TTC and wedding planning

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

Hello all! My fiancé and I were talking and may change our TTC plans. Originally we were going to wait until the cycle in which we were getting married to start trying, but we think we may want to start a little earlier. We are getting married 9/6/14 so I'd only be two months at the most if I got pregnant right away.

My question is for anyone who has been pregnant before...

Do you think that you would have liked to be pregnant at your wedding? I'm not a drinker, at all. I actually hate the taste of alcohol. So I'm just wondering if, based on your pregnancy experiences, you would have enjoyed your wedding as much if you happened to be pregnant.

-T- · July 2014

Based on my experience? Nope. I was nauseous and bloated so I would not have enjoyed myself at my wedding. 2nd or 3rd trimester, heck yes, I felt great! I also would have been pretty ticked on my honeymoon if I wasn't able to eat whatever seafood I wanted. Everyone is different though!

VeggieFan · July 2014

jefa621 said:

Never been pregnant but I wouldn't do it if I had the choice. What if you have horrible morning /all day sickness? That would suck.

Exactly, I wouldn't want to have to worry about being sick.

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

-T- said:
Based on my experience? Nope. I was nauseous and bloated so I would not have enjoyed myself at my wedding. 2nd or 3rd trimester, heck yes, I felt great! I also would have been pretty ticked on my honeymoon if I wasn't able to eat whatever seafood I wanted. Everyone is different though!

Oh I didn't even think about the seafood! Sandals in the Bahamas has a great seafood restaurant on the pier...
Something to think about......

KingLED · July 2014

I would have skipped my own wedding if I was in my first trimester. I always get terribly ill and exhausted. It would have made having fun and enjoying it all a lot harder.

Jags8 · July 2014

I was sick enough from nerves on my wedding day. I'd have hated to have morning (all day) sickness on top of it. Then you can eat whatever you want, and drink if you decide to.

-T- · July 2014

mrs2mommy92 said:

Based on my experience? Nope. I was nauseous and bloated so I would not have enjoyed myself at my wedding. 2nd or 3rd trimester, heck yes, I felt great! I also would have been pretty ticked on my honeymoon if I wasn't able to eat whatever seafood I wanted. Everyone is different though!
Oh I didn't even think about the seafood! Sandals in the Bahamas has a great seafood restaurant on the pier... Something to think about......

We went on the cruise to the Bahamas! You will have so much fun! Seafood is the only reason I'm considering holding off TTC until after our vaca later this summer. I love fresh seafood! Yum

Bee1112 · July 2014

Based on my experience I would have been fine besides the exhaustion. I had no morning sickness at all. I only felt sick if I needed to eat. I don't drink a lot but my wedding was an exception. As the night wore on I drank a lot. But I would have been just as happy if I hadn't drank.

I also drank on my honeymoon. If I was pregnant I couldn't have done some of the things we did like climb a waterfall and swim with dolphins.

Everyone is different. Do what you feel is best for you! Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

FWIW and I'm are it makes no difference to you but we started TTC as soon as we got home from our honeymoon.

All this being said I still would wait to TTC. But that's just me.

AllElseFails · July 2014

I would not have wanted to be pregnant at my wedding. At all. I am a drinker but aside from that, it's hard to predict how you will feel in your first trimester (or second, or third). I had two fairly straightforward pregnancies but still felt like I for hit by a truck by 8 pm for the first 3 months.

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

-T- said:

mrs2mommy92 said:

-T- said:
Based on my experience? Nope. I was nauseous and bloated so I would not have enjoyed myself at my wedding. 2nd or 3rd trimester, heck yes, I felt great! I also would have been pretty ticked on my honeymoon if I wasn't able to eat whatever seafood I wanted. Everyone is different though!
Oh I didn't even think about the seafood! Sandals in the Bahamas has a great seafood restaurant on the pier...
Something to think about......

We went on the cruise to the Bahamas! You will have so much fun! Seafood is the only reason I'm considering holding off TTC until after our vaca later this summer. I love fresh seafood! Yum

I can't wait! I'm so excited to go on my honeymoon!! I really do have to consider everything. I never even thought about the seafood thing.

Or the fact of being bloated. I can't even fit a cheesburger in my dress with me. Haha

divinemsbee · July 2014

I wasn't pregnant at my wedding, but my MOH had a 'surprise' pregnancy and she was about 6 weeks. She had a blast, some of my favorite pictures are of us dancing, but my wedding was at 2pm with a heavy hors d'oeuvres (I think I spelled that right) and was over by 8pm. Also, this was her third child, so she kind of had an idea of what it might be like. I think if I was doing the dinner and dancing whole she-bang she probably would have had to ditch out early.

We started kind of trying (basically just ditched protection) the cycle right before our wedding (so I would have barely been 4 weeks). I think I would have been okay, the little bit I have been pregnant I was mainly tired with PMS symptoms, which I had anyway because my wedding day was CD1.

Bee1112 · July 2014

PenguinMG said:

divinemsbee said:

I wasn't pregnant at my wedding, but my MOH had a 'surprise' pregnancy and she was about 6 weeks. She had a blast, some of my favorite pictures are of us dancing, but my wedding was at 2pm with a heavy hors d'oeuvres (I think I spelled that right) and was over by 8pm. Also, this was her third child, so she kind of had an idea of what it might be like. I think if I was doing the dinner and dancing whole she-bang she probably would have had to ditch out early.

We started kind of trying (basically just ditched protection) the cycle right before our wedding (so I would have barely been 4 weeks). I think I would have been okay, the little bit I have been pregnant I was mainly tired with PMS symptoms, which I had anyway because my wedding day was CD1.

CD1 would have been miserable. CD1 for me was the last day of our honeymoon and I pretty much spent the whole day in the jacuzzi tub watching movies.

I was CD2 on my wedding day. It sucked. CD1 started at my rehearsal dinner.

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

Trickyjedi said:
We're wedding date twins!!!
FI and I talked about this for a while and decided to wait until the after the actual wedding to really start TTC. I don't know how I would feel being pregnant so we didn't want to chance it. Now if we had had a miscalculation with timing, like last month, then we would have still gone through with the same plans.

Yay!!! Congrats

. It's coming up so soon !

Yeah, it's a lot to think about. I think I just have super baby fever !!

KatzKiss · July 2014

I was sick as a dog at 2 months. I hate to say it but no, I wouldn't have enjoyed myself. Sorry.

luvbunny · July 2014

Our wedding day was an amazing but absolutely exhausting day. Sickness aside, some in their First Tri experience extreme fatigue. No way in hell I could have made it through our day with that symptom, let alone all the rest that come along with being PG.

TheBorg7of9 · July 2014

No, I would not have liked that.

MiraK03 · July 2014

No thank you! I felt horrible my entire pregnancy would want to add the stress of a wedding on top of that.

ImJessesGirl · July 2014

I WAS pregnant at my first wedding. It was killer... I spent the whole thing trying not to throw up in front of everyone.

BillyHorrible · July 2014

I had a fabulous first pregnancy - no sickness, no fatigue, and I still wouldn't have wanted to be pregnant at my wedding! First, because I was the exception, not the rule. Every other person I know was exhausted and/or sick during first trimester and morning sickness isn't just in the morning. Not to mention food aversions, the constant need to use the restroom, and the irrational food desires. (I was just talking to a friend about how we cried during pregnancy because we'd get hungry and needed to eat immediately). I personally wanted to enjoy the food I'd picked out, the dress I'd been fitted for, and the people without worrying about being sick, bloated, or interrupting the ceremony because I needed to eat.right.now.

There's also a lot of stress both with wedding planning and first trimester. I was a hysterical basket-case in the weeks/days leading up to my wedding just dealing with all the last minute things that inevitably go wrong. The risk of miscarriage is higher then than at later stages, and I know that was constantly on my mind those first few weeks. Putting these two stressful times together seems like it would multiply your stress levels exponentially to the point you wouldn't be able to fully enjoy either.

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

Thanks everyone for your replies! It really does make me take a step back and think about things. I really just think, as I said in an above reply, that I'm getting baby fever (even more intense than I usually have it). I keep trying to tell myself "what's two more months?" Or "only three more periods to go!".

All of you are right. One step at a time, and one stressor at a time. Hopefully the wedding will be here before I know it. And, according to my past cycles, my fertile week will most likely be when we are on our honeymoon in the Bahamas!

URMySunshine77 · July 2014

I had morning sickness for about two weeks, but I was bone tired for much of the first trimester. It sounds like torture having to meet and greet people all night while pregnant when all you want to do is put on your pajama pants and bring your jumbo water glass to bed.

gscoville · July 2014

I was pregnant for my wedding to my ex husband, 5 months along and still puking my guts out pretty much every damn day. Given the nerves I experienced on my wedding day, it made my 'morning' sickness that much worse, not to mention having to pee all the time and experiencing what I will delicately call 'nervous bowels' due to all the stress on top of my pregnancy. My most prominent memory from my wedding day was my maid of honour holding my veil and/or dress out of the toilet each time I had to throw up, pee, or dump, all of which happened way, way too often. And can you say exhausted?? We didn't have wedding sex either that night or for over a week after while I recovered. Kind of speaks volumes for where that marriage eventually headed, but that's another story entirely. Needless to say, that wasn't the happiest day of my life!

amus112904 · July 2014

Never beem pregnant. I remember on my wedding day I was so tired by the end. I've heard when your pregnant ypu can be exhausted. I would wait until ypu get married and enjoy you wedding but t h at up tp you.

acire86 · July 2014

I vomited for the entire first tri with DD so no i would not want to have gotten married while KU. But you may be totally different and have no sickness. And i was fall on my face exhausted through my whole pregnancy. Also i didnt read all the replys so a PP may have said this but when i was KU i didnt want sex at all, my sex drive disappeared completely.

acire86 · July 2014

Double post

Beevol · July 2014

My personal experience of being 8 weeks pregnant was barfing, tired, and generally feeling like a sack of death. If I had been 8 weeks pregnant at my wedding, I would not have been able to attend my wedding.

theholmanherd · July 2014

I've never been pregnant, but not being pregnant isn't a guarantee you will have a perfect wedding. I woke up the morning of my wedding with terrible food poisoning. I boot and rallied right before and ended up being okay. I know at least two other people that were throwing up for non-pregnancy related issues on their big days as well. I wouldn't go out of your way to be pregnant, but I would prevent it either. You never know what will happen.

FitMom3510 · July 2014

Maybe start temping and taking PNV now that way you are building up a good history on FF and getting your body ready with the vitamins then start TTC after the wedding. Congrats btw : D

Katelobster · July 2014

I had a threatened miscarriage (cramping and bleeding) at 6 weeks, and again at 8 weeks. The wait to see if everything was going to be OK or if I'd lose the baby was agonizing and I avoided people, and life in general, as much as possible for weeks. If that had happened right before my wedding, I don't even know what I would have done with myself. Hence another vote for waiting.

delujm0 · July 2014

I wasn't really concerned about being pregnant on my wedding day...because we took precautions to avoid that. But, even though i KNEW that it takes the body a few months after coming off of the pill to get on a regular cycle, and i KNEW i wated to TTC almost immediately, i refused to even go off of the pill before my wedding. My period was always painful and unpredictable before the pill, and i was terrified that if i went off the pill before the wedding i'd get my period on either my wedding day or (not as bad, but still lame) my honeymoon. So instead i stayed on the pill, planned it out so i'd have my last "pill period" starting on the Monday before my wedding and ending on Thursday, and then I stopped taking it. I was able to make it so i wouldn't have to deal with my period until i was back at home after the honeymoon.

This was super fortunate, because my first non-pill period was short, but PAINFUL. honestly, for me, i'd be concerned about being pregnant at the wedding (sickness, etc) but JUST as concerned about getting my period at the wedding. You never know what your cycles will be like when you go off the pill. So before you give it up, i'd consider all of your options, and what is most important to you.

I am saying this as a person who had literally 0% stress in the weeks leading up to the wedding because i hired a full-service wedding planner, and basically had to do nothing but go pick up my dress and get my nails done. If that's not your situation, i'd proceed with even more caution that i did.

PrimRoseMama · July 2014

I would have hated being pg at my wedding. I don't drink hardly at all. It was never about the booze. I felt like shit during first trimester. I wouldn't want my wedding day spent like that.

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