Moms of 2u2

mattanda2011 · July 2014

How are you doing it?!

I was thinking maybe we could all have a place to share our tips and tricks!

My DD is 17 months and baby is almost 4 weeks and I feel like every day is just survival! Between trying to keep DD entertained while I am nursing, to having a hard time getting out of the House I feel like a crazy person, and we are just in survival mode. I am a pretty social person by nature, but it feels so hard to get out because it's not like I can nurse the baby if we are out at the park because DD would run off like a mad woman.

So do I have any ladies that are feeling the same way? Any tricks you have figured out to make life a little easier. I think I just feel bored and like I miss adult interaction!

RedMar · July 2014

Beer and wine or wine and beer... Whichever order

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k318 · July 2014

I try to get someone to come play w ds or take him out so he can get his energy out as dd requires most of my attention right now. I make sure I spend some one on one time with him everyday, either by having someone else take care of dd or when she is sleeping. Little dude still needs his mommy hugs

On days that I don't have help it is survival mode. Ds watches more Sesame Street than I would like to admit on those days..

flerlgirl · July 2014

I cry a lot. So do my children.

steprozz · July 2014

flerlgirl said:
I cry a lot. So do my children.

This.

rainbowdashh · July 2014

flerlgirl said:
I cry a lot. So do my children.

Absolutely this. Mostly myself and DD1. It's been rough.

chloephoebecali · July 2014

I was 2u2. I would set myself up with everything I needed for the day downstairs/main floor so I wasn't going up and down my stairs with two for everything I might need. I would go places where I could keep dd in a stroller - mall, target, etc. I nursed in dressing rooms if I needed. library was okay, too. I would wear ds. I didn't have an iPhone at the time, but I think some kid apps would keep her busy if I did have to nurse in a contained location. We watched a lot of tv and had some play dates. You will get through it and it will be so rewarding. I love the age gap my kids have -19 months. They are great play mates. Don't worry about how your house looks. You won't remember how messy it was. You just need to survive.

mattanda2011 · July 2014

Well it's good to know I am not alone!

I do have my MIL who is willing to take DD out, but part of me feels guilty doing that, because they are my kids and I feel like I should be able to take care of them on my own.

We also watch a lot of TV, more than I ever thought I would let DD watch, but it keeps her entertained while I nurse.

We also try toget out of the house, but I can't imagine my DD staying happy while I nursed in a dressing room or anything like that so basically I have to be out and back between nursing sessions.

And wine...I think I'll try some of that tonight...

Hang in there ladies! We can do this!

purtz · July 2014

I have 2 under 3 and it's no picnic! Potty training regression, sassy back talk, refusing to go to bed at night. Luckily we have DD in daycare part time, so I do get some time to myself with LO.

rainbowdashh · July 2014

I ventured out to target with both kids and my sister. S threw a huge tantrum in the middle of the store and W pooped and peed through her diaper and onto me and the sling. I had to try to clean her up in the car. I'm home now, still covered in poop and pee, praying both of them fall asleep soon so I can shower and wash this afternoon off of myself.

tbmadeamistake · July 2014

C was 25 months when charlie was born, and all o can say is oof. She gets loud to get attention, and then he gets overstimulated and ends up getting loud himself. It makes for wonderful evenings.

steprozz · July 2014

@StrawberryDreams219‌ seriously babywearing is the only way I might make it through the day.

I find myself yelling a lot more than I would usually and it is really upsetting me. DS is 20 months old and really starting to push boundaries. poor Bennett just stares at me and I hate that he is hearing my voice like that rather than sweet and soothing like mommy should sound. I just don't know what else to do sometimes. this is hard.

tbmadeamistake · July 2014

@stephross88‌ me too with the yelling. Its hard and it sucks.

katekat8721 · July 2014

I just have to say, you ladies are rock stars. I know people say twins are crazy and blah blah, but really, you guys are crazy

Keep up the good work mamas and just take it one day at a time (((hugs))).

lizok22 · July 2014

purtz said:
I have 2 under 3 and it's no picnic! Potty training regression, sassy back talk, refusing to go to bed at night. Luckily we have DD in daycare part time, so I do get some time to myself with LO.

I could have have written this myself! And I am going to be a sahm, what am I in for???

mattanda2011 · July 2014

Ladies I cracked today. I signed DD up for a MDO that she will go to a few days a week in the morning. I find out more tomorrow but I think we can start as early as next week.

Part of me feels so guilty, I am at home and sending my child to a MDO, but I also feel like I will be able to be a better mom to both my kids.

Would y'all be up for a weekly 2u2 check in? Maybe just a place to celebrate a win for the week, ask questions, share things that are working, or just commiserate and share our favorite wine of the week?! I would be happy to set it up, maybe on Wednesdays if we want to do it.

lizok22 · July 2014

For those that suggest baby wearing, are you doing sling or baby bjorn?

MrsP419 · July 2014

My DS and DD are 22 months apart, so I had 2u2 for a little while. We tried to do everything together- diaper changes, getting dressed for the day, any activities both could participate in. I have photos of them laying on the floor hand in hand for diaper changes when DS was an infant and DD was not quite 2. I absolutely second letting a grandparent or friend take your older child out for some attention; it is not being a bad parent at all! It is giving her special time. My mom did special things with my DD a lot. Also, I would try to take DD for special things just the two of us in between nursing, even if it was just to get ice cream or do a bedtime story together.

Another big survival tip is to make sure you are getting rest. With 2, you can't really "sleep when baby sleeps" because there is someone else, but you can enforce a rest time. DD had a quiet time in her room during DS's morning nap sometimes, and took her own nap during his afternoon nap. I got to spend those times regaining my sanity!

Now I have 4 under 5 (DD is 4, DS is 2.5, and the twins are a month old) and it is still crazy…the mommy guilt is always there but I kind of had to get over giving everyone equal individual attention. They don't know at this age that you are spending more time with one vs. the other; you can only do your best! I still try to do special things with the big two (for example, DD and I went swimming for a little bit while my mom was watching DS and the twins while they were napping), but I have learned to give myself a lot of grace with this whole raising lots of small children. We have fun together in this crazy life, and my children all have very close in age playmates! Seriously- DD and DS are best friends ever! I have no idea what I will do when she is at preschool in the fall!

rainbowdashh · July 2014

The yelling. I feel so guilty for the yelling. I hate that I lose my temper because I know S is learning to share attention.

I wish I was closer to my family. I'm not even that far (80 miles) but it's far enough away that we see everyone maybe twice a month. S loves spending the night there but with a newborn it's just so much more.

I'm also terrified to leave the house alone.

LindsayDesigner · July 2014

lizok22 said:
For those that suggest baby wearing, are you doing sling or baby bjorn?

I know it's not the best but I have a Baby Bjorn. It was a gift and it's easy to use. Today I put DD in the umbrella stroller and put DS in the carrier. I was able to hit up a great sale and I didn't have to worry about DD running away.

As far as getting out with 2u2, just keep trying. It's hard but experiment with different set ups and find out what works.

liberty95 · July 2014

Lilygrace48 said:
C was 25 months when charlie was born, and all o can say is oof. She gets loud to get attention, and then he gets overstimulated and ends up getting loud himself. It makes for wonderful evenings.

This is my life! My son is 28 months and H and I spend most evenings trying to calm a child in separate rooms. Divide and conquer!

CJnKR2014 · July 2014

katekat8721 said:
I just have to say, you ladies are rock stars. I know people say twins are crazy and blah blah, but really, you guys are crazy Keep up the good work mamas and just take it one day at a time (((hugs))).

This!! So much this!! I couldn't imagine having to deal with the emotional side of having one child feeling left out

I am praying for all you ladies and you are all super mommas!! >:D< :x

misscarter87 · July 2014

Dd is 18months old and LO is 8 weeks old im so exhausted by 1pm everyday i have to take at least a 1hr nap luckily they both are used to napping around that time also..geez i have at least 1 drink of wine a week!!!

Hairstylist16 · July 2014

I have 2u3 and its so hard. God help me the yelling because of course were not listening and throwing fits constantly and my 1 month old refuses to be put down and she's too small for the baby carrier. I just keep hoping it gets easier.

rainbowdashh · July 2014

My sister and I are 18 months apart. Whenever I'm feeling really down my mom reminds me of this and asks if I remember how hard the transition was for myself. Nope, I don't remember. That always makes me feel a little better.

ema10 · July 2014

DS1 is 18 months and DS2 is 2.5 weeks, so I've only been on my own for a few days. It's been difficult, but I made a decision before DS2 that I would do my best to enjoy my summer with DS1 (I'm a teacher.) I'm making every effort to get out as much as possible. This can only happen during the mornings and I have to plan very carefully.

I want to wear DS2, but I didn't feel comfortable wearing him in my ring sling. Is anyone successfully using a ring sling with their newborn? I'm worried about the head support.

tbmadeamistake · July 2014

My sister said she knows a bunch of moms who have decided that their children are having a sixties/seventies summer. As in, they can drink koolaid and watch TV and eat frozen dinners and its all ok. I'm going with that approach. The behavior is still an issue, but there are some battles I'm just not willing to pick right now. You want Tarzan for the third time today, you go right ahead. You don't want half your homemade dinner because you'd rather eat another hotdog, go for it. One summer won't kill her and it makes my life easier.

tbmadeamistake · July 2014

I will say that today whenever C started getting too loud or hitting me or Charlie, I'd ask if she wanted attention. She always said yes. Once I started talking to her or having her get something for us to play with on the couch, the behavior would stop. Still a hard day, but no time outs!

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