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1st & hopefully last loss

LondonsMummy314LondonsMummy314 member
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I found out that i was pregnant about a month ago now. I was so excited because me and my boyfriend had been trying for months then finally gave up but that's when we got the positive. Everything was going good until Friday when i went to the ER for bleeding. They did all of the exams and found SCH on the ultrasound. They said it was very small so i shouldn't worry because it's normal. I went home and the bleeding stopped but Sunday morning i got into an argument with my boyfriend and started bleeding heavily and passing small clots. But i wasn't cramping and the doctor and alot of forums said this was normal so i shouldn't worry. But the bleeding didn't slow so i went back to the ER. I have no family so i had to bring my 15 month old. The nurses and drs were very patient though. Anyways they did the exam and said that my cervix was open and it all went down hill from there. I just feel like this is somehow my fault. My baby had a strong heartbeat just 2 days ago, so maybe if i would've just taken it easy, not argued with my now ex then maybe my baby would still be alive. I'm trying to be so strong for my daughter but i can't stop the tears. My eyes are swollen so i don't want to go outside and take her to the park right now. I haven't talked to my ex since it happened. I'm going through this alone. I need advice on how to get over my loss. I'm only 21 i know there's plenty more time to have another but i had already loved my baby so much. I hate letting my daughter see me cry
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Re: 1st & hopefully last loss

  • KingLEDKingLED member
    I'm so sorry for your loss, but please don't think that it is in any way your fault. No amount of taking it easy could have changed this. I wish I had some advice, but there really just isn't any. Take it easy and hopefully things will begin to get a bit easier.
    Son: Jackson, 11/02/06, stillborn due to PPROM and IUGR. Over the next ten years we had 9 miscarriages from 8-14 weeks. On May 18, 2016 my daughter, Ridley, was born. We're OADNBC.
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  • rmpar29rmpar29 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss!  Many (((((HUGS))))  Like @EllyD14 said, there's nothing you could've done to prevent this.  Please just take care of yourself and your little girl!  Things will get easier!
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    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
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  • tlc35tlc35 member
    I'm very sorry for your loss.  Please know that this is not your fault.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
    Saw heartbeat 12/29.  Please be a rainbow.
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  • LondonsMummy314LondonsMummy314 member
    Thank you all, I'm just taking it day by day. My toddler won't let me be sad for much longer because every time she catches me crying she yells "stop!" Lol i will always carry my peanut in my heart. I have my daughter & my guardian angel :)
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  • stephy1221stephy1221 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. As the other ladies have said this is not your fault and you could not have prevented it. Hugs.
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