When did you feel the desire to have sex again?

Designermomma · July 2014

I have no libido at all and my dr. said that is totally normal symptom of breastfeeding but my husband is not happy about it and is wanting me to stop BF. I've told him I will quit only after a year. We try to have sex at least once a week (to make him happy) and I am able to enjoy it but I don't need it. I feel bad for DH but I'm just so exhausted, it's the last thing I want.

CNYBride05 · July 2014

I said still waiting but it ebbs and flows. We've only had sex 2x pp.... I don't know if you can see my ticket but my girls are almost 1. Your DH is a selfish dick to pressure you to stop BFing so he has more sex.

Designermomma · July 2014

We formula fed our 1st (many reasons) so didn't have this problem 1st time around so I think his expectations are off because of that. I'm determined to make it work this time. (Even though DS2 did have formula for a week when I had to go back to the hospital)

Lena122 · July 2014

I have the desire maybe every other day (as in I think about wanting to have sex) but when it comes to actually doing it I'm always too tired. I also feel very self conscious about my PP body and just don't feel sexy at all. I think BFing has something to do with that.

No way in hell would I wean just so I might have the desire to have sex again. Like PP said, I'd be resentful and that sure as heck isn't going to make me want to do it.

jenn43 · July 2014

I had a little bit of a sex drive at about 4 weeks. This lasted for about 2 minutes, until the chronic exhaustion kicked in. :P

Guennie · July 2014

It really saddens me how selfish men can be. They are babies for such a short time, you are right to want to do the best you can for your baby while you have the opportunity. Your sex life isn't gone forever and honestly it will all go by faster than you think. I'm sorry your husband isn't being supportive.

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GerardSyreeta · July 2014

DH has been so wonderful and supportive during BF'ing it made me want to jump his bones! Your DH should think about that. Take the pressure and load off me, give me a break to shower and pull myself together and I will want the D! Selfishness and pressuring would make me dry as a dessert, I don't think ending your BF'ing relationship with your child would change a thing! Only make you resent him more.

sschwege · July 2014

I've been pregnant and/or BFing for the last 4 1/2 years, so I didn't vote because, well, I can't really remember that far back to make an accurate response. When DH and I have sex it's never really because I have a strong desire to, I more do it for him although once we get going I really enjoy it. I think I did feel more interested when AF returned with my first, but I still haven't had a postpartum AF since having DS, so again it was awhile ago. I'm not much help, sorry!