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Induction tomorrow having scary thoughts

JenyB6JenyB6 member
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I am 37wks and will be induced tomorrow due to concerns about swellingnd movement. We just moved into a new place and still unpacking. My mom has been visiting for 3 wks waiting for this. I am scared about my labor and also with my older kids. I have thoughts about sleepless nights and wonder how I will have time for my boys. Did we go and ruin our family dynamic by deciding to add another baby or 2. My DH looked at me last night and said " have you ever met someone who regretted there children?
" he is right. I just can not help with these thoughts also, I am hoping I will have a stronger bond with them once they are out. Been so busy feel like this time have been lacking that. Sorry but don't know where else to turn. I do love all my kids so please don't think that I don't.
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Re: Induction tomorrow having scary thoughts

  • jeephappygirljeephappygirl member
    It's totally normal for you to feel this way. Your family's dynamics will change but its a good change. I felt the same way. DD was 2.5 yrs old and didn't understand we were taking the babies home. They are 8 mo and she adores them. It's not going to be easy but everyone adjusts. Make sometime for each kid. Even of its 15 min. Make sometime for yourself too.

    We had some major legal issues my whole pregnancy and I didn't have all the happy belly rubbing moments that I had with the first. But once I held those tiny babies I was in love. In the first few weeks had some doubts. Wondered how the heck we were going to survive. Wouldn't change it now.

    Be easy on yourself. You have a lot going on. The hormone roller coaster is not fun.
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  • MissMarneeMissMarnee member
    Everytime I get anxious about things working out in the future I angst about it to the point of madness & then it turns out things always work out differently than I imagine & almost always much more positive than my in my imagination. Knowing you'll be birthing some babies in the next 24 hours has got to be overwhelming all on its own!
    I'll bet you'll look at those two new little faces & your husband will have to remind you you ever had these doubts. : ) I wish you the best of luck with your labor & with assimilating the two newest member of your family--it may feel unfamiliar for a minute, but I'll bet everything will fall into place & you'll all forget there was ever another way...
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  • diz1313diz1313 member
    I think every expecting parent has doubts of some form or another. But I find it is VERY rare that those doubts manifest and stick around after the babies come and everyone adjusts. Most parents end up loving and cherishing their children and don't look at them with regret. So yes, you may have doubts and fears and such..... just like everyone else. But the likelihood of them lasting is small.
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    Also, best of luck for tomorrow! You will do great!!
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  • JenyB6JenyB6 member
    diz1313 said:

    Also, best of luck for tomorrow! You will do great!!

    Thank you just kind of needed to get it off my chest in a place without judgment and possibly not feel alone.
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  • ANGnJONANGnJON member
    I have no personal experience to advise you with on adding additional kiddos to the family, sorry. Although in speaking with friends & family who have been in your situation, I think your feelings are completely normal! I just wanted to wish you the best of luck tomorrow!
    Me: 37, DH: 42 Married March 22, 2003 TTC since early 2006, Fertility treatments since 02/2013 First Pregnancy with Twins EDD 10.24.2014
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  • JenyB6JenyB6 member
    Thanks so much ladies. I will let you all know tomorrow how it goes. Just need to remember one day at a time.
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  • FaeryStarGazerFaeryStarGazer member
    I'd probably think you were more of a freak if you *weren't* panicking about this stuff. It's totally normal to feel like you're on the edge of a mental break. You have a lot of really stressful and worrisome things going on, but I pinkey promise, you're not messing up your other kids. Your stuff will get unpacked some day and your babies will be totally fine :)
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  • shaunah816shaunah816 member
    I posted a similar "I'm having the babies tomorrow and I'm freaking out!" post in here the night before my scheduled C section with the boys. Everything you're feeling is SO normal. Right now the family dynamic and everything else is an unknown, so of course it's terrifying. The second my husband brought over my Baby A during surgery all those fears just flew right out of my heart, because I was so in love and excited. The next few months or longer are going to be hard, but you'll get through it and every day will get a little easier and the larger family will "gel" more. 

    I'm so excited that you get to meet your babies tomorrow! You're going to love it!
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