Moms!!!!!!!

Staceanng · July 2014

So my mom had 2 ooopsie babies. And when trying with me and my sister she tried with our dad and got it on the first month. So 4 babies with no struggle.
So now I'm trying with my husband and it's been about 5 months and every month she asks if I'm pregnant and we are still trying.
I always get told from her that we must be doing something wrong cause when she wanted babies it happened so fast. Frustrated I say to her that I'm not her and when the time is right it will happen for us. Anyone else have family stressing you out!!?!! I love her so much but seriously! I am not her!!!

Pinkrose1012 · July 2014

I have a similar situation with my SIL who is not my DH sister. She feels it is okay to ask me about me and DH sex life and she usually does it at the wrong times. I have told her numerous times that I am not comfortable talking about this and really it is none of her business. But, she continues to do it, honestly I have no advice sorry.

RogueZymosis · July 2014

SO's mom is similar, she had no issues getting pregnant in month 1 with her 3 kids and SO's sister in law had an oopsy baby last year. Each month She would ask on our progress of grand baby making. after a few months of telling her we had no success she decided she was getting too depressed by it and didn't want to know anymore. Everytime I go to the doc she makes sure to tell me I should mention unsuccessfully getting pregnant, I don't mention it.

Trampslikeus · July 2014

One of my friends - I love her to death but she's always been passive aggressive - is STILL angry and resentful of her mother in law for making comments like that, but the thing is...

She never told her it bothered her or hurt her

So now 2 years and a healthy beautiful baby later, there is still an awkward, damaged relationship that could have been fixed with a few words.

Yes, it may seem dense or obvious to us, but people are not psychic. She may have no idea this is hard for you to hear. Tell her, calmly. You may be surprised by the results. My mom teased me once or twice about it and the minute I said "you know, Mom, I'm 8 years older than you were when you had me, this may not be as easy as you think, and its a little scary" she hasn't said a single word since.

itshumpday · July 2014

Moms are crazy. My mom hinted to us trying... On FACEBOOK!!! She is grounded from getting inside information. Bad mom.

Staceanng · July 2014

Thank you to all of you for your comments. I have told her how it hurts my feelings and she just doesn't listen or acts like we never had that talk. I did tell her we aren't trying just to get her to stop but it got out by another family member that we were trying and it started all over again. I really appreciate all the advise. Thank you!

kmaty13 · July 2014

We didn't want anyone to know we're trying and my mom kept making comments about giving her grandchildren. I finally blurted out one day that we've been trying and that it really bothers me that she makes those comments. She seemed supportive but then said, "Geez, all you had to do was kiss me and I got pregnant." Thanks Mom. One word: Filter. Thankfully, she hasn't made any comments since.

Trampslikeus · July 2014

itshumpday said:

Moms are crazy. My mom hinted to us trying... On FACEBOOK!!! She is grounded from getting inside information. Bad mom.

YES!! My mom did the same thing - thats what precipitated my conversation with her. I was wearing a maxi dress in a picture that got posted and she wrote "cute dress, and you'll be able to wear things like that even when you're pregnant!"

DovahFel said:

*snipped*

I...just... WHAT? Oh my. I'm so sorry. Thats a bunch of manipulative horse shit. I hope you at least have in-laws who are supportive and considerate?

Wine&Cupcakes · July 2014

I'm sorry you ladies have to go through this. I've come to realize that some people really do think you can snap your fingers and get KTFU.

I have a friend who got KU while NTNP and lost her tube and the baby due to an ectopic. 8 months went by and they decided to try again. She thought she would get KU again the first try despite being down a tube. Ya know what? She did.

Pregnancy is really easy for some. For each person I know who got pregnant the first try, I know one who spent 1+ year. It skews perspectives, which sucks.

SpartanChick88 · July 2014

So, Mom... what is the exact right way? Details.. tell me what precisely I should be doing?

But that's just me

suzysurparis · July 2014

My mom has calmed down from being crazy/abusive emotionally with me in the past few years. Granted, I did leave the country and when I'm home visiting if she starts to get out of hand I just leave. But I think it's more from her having my brother, nephew, and SIL around that has changed her perspective. My SIL is very similar to my mom emotionally, complete with self-esteem issues and passive-aggressive bullshit. I think my mom's had her eyes opened on what that behavior does to loved ones since the people getting the worst of it now are her son and grandson and there's not a lot my mom can do to stop my SIL messing with them. It's full-circle since she now sympathizes with those being hurt when before she was the one attacking my father and me. But it's still sad that no one can really save my brother and nephew from that behavior anytime soon.

My MIL put slight pressure on us but a lot less since DH's close cousin got KU her first month trying but lost the pregnancy in the third month.

ImJessesGirl · July 2014

SpartanChick88 said:

So, Mom... what is the exact right way? Details.. tell me what precisely I should be doing? But that's just me

I was going to post this exact thing... I would say, "well, I guess it's your fault for not teaching me how to have sex correctly."

MrsGreen92014 · July 2014

I am so thankful that my mother is supportive. She's eager for grandkids but we know that my grandmother had a hard time ttc her. On the other hand we aren't telling my MIL, she still hasn't had anything nice to say about us getting married. (We eloped sp?)

Staceanng · July 2014

Good to know I'm not the only one with a crazy mom. But also sorry to hear others have to deal with the way they are !!

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