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January 2013 Moms
martha919
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Update in OP: Guess it's just that time of year...
martha919
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My H doesn't know how to control his anger. He gets irrationally upset about the smallest things, and he throws things like scissors and knives and breaks phones and computers when he's mad. This morning he woke me up screaming at me about yet another ridiculously small thing. I told him he needed to stop talking to me like that, and he told me I need to admit that I'm wrong (?).
Anyway, long story short, at the end of the fight he told me to leave, took off and threw his wedding ring, and then told me that once I step out of the house he never wants to see me again. Wtf. So, Millie and I are staying with my parents for the time being. I'm not going back unless he agrees to therapy for his anger, or if he leaves the house. I'm so tired of shaking with fear when he's mad, waiting for the day that he hits me. On top of all of that, he's very critical and nothing I do is ever good enough.
I'm surprisingly calm and I'm actually expecting a call from my priest at some point, which would be welcome. I hope we can figure this out, but if not...well, at least my parents live close.
Thanks for listening.
***UPDATE***
I finally got to speak to DH and my priest today. DH agreed to think about counseling...I told him that I didn't think he understands how important this is. Well, he was quiet after that, but our priest called him later today and informed me I "have DHs attention", so that's good. Still have a long road, but he's always said no to counseling before, so this is progress.
We're home now after having fun with Nanna and my sister. DD slept horribly so hopefully tonight is better with her in her own bed. :-)
Anyway, long story short, at the end of the fight he told me to leave, took off and threw his wedding ring, and then told me that once I step out of the house he never wants to see me again. Wtf. So, Millie and I are staying with my parents for the time being. I'm not going back unless he agrees to therapy for his anger, or if he leaves the house. I'm so tired of shaking with fear when he's mad, waiting for the day that he hits me. On top of all of that, he's very critical and nothing I do is ever good enough.
I'm surprisingly calm and I'm actually expecting a call from my priest at some point, which would be welcome. I hope we can figure this out, but if not...well, at least my parents live close.
Thanks for listening.
***UPDATE***
I finally got to speak to DH and my priest today. DH agreed to think about counseling...I told him that I didn't think he understands how important this is. Well, he was quiet after that, but our priest called him later today and informed me I "have DHs attention", so that's good. Still have a long road, but he's always said no to counseling before, so this is progress.
We're home now after having fun with Nanna and my sister. DD slept horribly so hopefully tonight is better with her in her own bed. :-)
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Re: Update in OP: Guess it's just that time of year...
Henry Cavill...You're welcome!
BFP #3: EDD 1/10/13 **DS born 12/30/12!!!**
BFP #2: MC 7/2/11 @ 12 weeks
**Missing our February '12 LoveBug**
BFP #1: MMC discovered on 12/6/10
I am so sorry @martha919 and I hope that you know you have support here to continue to be strong. That kind of anger is just scary and can escalate so easily. Stay safe and keep posting!
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
IVF FET - BFP, due April 2017
On the other hand, I've had quite the relaxing evening with my parents and sister who's home from school for the summer, and DDs been thoroughly entertained by their dogs and cat all day. I guess that's good.
This just blows. I did try calling this evening but he didn't answer.
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14