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Sleep failure

ns1ns1 member
in May 2014 Moms
I had it easy with my dd. The girl slept well! Ds is another story. I feel like a failure at six weeks still. Like I never know what he wants. He is either eating, sleeping (forcibly and on someone), or crying.

For naps it takes about 10-20 minutes of me deciding it's time and then wrapping him, walking with a screaming baby, and praying. Once he falls asleep I cannot set him down.

Bedtime is hit or miss. We may get one "long" stretch of 2-3 houre and maybe one more 2 hours after that then 1 hour. Or we may just end up sleeping with the kid on us somehow.

Anyone experIence the same?

Not sure the reason for the post really. Maybe just to vent or to hear there's still hope it something. Thanks for humoring me!
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Re: Sleep failure

  • usernewnameusernewname member
    Your not alone. DS is awful at day time sleeping.

    The general consensus is that it does get better. I am right there hoping with you!
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  • jcf2133jcf2133 member
    My SIL swears that if we continue to swaddle LO, she will sleep for longer stretches of time... Something about a natural startle reflex not kicking in and waking the baby as much. Luckily for us, LO is already a good sleeper most days and I don't really want her sleeping in any longer stretches- kid needs to eat! But maybe that'd help your LO?
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  • apinkpelicanapinkpelican member
    Ugh sorry you are dealing with this. I can't complain I guess since I will get longer stretches overnight (3-5.5 hrs) but LO is 7 weeks today and will not sleep during the day. In the evening she is super fussy and I know just over tired. Usually I can get her down ok at night but for some reason I can't get her down tonight. Wonder if it is something with 7 weeks?
    Hope you at least start getting longer stretches at night.
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  • bossyfergbossyferg member
    Im in the same boat almost the same pattern but sometimes he will nap in his bassinet once a day snd time varies. I am just starting to read a sleep book with hopes it helps. GL you find a solution that works for you.
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  • anationsanations member
    I'm so sorry and can very well relate. I feel I have got so much advice but we just have to hang in there and keep trial and error. I think every baby is different. Not that all advice is bad. Some will be helpful just have to figure out which. There are glimmers of light here and there with mine, but sleep is still hard to come by.
    I have the same feelings of failure, but I must say, the more sleep I get, the more I feel better about myself. I think sleep deprivation plays with us more than we think! Hang in there. What we are doing is extroidinary and extremely hard. You/we are doing as best we can and our babies will be ok! From what I hear, we will get more sleep one day! I can't wait!!! Hugs all around. Be proud of making it this far and all you have done for your baby.

     

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  • giggler25giggler25 member
    I too can relate....I cannot get my DD to sleep during the day, unless I'm holding her.  She doesn't do carriers (she SCREAMS!), she hates being swaddled, and any time I put her down in her swing or anything else during the day when she's sleeping she immediately wakes up.  At night, she doesn't pretty well sleeping in her RnP next to my bed, but only for 2-3 hour stretches at a time.  Still, I wonder why she can do that during the night and not during the day!  She's 6.5 weeks old so I'm *hoping* something will magically change.  GL and hang in there!!


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  • yepyepsmsyepyepsms member
    edited July 2014
    Sorry, I know it stinks! Both my kids are/were the same way. With my daughter I luckily can get her to nap while I wear her but I kinda just gave up the idea that I can put her down for naps. And it's always a struggle to get her to fall asleep. My son was the same exact way and it wasn't until he started going to daycare at three months that he napped slightly better or fell asleep easier. Then when he moved rooms around six months they put the kids down for a nap at 9am and 1pm so at that time we could easily put him down at those times on the weekends. So my only advice if you've tried all the other advice like trying to put down early, swaddling, wearing, etc it probably "is what it is" for a few more weeks and with time it will get easier and more predictable (and not on you). If your LO will go to daycare that will help so much, or if he will stay home you can try some nap training in a couple months. Some LOs are just not ready at this age. Hang in there and know you are not alone.

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  • ns1ns1 member
    Thanks for the commiseration and ideas!  We do swaddle (and many of the other S's from Happiest Baby).  I just tried to add a bath and a slightly earlier bedtime last night with no real luck...but maybe if I keep at it it will help.  I did get a little nap by swaddling DS with the swaddle part that comes off the halo swaddle sack and setting him in the bouncy seat!  Yay!  It looked like I had the kid in some medieval torture machine, but he slept!  

    Here's to hoping it gets better!
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