I have two sons, one having just turned three at the beginning of April and my youngest at about nineteen months. Their father and I are separated and he gets one of them every other weekend, alternating visits at his place. The trouble starts there.
My three-year-old has always been a picky eater, but I've been able to get him to eat what he needs to not be ill. I cook everything from scratch with the freshest things I can, avoiding processed foods, added sugars, and hydrogenated oils. We don't have dairy and use almond alternatives due to my youngest being lactose intolerant and that it's a better and healthier option to make.
However, their father is not the same way. They eat fast food with him, hydrogenated oils, and loads of processed, simple-carby foods. They come home bloated and uncomfortable with runny stools. My eldest turns his nose to all of my foods now. Wanting McDonald's, Pizza Hut wings, and so on.
I called their father and tried reasoning with him, to find a solution, and asking him to please stop going to fast food chains with them. I told him how his oldest refuses to eat, even his favorite foods from before. He told me to just start feeding him freezer nuggets and foods with added sugars again. Not an acceptable answer.
He got on the defensive. Words were exchanged and I tried to assure him that I wasn't calling him a bad parent, but when his son is addicted to processed foods and coming home ill, I just think it's time to make some healthier adjustments to his own diet for his kids.
He refused. He says he can feed his sons whatever he wants, which I know he can, but tomorrow will be the fourth day my son has hardly eaten anything more than a banana and half a serving of oatmeal. I'm glad he drinks water.
I'm frustrated. I'm scared. My boyfriend is such a great role-model for them in the way he eats. My youngest eats like him, but now he's picking up on some of his older brother's mannerisms with food. I'm considering separate feeding times if things get worse.
What should I do? Any similar situations?