1 year old hitting mommy

Re: 1 year old hitting mommy

• spring_time member

  July 2014

  DS was a hitter. Unfortunately, it took a long time for him to grow out of it. Some suggestions that I received were to set him down immediately with a stern "no hitting" and walk away. Taking his hand and saying sternly (not yelling) " no hitting". Telling him " hands are for hugging" or "soft hands" while modeling petting. Things that made no discernible difference: yelling, hitting back (yes, I tried it out of desperation). Honestly, though, it was time. I thought I did something wrong to make him hit, but he was just a hitter. He also only hit me. DD does not hit at all...she screeches the most ear piercing scream! Other people have biters. It is always something.

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• zbeesma86 member

  July 2014

  when DD was 1 she really had no idea- we would say gentle hands and demonstrate that.
  
  now that she's almost 2 we have started with time outs and such. she only seems to do it now out of frustration and not getting her way.
  
  be consistent. and stay calm.
  

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• octoberlovesong member

  July 2014

  My son started hitting pretty often around 18 months. He'd do it several times a day.
  We tried time outs, telling him to be gentle/that it wasn't nice, showing him how to touch gently, etc etc etc; none of it stuck.
  Finally, after one particularly hard hit, I pretended to cry. I held the spot where he'd hit, told him that it really hurt, and then I cried. He got so upset that he cried too, and after about a minute, I calmed him down, told him that I was okay but to please not hit me anymore.
  I felt like a manipulative jerk while doing it, but he hasn't hit me once since then & it's been over a month now!

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• GracefulStar member

  July 2014

  Thank you all for your help. He still does it but I'm staying calmer

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• Kearney1022 member

  July 2014

  Have you had your mom or husband tell him no when he hits you or only when he hits them?  I would try to listen to their tones and mimic what they're doing as well.  I agree with others that walking away may be best.  My LO went through a hitting phase where he got a mean look on his face and would swat at something - he did it all the time.  Now, he only does it here and there - like when he bumps his head on the cabinet and hits the cabinet (I can't help but chuckle that he acts like the cabinet was in the wrong ha).  for the most part, when he gets upset at something, he'll take a swing.  We generally grab his hand and say no and then put him down ... which leads to a major fit, but I just walk away and he quickly moves on to something else.  Best of luck with it!  I was so upset when daycare told me he was hitting.  He also bit a child once (thank goodness he hasn't done it again).... when I brought these up to my Ped, I was told it was normal and just a phase (still not quite what a mom wants to hear though).

  

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