympathy). Any creative ideas on how to play this? I could say that he won't take a bottle yet, but I think she knows that if you force that issue the baby will figure it out.

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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    Say that the nanny has a scheduling conflict and you won't have childcare available when you originally planned?

    Or just tell the truth, that you and LO aren't ready yet.


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  • KBowen715KBowen715 member
    PPD that may affect your work until meds kick in 2-3 weeks from now. Legally they can't judge!
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  • letal316letal316 member
    I feel your pain, I know how political these things can get and if your direct manager won't have much sympathy with you taking an extra few weeks, that really sucks. Could you say there's an issue with the nanny? Ie- she needs a few weeks off for family reasons, etc, so you need to delay going back for a few weeks.
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  • spacepotatoesspacepotatoes member
    KBowen715 said:
    PPD that may affect your work until meds kick in 2-3 weeks from now. Legally they can't judge!
    While this may work, I don't think lying about PPD to get out of returning to work is a wise choice. And is kind of insulting to those legitimately struggling with PPD.
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  • tbiscuit18tbiscuit18 member
    Just tell the truth. Personally, I'm not a fan of any type of lying unless it'll save your life.
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  • mrsbtobe20122mrsbtobe20122 member
    I think you're only legally entitled to 12 weeks FMLA per year, regardless. So you could be terminated I guess ???

    I also think it's never a good idea to lie. I'd be honest.

    Also lying about ppd would be really distasteful.


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  • BeesKnees181BeesKnees181 member
    I am stretching out my leave by returning part time for the next few weeks.  It is giving me a chance to ease back into work.

     

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  • usernewnameusernewname member
    I would go the truth route. It's your job. Lying won't get you anywhere. Especially if you use a reason then slip up down the road accidently and they put two and two together.
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  • apinkpelicanapinkpelican member
    I'd be honest and say you need 1 or 2 more weeks. Let them judge if they will. I only took 10 and am now kicking myself. Thinking of telling them I'm taking 2 more. Don't care if they are unpaid. I'm just not ready to leave her
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  • vszappvszapp member
    mrsbtobe20122 said:

    I think you're only legally entitled to 12 weeks FMLA per year, regardless. So you could be terminated I guess ???

    I also think it's never a good idea to lie. I'd be honest.

    Also lying about ppd would be really distasteful.

    To be clear, not trying to outright lie. Agree it is tacky and unnecessary. Just trying to spin it a bit so she actually sympathizes instead of getting annoyed. She will see it as a dedication issue if I don't have a legit excuse in her eyes.
    I'm in CA so my job is protected.

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    spacepotatoes said:
    KBowen715 said:
    PPD that may affect your work until meds kick in 2-3 weeks from now. Legally they can't judge!
    While this may work, I don't think lying about PPD to get out of returning to work is a wise choice. And is kind of insulting to those legitimately struggling with PPD.
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    OP, I would be honest. 

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  • KBowen715KBowen715 member
    danabsd said:


    spacepotatoes said:


    KBowen715 said:

    PPD that may affect your work until meds kick in 2-3 weeks from now. Legally they can't judge!

    While this may work, I don't think lying about PPD to get out of returning to work is a wise choice. And is kind of insulting to those legitimately struggling with PPD.

    WSS. 

    OP, I would be honest. 


    I apologize for any unintentional insensitivity. I struggled with PPD and I know it is real.
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  • Lbarron915Lbarron915 member
    Have you looked into Paid Family Leave? You can tack it on to the end of your regular maternity leave, and get (I believe) up to 6 more weeks off. This does not have job protection (in CA) but if you mention it to your supervisor, she can give you written permission to take it. That's what I did, and with the written permission, our HR lady said it serves as a sort of protection for me. 

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  • ama7165ama7165 member
    Good luck, I tried to extend my leave and was honest. My boss would not approve it and stated I was only entitled to the 12 weeks....plus she made me work my first weekend back and the fourth of July holiday. Awesome.
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