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Anyone else's DH pissing them off??

*sparky**sparky* member
in April 2014 Moms
Can we commiserate? Mine is being such a grouchy PITA I can barely stand him. He is constantly griping at me and DS (older kid) but if we say anything he doesn't like/agree with he gets totally pissy. I am seriously ready to trade him in on a new model. He is not even getting up in the middle of the night- I have handled every single night waking for the past 2.5 months.

Also I am supposed to go back to work in one week and he was supposed to try to get home early at least 2 days/week but he has not managed to get home before 7 pm. But he doesn't want to talk about it or "worry about it yet". SMH

 

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Re: Anyone else's DH pissing them off??

  • RedDawnsRevengeRedDawnsRevenge member
    edited July 2014
    Sounds like he's having a case of IMS.

    Edit: why can't I spell?
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  • Grace682Grace682 member
    I'm in the same boat! I feel your pain.
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  • MamaFantasticMamaFantastic member
    Could he be depressed? Is the behavior new?
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @MamaFantastic‌ - he has issues with his job and is extremely stressed out. We have gone through periods of this before. He knows he is miserable but doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

    I think he is also stressed about me going back to work because I carry most of the burden at home now and that will change.

     

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  • Jennick602Jennick602 member
    I feel your pain- I'm trying so hard to remember what I love about this guy!! Adaptions need to take place!!
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    We did so well the first month too. I really think it is the impending stress if me going back to work combined with his work stress. Still doesn't give him an excuse to act like a jerk.

    Oh and add another TP for him because his parents are coming to visit this week and he is not taking any time off. I could actually cry over this.

     

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  • nursewinnienursewinnie member
    I think it's normal to be pissed off at our significant others at this point. Everything my DH does annoys the piss out of me! It's not even necessarily his fault. Sometimes I can't stand the way he breathes! It's ridiculous I know. I believe it's hormones, life changing, etc. I have had to make a concerted effort to back off when he does things with LO because he does it all so backwards but it seems to work ok so I need to just chill the f out. I'm sure your situation is slightly different simply because it sounds like he's got more going on in his mind, and he's doing more than being annoying. Just try to deep breathe and remind yourself this is temporary and everything should level itself out eventually.
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  • ambarnett1ambarnett1 member
    My DH is the same way. I think he is just stressed out from his job. It sucks, but it can only get better. I would talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.

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  • macynsnoopmacynsnoop member
    Uh ya, I'm ready to be done with mine. We were doing ok for the last week or so & we had a great day today. Then, baby starts the nightly scream fest, of course I get the handoff. I start doing the 5 S's, just how I have since little guy was born. Hubs comes in yelling "his head is flopping, stop doing that"! I was totally flabbergasted, little guys head was not flopping at all, it was securely in my elbow crook! Well we start yelling at each other & he leaves the room. Fast fwd an hour later & I'm putting little guy to bed & he proceeds to lay into me again. So over it, I can't even believe he would suggest that I would hurt our kid! The room was dark so I don't know what the hell he thinks he saw. At any rate we aren't talking & I'm sleeping in the spare room tonight. Maybe for the foreseeable future too. To top it off I just got up to nurse little guy & my dickhead hubs comes in to oversee it, wtf??! I guess there is zero trust between us, this has certainly come out of the blue & is a new reason that he just pisses me off these days.
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  • pleasantsargpleasantsarg member
    Yep.

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  • Laroo0220Laroo0220 member
    Yep. right there with you. My dh was sick the past couple days and we were leaving for a 5 hr trip to my parents. Needless to say I packed both kids bags, packed the car, drove all 5 hrs, stopped and got the kids out along the way for dinner so he could sleep, unloaded the car when we arrived at 11pm, stayed up until 1 am washing diapers and still had him bitching the whole way. No thank you either. I wanted to freaking kill him. Like literally. I know it's supposed to be in sickness and in health but damn, he sucks as a sick person.
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  • manda10884manda10884 member
    I'm feeling the same way! I can count on one hand the number of times he has gotten up in the middle of the night to help and LO is 10 wks! He also barely holds her- if she even starts to whimper he passes her off to me after I've had her all day already! He doesn't help out with any house work- he cooks but won't clean up his mess and leaves it for me to clean! Every night he's outside making stupid bows and arrows that he's going to "sell" instead of inside helping with bath time or heck even holding LO for 5 seconds. I'm about at my whits end, I can't take it anymore! I try to be nice and stay calm but it just doesn't help. Tonight I came out from nursing LO and he tells me his mom text him and told him we need to go to their house more often because lo knows my parents too well (hello you could make a small effort and come to see her every once in a while) I tried to have a conversation with him about it and he just sat there staring at the cat- no response or headshake or anything! Yes I did tell him he needs to grow some balls and stand up to his mom which made him mad so I probably shouldn't have said it but he just frustrates me so much! I hope this phase passes quickly, I can't take much more! I feel like he's pissy because we haven't had sex yet but how in the hell am I supposed to want to have sex with someone who's so pissy and doesn't help with anything, I'm exhausted at the end of the day! Sorry tmi! Sorry for the long rant!

     

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  • Jennick602Jennick602 member
    ^^ this is exactly like my life!! Take out bows and arrows insert fish tank!!
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  • CatherineDC2012CatherineDC2012 member
    ^^^^holy shit I seriously just got so frustrated for you, both of you. Wtf is with these guys? We al have our own battles but can you get their attention maybe by taking off for half a day and letting them hang with LO to see how hard it is? Holy bananas I want to TP them on your behalf. Hang in there!! LO will get easier and just know you're a hero taking good care of them and dealing with your hubs.
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  • Dahlia414Dahlia414 member
    All. The. Time.
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  • janellemj928janellemj928 member
    Every time DD was tired this weekend as I was handing her off to DH I would tell him she needed to sleep. I kid you not, every time I came back to check on them after a half hour, he's not even attempting to help her to sleep. Seriously dude, I told you the kid needed a nap!! So I would steal her back and she would be overtired, which means wearing her is the only way to accomplish sleep. I ended up sweaty all weekend wearing the baby while he was off playing horseshoes with the guys. So much for my fun camping trip!
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  • selina1113selina1113 member
    DH took out the bottle bag of 4 bottles of pumped BM & left it out ALL night. I seriously almost cried when I found it. It smells ok so I do not think it is spoiled, that is THE most important thing in the fridge & he forgot to put it back after stocking his beer! I am beyond pissed, I am disgusted.
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @selina1113‌ - 4 bottles - holy crud that is awful. I would totally cry over that. I am sorry. :-(

     

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  • Grace682Grace682 member
    Take out bows and arrows insert video games!
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  • olenkapdxolenkapdx member
    This morning SO informs me that my bike is gone.  AKA, it was stolen out of the garage.  Because he leaves the garage door and side door open all the time for tweakers to come in and help themselves!  UGH!!  Guess ya owe me a new bike, dude.  X(
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @olenkapdx‌ - oh that sucks. I am sorry. My DH insisted on leaving our garage door open until we went to bed for a long time, even after we got a notice that someone was stealing things out of people's garages, his GPS was stolen out of his car in the driveway, and a dead body was found in a car on the construction site at the end of our street. And he wouldn't even lock the door to the house.

    It wasn't until there was another scary police incident in our 'hood a few weeks ago that he realized there are freaky people everywhere and he better start closing our doors.

    Sorry your DH had to learn this lesson the hard way. Will insurance cover it?

     

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  • olenkapdxolenkapdx member
    @*sparky* Thankfully your husband has gotten the message!  I had a "come to Jesus" talk with my SO this morning about the importance of locking doors when living in the city, and hopefully it sinks in for him too.  He grew up in the country where they never locked doors.  We've had a car broken into and wheels stolen off that same bike so you'd think by now he'd get it. 

    I have a call in to my insurance company but I doubt it's worth filing a claim.
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @olenkapdx‌ - lol, we are the opposite. We moved here from the city and live in a fairly nice neighborhood that is way off the beaten path. So I think DH just felt like nothing would ever happen out here.

     

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  • olenkapdxolenkapdx member

    *sparky* said:
    @olenkapdx‌ - lol, we are the opposite. We moved here from the city and live in a fairly nice neighborhood that is way off the beaten path. So I think DH just felt like nothing would ever happen out here.
    I guess no place is immune to crime!  :(    If nothing else, it's a wake up call to be more careful about securing our belongings and keeping the house/garage locked, I guess.
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