When will the tears stop?

LondonsMummy314 · July 2014

I keep catching myself crying over everything. When i was still pregnant, cleaning my daughters sippy cups made me gag. The smell of the milk was terrible. But i just cleaned and nothing. Just another reminder that my little one is no longer growing inside of me. Im crying more often than not. I'm sorry for the constant posts but i have no one else to talk to and this forum makes me feel a little better.

rmpar29 · July 2014

I'm so sorry that you are struggling through this alone. It's so hard when the littlest thing can so easily set you off and make you cry. It's just going to take time to heal and get back on your feet. Sending you lots of ((((HUGS)))

ImJessesGirl · July 2014

Awww I'm so sorry! It is really tough when you have no support system to help you through. Do you have close friends or family that you can call on to talk to or just to have some company?

LondonsMummy314 · July 2014

No, my friends & family feel like i should be happy i lost my baby. They don't think I'd be able to support another one even though my daughter is very well taken care of. They don't think my baby was a baby yet..but from the moment i got the positive pregnancy test i was in love. & no one understands that

kerbear135 · July 2014

It doesn't happen all at once...each day you'll probably cry a little less, but there will still be days when things just get to you. It's ok to be sad- don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. The thing I've found to be most helpful is to focus on my DD when I'm sad- I go play with her and try to get her to giggle because that sound always makes me feel better. If that's not possible (like, I'm at work or she's asleep), I try to focus on something positive- a movie I like to watch that makes me happy, a song I like to dance to, etc....I understand being in love as soon as you see that BFP, and I understand how hard it is to have that taken away...just try and be kind to yourself and cut yourself a little slack...grief is a slow process

LimaD · July 2014

LondonsMummy314 said:

No, my friends & family feel like i should be happy i lost my baby. They don't think I'd be able to support another one even though my daughter is very well taken care of. They don't think my baby was a baby yet..but from the moment i got the positive pregnancy test i was in love. & no one understands that

I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry your family is approaching this the way they are. When a baby is lost earlier in a pregnancy people do tend to treat it as a lost pregnancy instead of a lost child. It sucks because it IS a lost child, and everything you imagined for that child is gone. So of course you are grieving. I hope they come around to at least trying to understand how you are feeling.

It's normal to go in and out of different stages of grief. I have found that keeping a journal has helped me a lot. It helps me get my feelings and emotions onto paper (or i guess computer screen). Sometimes I write my baby letters, other times I'm just writing a journal entry. Sometimes it makes me cry even more, and other times it feels therapeutic.

Hang in there. Eventually you will have "better days". Take it one day at a time. ((Hugs))

stephy1221 · July 2014

I am so sorry. It is just hard for a long time. I am more than 3 months out and I still have moments where I can't help but think about how far along I should be and how my belly should be so big and round.

Give yourself time and come here when you need to, we are here to give and receive support to one another.

LisaG09 · July 2014

As others have stated, it just takes time. You won't ever 'get over it'. I'm sorry that your friends and family don't understand but it's important that you understand. There is no wrong way to grieve. Some women cry every day for years, others don't cry once. It isn't wrong either way. Tomorrow it'll be three months since I lost my baby and today, I got choked up suddenly and the harder I tried not to cry, the harder I cried. It lasted for a few minutes and then subsided. There is no time limit. Grieve as long as you need to, as often as you need to, and in any way that you need to. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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