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Evo9380Evo9380 member
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I've never posted here before but I've lurked for a few months so I hope no one minds me just jumping in - I'm kind of desperate at this point! I know you get a lot of these posts, and I have read them but I just need to hear it all again to help keep me sane!

I have B/G twins who were born April 7, at 30 weeks. As of Monday they'll be 3 months old, but 3 weeks adjusted. In many ways they act like 3 month olds (can roll over, very alert and active, etc) and in some ways still seem like newborns (still waiting on social smiles). 

For awhile we had an incredibly well organized routine. Bottle, short activity, nap, repeat. For some reason now they've decided that naps are no longer wanted. They've also turned from deep sleepers into really light sleepers and will now wake each other up as soon as one cries. Oh, and my day has turned into having to pick up one to calm down, wait for other to fuss/cry, then switch babies as I haven't mastered picking them both up at once. We're exclusively FF so I can 'tandem' feed them propped up in boppys but that's the best I've got :)

So I'm turning to the experts - other MoMs.

1. Could this be some sort of growth spurt? If we go off their adjusted age, I thought we had another two weeks or so before it hit? 

2. How DO you pick up both babies at once, or am I doomed to pick up one/put one down until they can reach up themselves?

3. Is it common for twins to wake each other up with crying? I'm so desperate for some sleep I'm wondering if we should separate their rooms early so that when they do get to nap, they stay sleeping.

4. ...Please tell me it gets easier. I always feel like one is not getting enough attention (though this switches daily so at least I know they'll each get a 'turn').

Thanks! And congrats to all the MoMs! It's hard but definitely an amazing journey so far. 

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  • CNYBride05CNYBride05 member
    1. My go to is always growth spurt :). It's definitely possible. 2. I could hold them both but picking up itty bitties together is hard! It's easier from sitting, like if you have them in bouncers or RnPs and are sitting on the couch, you can grab one and lay him/her across your lap and grab the other. Then adjust so everyone is comfy. 3. It can be. Depends on if they are light or deep sleepers among other things. If you have the space for it, you could try separating them. Our girls will always share a room, so we figured they should get used to each other ;) 4. It totally gets easier (in some ways) and EVERY SINGLE MoM has felt like she isn't giving someone enough attention. It just goes with the amazing and difficult territory. You're doing an awesome job! Keep it up :)
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  • kdarden15kdarden15 member
    Mine wake up at each others cries too.

    Ok to pick them up--I lay them both down on the bed on their backs. Then, I lean over so their heads are by my shoulders. I slide my hands under each of them so I am supporting their heads, and then I stand up. Does that make sense?

    Good luck!?
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  • Evo9380Evo9380 member
    Thanks to you both for the tips! I think this "Growth spurt" has passed since both babes now seem to be devouring a ton more formula but sleeping a lot longer at night as well. 

    I still think we may have light sleepers but only time can tell :)

    Thanks again! I'll have to practice the holding both with DH close by until I get the hang of it.
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