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Nipples/Breast Feeding/Sex Life

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Anyone else fear that nipple/breast play won't be the same with their SO after breast feeding/nursing/pumping? I am a FTM so I have no clue if this is a legitimate thing or not but it got me thinking... Is it not sexy anymore to have SO touch/play with your breasts after LO is born? Has anyone experienced this? Timeframe for when the awkwardness goes away? Tell me if I'm just nuts??
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  • jnnfrrose6jnnfrrose6 member
    I think this depends on the people, I know early on I kept a bra with pads on in case I leaked because the idea of breastmillk spraying out during sexy time kills it for me. Once I felt confident my supply was under control the bra came off, but I still asked DH to try to avoid stimulating them too much again to prevent any leaking. That's just how I/we handled it last time around, but I'm sure others have different preferences/methods of dealing with it.
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    You're not nuts. I didn't want DH near my nipples at all while breastfeeding. It took a little bit of time after weaning to get used to it again, then went back to normal until I got pregnant again, and I am back to not wanting him near them now. I'm hopeful that when we're done with babies and breastfeeding they will be just fine again. ;)
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  • TexasGirl81TexasGirl81 member
    For me, you hit the nail on the head. It's been about 6 months since I stopped BF'ing and it still feels weird if H tries to touch them. I feel bad, but it just feels either annoying or just bothersome. :(

    Now I have LO due any week now and I'll be BF'ing again. Who knows how long this may last. The good thing is sometimes I get the feeling of it all being back to a normal feeling so I usually let H know and he gets excited. Lol!!

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  • marsalisailsmarsalisails member
    LeaLupins said:

    You're not nuts. I didn't want DH near my nipples at all while breastfeeding. It took a little bit of time after weaning to get used to it again, then went back to normal until I got pregnant again, and I am back to not wanting him near them now. I'm hopeful that when we're done with babies and breastfeeding they will be just fine again. ;)

    This. My breasts were basically all business until DD stopped BFing. It was difficult for me to compartmentalize. DH was fine with that. After we were done (10 months) it was fine again.

     

     

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  • lindslalalalindslalala member
    Boobs are off limits as long as I'm breast feeding. Once I stopped I was fine with them being sexual again.
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  • HuahineHuahine member
    It was months before we had sex again after DS1 was born, and then still longer before I wanted my nipples touched during sex. We BF'd for 15 months last time and I'd say for the first 10 of those nipple stimulation was not a turn on at all.
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    Thank you ladies for sharing! Glad I'm not alone in this boat! 
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  • abrazzabrazz member
    I know this is TMI, but I really tried to empty them first either by nursing or pumping so I wouldn't make a mess.  Once they quit hurting so much they were able to serve two purposes.  It is hard at first to mentally separate the use by baby and by SO. After a few months things get better.  I nursed DD into my second pregnancy and DS for a little over a year.   

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  • baxterdreamerbaxterdreamer member
    I've never been in this position, I'm anxious how it'll work out. DH is even more interested in nipple/breast play since they've gotten bigger. I have warned him that while I'm BFing that I don't want them sexualized. He actually said that he is sure he will feel the same way until I've stopped BFing.


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  • emineminememineminem member
    Good to know, thanks for asking! My DH has been avoiding mine since they hurt so damn bad in the first trimester, but it's definitely something I've wondered about...


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  • cyndelgracecyndelgrace member
    It's really easy to feel very "touched out" when breastfeeding. I also dealt with a lot of nipple trauma due to tongue and lip ties with my last, so it took a long time before I was ready for nipple play again. I agree that it's especially difficult until your supply evens out and it's helpful to really empty first. I've heard plenty of in-bed milk shower stories...
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