Clicky-poll Wednesday (CPW): Who has given you the most unsolicited advice so far?

2redtulips · July 2014

AnyMax · July 2014

The majority of women at my office are older ...the clucking hens as I prefer to call them... so they know eeeeverything, especially the ones who have grandbabies, and they want to make sure I have all the knowledge.

classicstar28 · July 2014

I said my mom, but she really hasn't given me much unsolicited advice. Probably because I ask her about stuff all the time so there isn't a chance. However, she has definitely given me more random advice than anyone else. I think that is because I only have one friend who has children and my in-laws don't really seem comfortable talking to me about my decisions.

Actually.....it might be my dad's gf who has given me the most unsolicited advice. She's a RN and has said a lot of random things to me. But, I don't pay much attention since she's always like that so I'll have to think about it.

[Deleted User] · July 2014

I have this one friend who doesn't have her own children, is not pregnant, yet tells me how irresponsible it is that I will vaccinate my child because of how horribly painful it is for the baby to get shots (yes, in addition to the whole autism thing). She truly thinks it is the meanest thing a parent can do to their infant, and she knows this first hand because she is a nanny (?!).

carlsonbaby2014 · July 2014

@AnyMax - the clucking hens sound like so much fun (read: sarcasm). Sorry you have to deal with that!

I chose SS because I actually haven't ran into too much unsolicited advice but of all the people who have given it to me the one I've got the most from has been my therapist! I was a little surprised in one session with her she kind of gave me her parenting 101 spiel. I actually agreed with a lot of what she said but I did find it interesting coming from her of all people

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lorifromwi · July 2014

Very few people know that I'm prego, so I don't have a wide panel to choose from. I was out to breakfast with two gals who know I'm expecting and we were talking about things and the waitress was just into talking about it. Hoping for the best, advice, her crappy experiences with people. I have to admit, I'm very happy and lucky that my friends and family seem much more respectful that what she experienced.

It was the first stranger moment, I'm sure it won't be the last!

luciddreamer106 · July 2014

My SIL and MIL were oblivious about pregnancy, what to do, and never actively TTC. They assume that I am also oblivious. I think they forget that I've been through this before and I've had years to read up and plan for this. My MIL asked me if I am taking prenatal vitamins. My response: "Yes, I've been taking them for over 3 years..."

sgio7485 · July 2014

I actually almost made a post about this... I was discussing (hypothetically providing all continues to go well) possibly making things more public around 15 weeks or so, after meeting with my principal, and a coworker who is a friend who knows said "personally, I would wait. Your call, but you know..." And I know she was referencing my miscarriage at 10 weeks. Definitely not the "advice" I needed to hear - I mean I'm nervous enough to tell anyone, dont make it harder on me!

sgio7485 · July 2014

@deezidee04‌ seriously? That would make me so mad!

megbmeg · July 2014

deezidee04 said:
I have this one friend who doesn't have her own children, is not pregnant, yet tells me how irresponsible it is that I will vaccinate my child because of how horribly painful it is for the baby to get shots (yes, in addition to the whole autism thing). She truly thinks it is the meanest thing a parent can do to their infant, and she knows this first hand because she is a nanny (?!).

That's bananas!

megbmeg · July 2014

I've been lucky so far with family and close friends. I know MIL is trying really hard not to step on toes, which I appreciate. But I'm only barely starting to show, and I'm off for the summer, so I bet the advice really ramps up in a couple months.

What's a good response to the annoying advice? We've got it covered? Ok, thanks?

megbmeg · July 2014

sgio7485 said:
I actually almost made a post about this... I was discussing (hypothetically providing all continues to go well) possibly making things more public around 15 weeks or so, after meeting with my principal, and a coworker who is a friend who knows said "personally, I would wait. Your call, but you know..." And I know she was referencing my miscarriage at 10 weeks. Definitely not the "advice" I needed to hear - I mean I'm nervous enough to tell anyone, dont make it harder on me!

@sgio7485‌ I'm sorry your friend was so insensitive. I think people don't realize how their comments come across to us loss moms sometimes. Good luck with spilling the beans soon!

kefttsc · July 2014

I have one SIL who works for an OBGYN and another that works in labor and delivery. While this comes in handy sometimes when i have ridiculous questions, I wish they'd stop offering it when they aren't asked!!

2redtulips · July 2014

What's a good response to the annoying advice? We've got it covered? Ok, thanks?

I pretty much just nod and smile.

To the older ladies in my Zumba class who were overly concerned about me exercising, I told them I cleared it with two doctors. :-P

longcat07 · July 2014

SS...my LH's (late husband) mother. i almost answered "MIL" because that's still how i refer to her, but she's not technically my MIL any more. lol. it's hilarious because this isn't my first rodeo.

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