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TTC After a Loss
beemaya83
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Intro (loss and friends pregnancy mentioned)
beemaya83
member
Hi ladies and happy 4th to you all! It's been a little over 5 months since we lost our little angel. It was extra hard for me because around that same time, my brother announced he was going to be a daddy for the first time! DH and I decided not to tell him and his girlfriend about our loss. If things couldn't get worse, it seems like each month I have been finding out that friends, and friends of friends are getting pregnant, which makes me feel horrible. My brothers g/f will be having her baby shower this month and I can't help thinking that this could have been me (I feel selfish). Anyway, DH and I are have started to TTC this month. I've been a little negative about the whole thing. I'm just so afraid that what we went through will happen again. We have decided not to tell anyone that we are TTC.
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
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Re: Intro (loss and friends pregnancy mentioned)
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
DS2 born 2/22/13
MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
DD due 5/9/15 Please be our RAINBOW
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
I particularly like how you said it. I will try to remember it next time I get worried about tomorrow.
3rd pregnancy -- 1st baby -- praying for a rainbow
#1 EDD 5/2014 -- MMC 10weeks ~~ #2 EDD 10/2014 -- Our baby girl, born sleeping 17weeks ~~ #3 EDD 8/2015
My Ovulation Chart
My Ovulation Chart
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
Welcome, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been hanging out here, too, for a while silently. I'm glad we're becoming active members!
I totally feel for you with all of your friends and family announcing pregnancies--I've been through the same thing. I feel like shouting "Can I get a little sensitivity here, please?!" As the other ladies said, your emotions are totally normal and valid, so just do what feels right to you, whether it's not replying or deleting from your inbox etc. In terms of future pregnancy fears, I really found it helpful to lurk on the PGAL board for how those ladies are coping. They have a lot of good ideas, and it makes me feel more brave!
Me (34); DH (35)
BFP 11/25/13; Heard strong heartbeats for 3 weeks; Natural MC (1/15/14)
BFP 11/11/14 EDD 07/21/15 hoping for our rainbow!
Hi and welcome. I agree, try not to feel guilty. I think your feelings are very valid.
(As a side note, it seems we m/c on the same day in January. I was 10 weeks.)
natural m/c and d&c at 10 weeks - 1/24/2014
DX w/ hetero C677t and A1298C MTHFR - 3/4/2014
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)