Bf doesn't want to know gender

Re: Bf doesn't want to know gender

• Tapsalteerie member

  June 2014

  One of you is going to have to give. You can't keep something as big as that from someone you are living with. You are going to have conversations, make purchases, and inevitably something will give it away.
  
  I'm a planner so I would ask to know or else DH would never hear the end of it.

  

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• ashiscute member

  June 2014

  We were the opposite.  DH wanted to know and I didn't.  We compromised and decided we'd do one of each.  We decided to find out with out first and not our second.  I really loved being Team Green and I would definitely do that again if we have another.  

  
  

  But I really think you'll have to compromise.  There is no way you could keep that secret and I think your BF would be disappointed to have you accidentally drop it in casual conversation.  

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• missnacholover member

  June 2014

  I think you'll have to compromise.  DH wanted to wait to find out, I wanted to know.  So we decided to find out but we aren't telling anyone.  It's been fun to keep it a secret!
  

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• robsbabygirl08 member

  July 2014

  @smeame14. I can't wait for that moment when LO is delivered!

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• greeneyed_bride member

  July 2014

  DH didn't want to know, and I kind of did. But I decided not to find out because he felt so strongly about it. Turns out I liked not knowing, and we're not finding out this time, either. But I agree with PPs, one person finding out is very unlikely to work. Somebody's gotta give in.

   
  

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• jaminjeff member

  July 2014

  ashiscute said:

  We were the opposite.  DH wanted to know and I didn't.  We compromised and decided we'd do one of each.  We decided to find out with out first and not our second.  I really loved being Team Green and I would definitely do that again if we have another.  

  
  

  But I really think you'll have to compromise.  There is no way you could keep that secret and I think your BF would be disappointed to have you accidentally drop it in casual conversation.  

  This is exactly DH and me.  And when it came time for baby #2 he's been irritated that I'm holding him up to the bargain we made.  He wants to know so bad but I refuse.  We have our a/s next Monday and after that hopefully there will be no other chances to accidentally find out.

  
  

  Anyone who has done both has told me that they preferred Team Green.

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• nursemarie925 member

  July 2014

  This was the case with my sister and BIL. He wanted to know, she didn't. They agreed for him to find out and not share with anyone. Crazily enough. He actually kept that secret the entire time.

  

  
  

  

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• ThePregosaurus member

  July 2014

  For us, DH wants to know but I've always wanted to stay team green. Well, I had to give up a big trip somewhere bc it made DH uncomfortable for me to go while pregnant so I suggested that we BOTH give up something then and he agreed. So now he is giving up on finding out the sex There is absolutely no way he could know and not me. I think I'd cave... Plus, I know he'd always drop hints jokingly and that would eventually get under my skin.

    
  
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• uksteph11 member

  July 2014

  My best friend knew that she was having a girl and her husband did not.  They agreed that she wouldn't be able to tell ANYONE which I think is why it worked for them.  None of us knew and we were all surprised including her husband.  It can work.

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