Hi all, I've been here before but it's been a while. I'm Lydia, 32, I m/c for the second time in January. We planned on taking a breather and TTC starting in May or June, but then we've had a lot going on (DS was hospitalized and diagnosed with a blood disorder, DH had to have surgery to remove a large tumor.)
Fast forward to now - and I don't know that I'm ready to TTC. It seems like every time I get on FB someone else I know is having a baby or getting ready to have one and it honestly hurts so bad because I know it would have been me. I want to be pg again. I want desperately to have another child, and I feel like the little hole in my heart that was left by my last pregnancy loss will only feel better after a successful pregnancy. (Sounds awful, but that's how I got through my first m/c.)
But then, I just have a huge fear of having another m/c. I am worried how I will deal with the stress, the fear. I also have started to have anxiety since the loss in January and everything that has happened since. I guess I feel like I should be in a better, more stable place before we TTC again.
How do you know when you are ready?
Re: Intro - and feeling torn about TTC **DS mentioned**
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
Welcome to the board, I'm so sorry for your losses. As others have said, you have to find the right time for you and know that the fear won't necessarily go away, but have a plan to manage it. Have you mentioned your anxiety to your doctor? I know that there's a certain level of anxiety that all of us who've had losses will probably always have but if it's affecting your day to day life beyond a certain extent, it's probably worth discussing with your doctor, especially as you TTC again. Good luck and I hope the wonderful ladies here can help!
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
DS2 born 2/22/13
MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
DD due 5/9/15 Please be our RAINBOW
My Ovulation Chart
Welcome to the board I am so sorry for your losses. I hope that you can find comfort and answers here. These ladies really help, and I am so glad I have such an array of honest answers from them. As for me, TTC again right away was a given. I want my son to have a sibling ASAP more than anything in this world. I also have developed anxiety over the past three years that is at times pretty awful to deal with. So, I can relate a little on that front. PM if you ever need to vent:) hugs!
BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
BFP 8/26/14 Due date 5/8/15
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
Whatever you choose. Good luck.
3rd pregnancy -- 1st baby -- praying for a rainbow
#1 EDD 5/2014 -- MMC 10weeks ~~ #2 EDD 10/2014 -- Our baby girl, born sleeping 17weeks ~~ #3 EDD 8/2015
My Ovulation Chart
natural m/c and d&c at 10 weeks - 1/24/2014
DX w/ hetero C677t and A1298C MTHFR - 3/4/2014
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)