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NPR- Date etiquette?

MamatoA2010MamatoA2010 member
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So I'm new to the dating scene (I'm finally officially divorced, yay!) and just met this super sweet guy. We have a lot in common. He wanted me to come back to his place (after talking online for a week) and make me dinner on our second date. I'm not comfortable with that just yet... when is it appropriate to go back to a guy's house for dinner? I've only known him a week and we met on Friday and sat and talked for over 4 hours. No red flags and so far he passes my test but you can never be too safe. Thoughts?
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  • MamatoA2010MamatoA2010 member
    That's what I was thinking too @CTGirl30! When I received a text from my sister my date wanted to know if she thought I was in a bag in the trunk of my car. Maybe I'll just hang out at a public place with him and sit and chat. Thanks for your input!
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  • ShakeyJakeyShakeyJakey member
    I went to his apartment and had sex on our second date but we had been working together for 3 weeks and had hung out a lot there so I felt comfortable.

    Depends on the situation but always err on the side of safety.

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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    I am newly single too.

    I think you should go back to his place when you feel comfortable doing so.  If not on the second date-- why don't you offer alternate plans?  I think it's OK to tell him you just don't feel quite comfortable yet-- despite there being no red flags. 

    Everyone has different comfort levels, but a date like this to me would probably mean sex, or at the very least some very serious fooling around-- which is great if that's what you are ready for.  If not, I would say come up with something else more public.

    GL.  I am finding dating to be tricky this time around.

     

     

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  • WeljadraakWeljadraak member
    edited July 2014
    If you want to sex him, sex him smart.  Sex him kind.  Make him feel like his sex is important.
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    edited July 2014
    Weljadraak said:
    If you want to sex him, sex him smart.  Sex him kind.  Make him feel like his sex is important.
    Huh?

    Are those song lyrics?
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  • WeljadraakWeljadraak member
    DragonBlood13 said:
    Weljadraak said:
    If you want to sex him, sex him smart.  Sex him kind.  Make him feel like his sex is important.
    Huh?

    Are those song lyrics?
    Nah, it's like some line from "the Help" or someshit.  
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    Weljadraak said:
    DragonBlood13 said:
    Weljadraak said:
    If you want to sex him, sex him smart.  Sex him kind.  Make him feel like his sex is important.
    Huh?

    Are those song lyrics?
    Nah, it's like some line from "the Help" or someshit.  
    I'm just glad you weren't being serious.
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  • WeljadraakWeljadraak member
    DragonBlood13 said:
    Weljadraak said:
    DragonBlood13 said:
    Weljadraak said:
    If you want to sex him, sex him smart.  Sex him kind.  Make him feel like his sex is important.
    Huh?

    Are those song lyrics?
    Nah, it's like some line from "the Help" or someshit.  
    I'm just glad you weren't being serious.
    When you think about it, though, you do have to be smart about sex.   You also have to be a generous lover at times and you do have to make the person your sexing feel, at least, somewhat important.
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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    DragonBlood13 said:
    True, but I am not going pretend that a guy is good when he's not.

    I did that for 7.5 years.


    NEVER FAKE IT. EVER.



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  • WeljadraakWeljadraak member
    DragonBlood13 said:

    True, but I am not going pretend that a guy is good when he's not.


    I did that for 7.5 years.


    There is such a thing as being too kind.
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  • MamatoA2010MamatoA2010 member
    Thanks all! Date #2 tomorrow! I'll keep you guys posted (in case any of you care that much). We are going out for Chinese :)
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