July 2014 Moms

need to vent..

Sorry in advance for the novel.

Little dude has been frank breech for at least the past 5 weeks now so at my ob appointment last week they talked about scheduling a c/s at this weeks appointment (today) and when i went they informed me i had to get another US to make sure hes still frank breech. Ok cool i understand that but it would be nice if you didnt go on to say they wont call to schedule due to the holiday weekend until at least tuesday and my next appointment is next thursday and how the "lock in date for c/s is during 37 weeks (which im 37w 3d today) and its scheduled for 39 weeks.

The problem im having is the fact ill be 38w 3d at my next appointment and because the place i have to go to for the US is an hour away and might possibly not get in until after my next ob appointment i feel like im going to have zero time to prepare myself when the time comes or to get any questions about the whole thing before it actually happens and now im even more nervous and stressing out about it, and all of this because the communication at this practice is never organized and they failed to think of scheduling an US last week before todays appointment.

Does anyone thats been through a c/s have any insight or words of encouragement? What to expect? I tried asking questions about the surgery and all that goes with it but the dr said "because its not a set thing he didnt feel the need to discuss anything." These are the times it really sucks going through all this alone.. :(
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  • Sorry they aren't giving you much to work with. With my first, I went in the hospital expecting a vaginal birth and found out he was breech when I was already 5-6cm along, so I had 0 prep for a c/s. It really was ok, though. I put my trust in the doctors and asked questions of my nurses and doctors as I had them.

    This time around I had 24 hours prep time for my c/s. 

    I wouldn't worry too much about the shirt notice for scheduling. Sure, the ideal is to schedule it during your 37 week appointment, but c/s happen on much shorter notice than that. I'd also check out the c-section board and see if you can get some answers to your concerns there, too. 
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  • This happened to me, I went in for my normal OB appt when I was 37 1/2 weeks along (a Monday), she was still breech and the OB came in and told me she had me on the calendar for a c/s the next week on a Thursday. I felt completely unprepared! I knew there is always a possibility of her coming early on her own, but for some reason having an official date in June scared the heck out of me. They had me scheduled for an u/s the Wednesday morning before the scheduled date and then before they took me in for surgery did one more last u/s just to confirm she hadn't turned at the last minute. I didn't get any surgery details until the appt with my OB the day before my surgery. (I don't think they even had a scheduled time for me until a couple days before since it was a controlled event.) I HATED having everything up in the air because I'm a planner, but it all ended working out well.

    You'll be fine and everything will work out great! Just look at it similarly to a normal situation where you could go into labor at any time, you just don't know when. Run any errands that you need to run now, get your bag ready, etc. That way when you get the official details from your OB, you will have everything done so you won't go into panic mode as much.
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  • I'm sorry you're going through this alone!!! I would be frustrated too.

     

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  • Im glad im not the only one. I think thats why its stressing me out so much knowing that there will be a specific date and just cant get it, im a planner myself and luckily have everything ready to go incase i do go into labor before hand, seeing as ive been having a lot of contractions the past week so i prepared myself for that just not surgery. I think id be more ok with going in then finding out i needed one so i wouldnt know it was coming and have time to freak myself out :p
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  • I would read up on the procedure online, or in preg. books. Really, you don't NEED to know that much, esp. if THAT is the procedure they are doing and you have no choice.

     I had 0 minutes to prepare for my ECS. I knew enough from reading about them very little in preg. books to get through, honestly. The rest is in the dr's hands. An ultrasound place will likely fit you in to accommodate the situation. This time around I have looked up nothing, having been through one, and I'm barely thinking about it, as dwelling on each little step isn't worth it...it's going to happen, and they are pretty routine, so the docs know what they are doing. You're just along for the ride and it involves pain medicine- so it's really not that bad- especially planned ones.

    I don't mean to down play it, but I really think you'll be OK no matter what amount of time you have to prepare, as long as you know the basics. I would be frustrated in your place, not knowing, but having been through it, it all works out OK. Trust your docs:)!
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  • I agree with @BPaws‌ , the idea of the surgery freaked me out and I was stressed for days. Once it was actually going on it wasn't bad at all. Everything was done in about 30 minutes and I actually can't imagine a surgery would have gone that well for any reason. My operating nurse was fantastic as was my anesthesiologist . They kept talking about life, and really anything I'm general to keep the mood light and normal in the operating room. Once the baby was out and DH was taking her to the nursery, they started talking about which World Cup players were the best looking. You could tell they were just trying to keep me preoccupied and talking.
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  • Thank you ladies! Your definitely making me feel better about this whole thing. Im going to research as much as i can in the mean time and hope for the best until the day comes. I think another reason im so freaked is because i had a bunch of stomach surgery as a baby until i was 4 and thats the only thing i can relate it to so that sits in the back of my head.

    Its nice to hear that its actually not all that bad though and heres to hope the nurses are justas awesome as all yours sound :)
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  • I had staples, and they were terrible. Most docs do glue or stitches now, which don't have to be removed. Ask which method of closing your doctor is going with. I would also recommend getting some granny panties or the c-panty. You don't want your underwear line running across your incision. Good luck!
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  • I had staples, and they were terrible. Most docs do glue or stitches now, which don't have to be removed. Ask which method of closing your doctor is going with. I would also recommend getting some granny panties or the c-panty. You don't want your underwear line running across your incision. Good luck!

    Yikes! That sounds painful ill definitely have to ask that, thank you! And i actually did just order the c-panty, have you used it? I heard good things so figured id try it.
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  • @kenziebug22 No, I didn't use it, I didn't know it existed. But I've heard great things.
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  • I actually had no notice for my c section and had totally planned on a vaginal birth. Baby went into distress pretty badly, doc came in and said we needed to get her out right away, and I was in the operating room about 5 minutes after that. I still honestly don't know all the procedure details and I'm not sure I really want to (especially while recovering still). Trust your doc will do whatever is best for your baby. That's why you made them your doc in the first place.
    Also, just an idea- if you get a hassle from the u/s place about fitting you in within a certain timeframe, maybe ask your OBs office if they would make a quick call on your behalf. Mine would do this and I know most offices are more willing to work in patients at a doc's request.
    Lastly, I know that delivery can be scary. I had SO much anxiety (which I posted about multiple times). Also, if you end up with the surgery, I know it's not all rainbows and butterflies. But right now I am looking down at the most angelic, sweet baby that is 12 days old cuddled up sleeping in my arms. And I promise once you feel that, it is all worth it. Keep the end in mind!
    Good luck!!
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