First pregnancy and I found out very late. my experience so far.

Re: First pregnancy and I found out very late. my experience so far.

• Hoshikitsune member

  July 2014

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hello,I've been reading these boards for two months now (it's been helpful!) so I thought I would join and share my experience. Any feedback/support or similar experiences would be appreciated As of today, July 4th 2014 I am 38 weeks and 2 days! This pregnancy has been a whirlwind...I found out I was pregnant at aproximately 22 weeks (has anyone found out when they were already that far along??) That may sound like total ignorance to find out so late but to avoid judgement I'll explain, my symptoms were ALL explained away by previous medical issues.I've always had an irregular cycle and as of January in 2013 it had completely stopped, not even the slightest spotting. I was told by my Dr that this was normal for thin, stressed women so i didn't really worry, and obviously not having a period was no indication when i DID get pregnant (approximately Nov 2013). My "morning sickness" was also explained away. Due to gastritis, ulcers and acid reflux i had spent the previous two years of my life vomiting daily. So when my vomiting and stomach upset increased in November 2013 (apparently during my first trimester) i was told that i needed to see a Stomach specialist because the lining of my stomach was possibly eroded. I had also just experienced a death in the family so stress was again blamed. I also suffered intense lower back pain november 2013 to January 2014 but due to having scoliosis i was again told by my dr that this was normal for my body. It wasnt until March of 2014 that i noticed any weight gain, and realized it was focused on my hip and stomach area. This worried me because ovarian cysts have been common in the women in my family but i decided to take a pg test just in case, which came up positive. An appointment with my obgyn the next week confirmed my pregnancy but my boyfriend and i were shocked to learn that they estimated the baby from 21-23 weeks!!! I've never felt such a strong combined mixture of guilt and excitement. Im 23 years old and was not living the lifestyle a pregnant woman would live. This breaks my heart because if i would have known sooner i would have done so many things differently. I recall drinking beer on occasion, a few mimosas and mixed drinks during my 1st and 2nd trimesters as well as smoking medical marijuana (im in Cali) daily. According to all the tests done our baby girl was a tough little one and appears very healthy and well developed but as her due date nears my anxiety grows. I just want her to be healthy and happy, she's the biggest surprise of my life but I already love her more than my own life. If anyone has gone through something similar with a positive birth and healthy baby i would love to hear! Also I'm planning for a natural hospital birth, she's due this July 16th

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  July 2014 edited July 2014

  Hoshikitsune said:

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hello,I've been reading these boards for two months now (it's been helpful!) so I thought I would join and share my experience. Any feedback/support or similar experiences would be appreciated As of today, July 4th 2014 I am 38 weeks and 2 days! This pregnancy has been a whirlwind...I found out I was pregnant at aproximately 22 weeks (has anyone found out when they were already that far along??) That may sound like total ignorance to find out so late but to avoid judgement I'll explain, my symptoms were ALL explained away by previous medical issues.I've always had an irregular cycle and as of January in 2013 it had completely stopped, not even the slightest spotting. I was told by my Dr that this was normal for thin, stressed women so i didn't really worry, and obviously not having a period was no indication when i DID get pregnant (approximately Nov 2013). My "morning sickness" was also explained away. Due to gastritis, ulcers and acid reflux i had spent the previous two years of my life vomiting daily. So when my vomiting and stomach upset increased in November 2013 (apparently during my first trimester) i was told that i needed to see a Stomach specialist because the lining of my stomach was possibly eroded. I had also just experienced a death in the family so stress was again blamed. I also suffered intense lower back pain november 2013 to January 2014 but due to having scoliosis i was again told by my dr that this was normal for my body. It wasnt until March of 2014 that i noticed any weight gain, and realized it was focused on my hip and stomach area. This worried me because ovarian cysts have been common in the women in my family but i decided to take a pg test just in case, which came up positive. An appointment with my obgyn the next week confirmed my pregnancy but my boyfriend and i were shocked to learn that they estimated the baby from 21-23 weeks!!! I've never felt such a strong combined mixture of guilt and excitement. Im 23 years old and was not living the lifestyle a pregnant woman would live. This breaks my heart because if i would have known sooner i would have done so many things differently. I recall drinking beer on occasion, a few mimosas and mixed drinks during my 1st and 2nd trimesters as well as smoking medical marijuana (im in Cali) daily. According to all the tests done our baby girl was a tough little one and appears very healthy and well developed but as her due date nears my anxiety grows. I just want her to be healthy and happy, she's the biggest surprise of my life but I already love her more than my own life. If anyone has gone through something similar with a positive birth and healthy baby i would love to hear! Also I'm planning for a natural hospital birth, she's due this July 16th

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  I'm sorry.. I thought these forums were to talk with other women about their experiences and gain support =/ If there is another more appropriate board to post this on I'd be happy to re-post elsewhere since I am new and just trying to get the hang of this.

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• ruby&emerald member

  July 2014

  funnibunni80 said:

  I'm just suprised that a doc wouldn't order a pregnancy test- just to rule it out. Mine always did because my period was MIA- and that was due to my IUD.

  I'm not seeing either of those Drs (stomach and back Drs) anymore because of that exactly. I feel that I was cheated out of a more normal pregnancy due to their ignorance and "it's just the amount of stress you're going through" attitude! =/ It was frustrating. 

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• TurtleMonsters member

  July 2014

  You're baby will likely be just fine. I seriously wouldn't worry. I've known people to do worse and have healthy babies.  If you didn't know, it's not really guilt you should hold on to, IMO, it's not productive. My first pregnancy wouldn't have been discovered for 3 months if we hadn't finally decided to TTC and magically gotten preg two weeks before that decision- total chance how it happened as we hadn't changed to "trying" mode when DS was conceived and I have a very irregular cycle, usually 90+ days. It happens.
  
  second, I was in the middle of trying to figure out health issues (includes a lot of cross over symptoms too)  when we conceived, every single doctor and specialist asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant. Since we were trying, I was very aware of where I was in my cycles and actually had a Dr. refuse to xray because it was around my time to O and I couldn't be CERTAIN either way. I'd be a little concerned that your docs didn't think to ask that.
  
  Third, just sit back a read without expectations of what ppl will say. Take it in, reflect, and appreciate or ignore. It's a public forum, you've likely picked up on how it operates by now, It'll work a lot better that way. unless you crave drama and MUD, then have fun.
  

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• sandrabrooke member

  July 2014

  I actually want to share that this happened to my mother in law.  She was in her 30's, had been trying to get pregnant for a very long time, and overweight.  She had numerous health issues like you did.  She drank some early on and my husband, for the most part, is totally okay.  ha.  

  

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• ruby&emerald member

  July 2014

  TurtleMonsters said:

  You're baby will likely be just fine. I seriously wouldn't worry. I've known people to do worse and have healthy babies.  If you didn't know, it's not really guilt you should hold on to, IMO, it's not productive. My first pregnancy wouldn't have been discovered for 3 months if we hadn't finally decided to TTC and magically gotten preg two weeks before that decision- total chance how it happened as we hadn't changed to "trying" mode when DS was conceived and I have a very irregular cycle, usually 90+ days. It happens.
  
  second, I was in the middle of trying to figure out health issues (includes a lot of cross over symptoms too)  when we conceived, every single doctor and specialist asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant. Since we were trying, I was very aware of where I was in my cycles and actually had a Dr. refuse to xray because it was around my time to O and I couldn't be CERTAIN either way. I'd be a little concerned that your docs didn't think to ask that.
  
  Third, just sit back a read without expectations of what ppl will say. Take it in, reflect, and appreciate or ignore. It's a public forum, you've likely picked up on how it operates by now, It'll work a lot better that way. unless you crave drama and MUD, then have fun.
  

  
  

  
  

  Thank you, I appreciate it! I'll definitely try to let go of the guilt and focus on the future with a healthy, happy baby  

  And I was definitely frustrated/concerned with the lack of integrity both doctors had shown after I found out I was pregnant so I'm no longer under their care, if you could even call it "care" >:P 

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• ruby&emerald member

  July 2014

  sandrabrooke said:

  I actually want to share that this happened to my mother in law.  She was in her 30's, had been trying to get pregnant for a very long time, and overweight.  She had numerous health issues like you did.  She drank some early on and my husband, for the most part, is totally okay.  ha.  

  hahah thank you for sharing  made me laugh, but it's encouraging to know it can happen without severe consequences. 

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• TexasGirl81 member

  July 2014

  This is my second and I didn't find out until I was 17 weeks along. It happens, not everyone's body type is the same. Two years in a row I never had any pregnancy symptoms, just back pains.
  
  You will be just fine. I had drinks in the first tri, simply not knowing. I was nursing and still wasn't getting my monthly cycle of course.
  
  Don't beat yourself up, all will be good. I'm due July 31 and doc says baby is doing great! Good luck OP!

  We have our "Irish Twins"

  DD born 8/7/2013

  DS born 7/28/14

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• Hilee18 member

  July 2014

  I used to work in a perinatal clinic, so yes we saw it happen, usually with older women who figured it was menopause (surprise!) or drug users most had no or minor issues. I'm assuming you got a level 2 anatomy scan and some monitoring since you found out so late. 

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• lookame3639 member

  July 2014

  I have a friend who found out she was pregnant 32 weeks into the pregnancy. She had less than 2 months to prepare and thankfully when she found out baby was perfectly healthy. She had to be induced around 36 weeks due to pre-e so she had a very quick pregnancy and her baby is fine.

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• rlyttle member

  July 2014

  Wow! It's sad that none of your doctors had you take a pregnancy test! I is not "normal" at all for a "thin stressed" woman to miss her period for that long. I know it happens, but it is not "normal". I'm sorry, but your doctors SUCK! Congrats on your pregnancy & GL!

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• mysticl member

  July 2014

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hoshikitsune said:

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hello,I've been reading these boards for two months now (it's been helpful!) so I thought I would join and share my experience. Any feedback/support or similar experiences would be appreciated As of today, July 4th 2014 I am 38 weeks and 2 days! This pregnancy has been a whirlwind...I found out I was pregnant at aproximately 22 weeks (has anyone found out when they were already that far along??) That may sound like total ignorance to find out so late but to avoid judgement I'll explain, my symptoms were ALL explained away by previous medical issues.I've always had an irregular cycle and as of January in 2013 it had completely stopped, not even the slightest spotting. I was told by my Dr that this was normal for thin, stressed women so i didn't really worry, and obviously not having a period was no indication when i DID get pregnant (approximately Nov 2013). My "morning sickness" was also explained away. Due to gastritis, ulcers and acid reflux i had spent the previous two years of my life vomiting daily. So when my vomiting and stomach upset increased in November 2013 (apparently during my first trimester) i was told that i needed to see a Stomach specialist because the lining of my stomach was possibly eroded. I had also just experienced a death in the family so stress was again blamed. I also suffered intense lower back pain november 2013 to January 2014 but due to having scoliosis i was again told by my dr that this was normal for my body. It wasnt until March of 2014 that i noticed any weight gain, and realized it was focused on my hip and stomach area. This worried me because ovarian cysts have been common in the women in my family but i decided to take a pg test just in case, which came up positive. An appointment with my obgyn the next week confirmed my pregnancy but my boyfriend and i were shocked to learn that they estimated the baby from 21-23 weeks!!! I've never felt such a strong combined mixture of guilt and excitement. Im 23 years old and was not living the lifestyle a pregnant woman would live. This breaks my heart because if i would have known sooner i would have done so many things differently. I recall drinking beer on occasion, a few mimosas and mixed drinks during my 1st and 2nd trimesters as well as smoking medical marijuana (im in Cali) daily. According to all the tests done our baby girl was a tough little one and appears very healthy and well developed but as her due date nears my anxiety grows. I just want her to be healthy and happy, she's the biggest surprise of my life but I already love her more than my own life. If anyone has gone through something similar with a positive birth and healthy baby i would love to hear! Also I'm planning for a natural hospital birth, she's due this July 16th

  QFP
  

  I'm sorry.. I thought these forums were to talk with other women about their experiences and gain support =/ If there is another more appropriate board to post this on I'd be happy to re-post elsewhere since I am new and just trying to get the hang of this.

  QFP means quoting for posterity.  It's done in case you decide to delete your post (which is considered rude) so that people can still know what the thread was about.  

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• ruby&emerald member

  July 2014

  mysticl said:

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hoshikitsune said:

  ruby&emerald said:

  Hello,I've been reading these boards for two months now (it's been helpful!) so I thought I would join and share my experience. Any feedback/support or similar experiences would be appreciated As of today, July 4th 2014 I am 38 weeks and 2 days! This pregnancy has been a whirlwind...I found out I was pregnant at aproximately 22 weeks (has anyone found out when they were already that far along??) That may sound like total ignorance to find out so late but to avoid judgement I'll explain, my symptoms were ALL explained away by previous medical issues.I've always had an irregular cycle and as of January in 2013 it had completely stopped, not even the slightest spotting. I was told by my Dr that this was normal for thin, stressed women so i didn't really worry, and obviously not having a period was no indication when i DID get pregnant (approximately Nov 2013). My "morning sickness" was also explained away. Due to gastritis, ulcers and acid reflux i had spent the previous two years of my life vomiting daily. So when my vomiting and stomach upset increased in November 2013 (apparently during my first trimester) i was told that i needed to see a Stomach specialist because the lining of my stomach was possibly eroded. I had also just experienced a death in the family so stress was again blamed. I also suffered intense lower back pain november 2013 to January 2014 but due to having scoliosis i was again told by my dr that this was normal for my body. It wasnt until March of 2014 that i noticed any weight gain, and realized it was focused on my hip and stomach area. This worried me because ovarian cysts have been common in the women in my family but i decided to take a pg test just in case, which came up positive. An appointment with my obgyn the next week confirmed my pregnancy but my boyfriend and i were shocked to learn that they estimated the baby from 21-23 weeks!!! I've never felt such a strong combined mixture of guilt and excitement. Im 23 years old and was not living the lifestyle a pregnant woman would live. This breaks my heart because if i would have known sooner i would have done so many things differently. I recall drinking beer on occasion, a few mimosas and mixed drinks during my 1st and 2nd trimesters as well as smoking medical marijuana (im in Cali) daily. According to all the tests done our baby girl was a tough little one and appears very healthy and well developed but as her due date nears my anxiety grows. I just want her to be healthy and happy, she's the biggest surprise of my life but I already love her more than my own life. If anyone has gone through something similar with a positive birth and healthy baby i would love to hear! Also I'm planning for a natural hospital birth, she's due this July 16th

  QFP
  

  I'm sorry.. I thought these forums were to talk with other women about their experiences and gain support =/ If there is another more appropriate board to post this on I'd be happy to re-post elsewhere since I am new and just trying to get the hang of this.

  QFP means quoting for posterity.  It's done in case you decide to delete your post (which is considered rude) so that people can still know what the thread was about.  

  I was under the impression that it meant "quit fucking posting" as I had seen someone else on another thread use it in that way  :-??  oops! I definitely don't intend to delete this though, but I appreciate you clearing that up for me

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• flyinmommy member

  July 2014

  I guess the good news is that you didn't have the stress and anxiety that the first trimester can bring and your pregnancy will seem pretty short! Hopefully all was well on your ultrasound and you have a smooth pregnancy from here on out.

   
  

  
  

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• dkg1977 member

  July 2014

  My friend's sister was pregnant in the sixties. We were just talking last week, she drank, smoked, smoked weed, and rode roller coasters before she learned she was pregnant at 16 weeks. I definitely am not saying this is ideal, but try not to worry. As was mentioned, don't feel guilt for something you didn't know. Wishing you all the best!

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• Justabean3 member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  The accidental thought of the meaning qfp made me laugh, thank you today!

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