"Five Reasons Modern Parenting is in Crisis"

Re: "Five Reasons Modern Parenting is in Crisis"

• vvvvvfee member

  July 2014

  well, first of all, i don't go for the hyperbole of the title. every generation since time immemorial says no one has manners anymore and the whole world is going to hell "kids today have no respect... in my day..." etc.
  
  the author seems to gloss over the realities of child development. i just don't think toddlers are capable of some of the "skills" this article suggests. i also don't think ignoring a meltdown, even if it's over something trivial, is the way to go. how about respecting our kids and listening to and validating their feelings? or modeling how we would like them to behave? yes, i agree that children shouldn't be tiny dictators, but surely we can still respect their needs and wishes as people without letting them walk all over us.
  
  i agree with a few of the points she makes, but i feel like this article was deliberately worded and titled to be sort of in-your-face. like, "let me be a little inflammatory to drive more traffic to my article and promote my new book." she makes many of the same points in this previous article (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/emma-jenner/the-top-5-worst-mistakes-american-parents-make_b_3081456.html) but the way it's presented is different.
  
  

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• PaisleyRuth member

  July 2014

  I very much agree with the article. Not in an "all of THOSE parents out THERE are doing it wrong and I've got it down" kind of way. I struggle with some of the stuff she points out as well, but I do think she's pointing out the right direction. I don't find it inflammatory or judgey. Counter-culture, yes, but I think that's her point.

  
  

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• vvvvvfee member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  saw this response article in my fb feed this morning: https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/07/07/5-reasons-modern-day-parenting-is-in-crisis-according-to-a-british-mother/
  
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• sdlaura member

  July 2014

  I agree with the overarching conclusion that we cater to our kids too much. But according to our pediatrician, letting toddlers make inconsequential decisions is important for their development. I would just try to have her pick her cup color prior to pouring in the milk. It's ok with me for stuff like that to take her preferences into account, while what I say goes on other issues, like safety ones.

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