non-pregnant people just not getting it!!!

negritosmami · July 2014

anyone else dealing with people who arent pregnant/never been pregnant telling you what to do or just overall not getting it? . I can hardly eat due to constant nausea and the ONLY thing that sounded edible was these mini donuts so i tried them and my coworker got on me about "eating healthy". Then someone scoffed when i said i would not ride roller coasters. Saying how dumb that was since im only a few weeks pregnant. Anyone else feeling judged/misunderstood these days?

michelle142 · July 2014

Just don't listen to them. Problem solved!

Seriously though, unsolicited and unwelcome advice is going to come at you A TON. Just smile, nod and go about your business.

triplej9 · July 2014

Everyday! I absolutely hate when people comment on food choices during the first tri.

I am going to eat whatever the hell doesn't make me vomit.

negritosmami · July 2014

i can only imagine...sigh..that food thing just bothered me cause i already feel bad that i cant eat what i NEED to eat..definitely didnt need the reminder that i was being unhealthy to my baby smh its gonna be a lonngg 7 months if this is the norm lol

bhjones1980 · July 2014

I think this is another good reason not to tell anyone until second trimester, less time for people to be in your business.

negritosmami · July 2014

triplej9 said:

Everyday! I absolutely hate when people comment on food choices during the first tri.

I am going to eat whatever the hell doesn't make me vomit.

omgg yesssssssss!!!!you understand my SOUL loool every single thing i looked at made me wanna barf..those 4 measley donuts were the ONLY thing that looked tolerable..and i STILL threw that up so its like please..just give me a freakin break!!!

HerHighness · July 2014

Welcome to motherhood.... Where everyone in the whole fucking world has an opinion on what you are doing right and wrong. I hate to tell you but this shit will never stop.

I would have politely told her to go jump in a lake

alyssamskeens · July 2014

"My fetus, my rules"... I actually had a co-worker bitch about me because I was "only like 5 seconds pregnant" (6wks) and refusing to lift on heavy patients. Risk a m/c? I think not biotch.

jaztastic · July 2014

Nope, because I didnt tell anybody. And while my main reason is Im paranoid is hell... not having to deal with judgey people as I do what the hell I want to do, is a good reason to continue to keep it quiet. Especially at work.

negritosmami · July 2014

lmaoo i love these responses so much..thankkkk you for saying what i wanted to say but couldnt

MissEm15 · July 2014

I already had my MIL give me advice about: prenatel vitamins, running while pregnant, and what OB she recommends. Thanks, but I didn't ask... It's so annoying! I don't want to tell anyone else until the babies get here, bc I can only imagine what's coming lol. I feel your pain!

ambernicole06 · July 2014

Ugh going through the same thing... Using seasick bands for nausea and had someone ask me if those were safe for the baby.... Mentioned not doing something I would normally do at work once I heard the potential danger to my baby and then get my butt reamed saying I didn't need to be doing that stuff because it could hurt the baby and how he wouldn't let his wife do it... I want to be like NO CRAP SHERLOCK I JUST FREAKING SAID THAT!!!!!! I have also noticed that the men around me are more judgey than the women... Besides my MIL giving the "you don't need to act like your eating for 2" lectures is OH SO ANNOYING especially when I'm barely eating half of what I usually do because of te nausea. I'm glad I'm not the only one with these problems and I feel so much better after ranting

lol

aybo · July 2014

I'm so not telling anyone else yet. It's happening! My friend who has no kids never been pregnant just said she knows what kind of pregnant person I am... WTF does that mean?? Because I have off and on nausea all day. And complained.

stupid people!

NQueen11 · July 2014

My husbands Gram told me I shouldn't be driving. I know her generation didn't have to work but how does she expect me to get to my clients in today's world? Also how does my ability to drive affect my baby??? *#%$

PikoPiko · July 2014

Ask them if they've had food poisoning before and what they ate while having it. That shut up my hubby real good when he was criticizing my bagel with cream cheese.

christenld · July 2014

I am so not looking forward to this... Hopefully I will not have too many issues since I don't have many friends and no family here. I hate being told what I should and shouldn't do though. I'm only telling family and close friends. The rest of everyone can figure it out when I get enormous.

racheltherose · July 2014

I had a close friend, who has never had any other pregnant friends, tell me I was faking my symptoms (I'm 9wks tomorrow) because it was too early to feel pregnant. Uh... Yep, I'm fake hurling up everything.

PikoPiko · July 2014

RachelDeRose said:

I had a close friend, who has never had any other pregnant friends, tell me I was faking my symptoms (I'm 9wks tomorrow) because it was too early to feel pregnant. Uh... Yep, I'm fake hurling up everything.

Noticing your use of past tense in reference to this friend... did you also fake your mood swings when you tell her where to go?

negritosmami · July 2014

@RachelDeRose‌ my sis had the nerve to tell me at 6 weeks it was too early for symptom...wtf...do people even read and educate themselves before u speak smh..as far as not telling coworkers..all I can eat in crackers and ginger ale and i LIVE In the bathroom between the nasuea and the increased urination sooo there was really no way not to tell..I'm in a tiny office..its obvious. .but if you CAN wait to tell definitely do cause non preggo people suck right now lol

Paleomama · July 2014

My manager kept asking all morning what was wrong with me. I kept telling her nothing. Then she proceeded to ask one of my co-workers if she thought I was acting weird and co-worker said yes. She went back to tell me this. I told her I don't know what you want I'm just tired and I feel like I am doing really good for being in my first trimester. Then she told me she did not want to hear excuses. This really pissed me off today. I just really want her to leave me alone and stop questioning me: X(

Paleomama · July 2014

negritosmami said:
@RachelDeRose‌ my sis had the nerve to tell me at 6 weeks it was too early for symptom...wtf...do people even read and educate themselves before u speak smh..as far as not telling coworkers..all I can eat in crackers and ginger ale and i LIVE In the bathroom between the nasuea and the increased urination sooo there was really no way not to tell..I'm in a tiny office..its obvious. .but if you CAN wait to tell definitely do cause non preggo people suck right now lol

I know what you mean. Boss asked me how I was doing and I told her I have been waking up to pee more at night since I got pregnant and she told me it was all in my head.

mom2reesepiece · July 2014

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty... Eat what you can right now because that will settle your stomach (at least temporarily). Hope you feel better soon!

selly08 · July 2014

@jaztaz1‌ my reason being the same to hide it from people. Super paranoid plus I can't stand people telling me what to do and what not to do !! So
Thank God until now I haven gone through the shit of being "judged".

teachermom15 · July 2014

My parents told me that it is all in my head that I needed to accommodate food choices due to nausea at family reunion (7 wks). I ate jalapenos, grape nuts cereal, and crackers for days while everyone tried to guilt me into salads and veggies when they made me sick

cookinggirl15 · July 2014

To all you ladies read the book pregnancy sucks- it discribes all this in detail!

Biscotto · July 2014

I had a UTI last week, I began the medicine on Monday, finished it on Thursday and on Friday morning I still had pain. I was really concerned so I asked my boss if I could leave to go to the doctor. She said no, I had to wait. Finally, after being in lots of pain I told I was pregnant. Then she said "BUT DON'T YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T TAKE MEDICINE IN PREGNANCY?" . Um what? My OB was the one who prescribed me the antibiotics, she checked to make sure they were OK. I have a history of UTIs and perhaps I built up an immunity to this particular antibiotic (I've taken it many times, the last time being the beginning of June). To make it worse she said "So you're doctor doesn't know your pregnant? You didn't tell tjhem?" Why would you assume? How stupid am I to not tell my doctor that I am pregnant when prescribing a medicine? Omigod. Finally she let me go.

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rhapsody11 · July 2014

My father of all people told me I was ridiculous because I won't eat lunch meat or tuna. He thinks these rules are stupid and over the top because my sister and I turned out alright. We went through two rounds of IUI and lots of expensive diagnostic testing, so I said to him "I spent $4k on getting pregnant. I am not going to risk a miscarriage by eating deli meat!"

katelyntennis · July 2014

Totally understand! It's my first pregnancy, but I feel like dealing with people is the worst part! Maybe I'm a little off topic, but my boyfriend drives me nuts! He doesn't get the symptoms and changes I'm going through and he makes me wanna run away lol! I don't know how to get it across to him any other way!

negritosmami · July 2014

yea @katelyntennis guys sometimes dont get it..and its funny cause they are the biggest babies when they are even remotely sick..no way could they handle pregnancy so they should get over it and be a little more understanding!!

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