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WWN13 do, lack of sleep edition LONG

TJHineTJHine member
in November 2013 Moms
Ok, so I know I'm posting a lot these days about all my issues, I'm sorry for the bombardment! However, I'm really struggling and don't know what the "right" thing to do is. So here goes:

T is not, nor has he ever, STTN. The longest stretch ever was 7 hrs and that was back in December. Lately, as in the last two weeks, he has been up every hour or so at night. Before that, the usual is every 2 hrs. We co-sleep, so I'm sure this has something to do with it. Most of the time, I'm ok, but some nights I just CAN'T anymore. I'm exhausted and I'm getting irrationally frustrated at my sweet boy. I really don't want to CIO, but I don't know what else to do.
I also think he may be having his first round of separation anxiety, because he flips if I leave his line of sight (and he didn't before). I can't even shower without him freaking out (and honestly, I don't need to shower every day, but sometimes I need to when someone else isn't here to watch him, I can't help it)

What would you all do ladies, help a sleep deprived mama out!
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Re: WWN13 do, lack of sleep edition LONG

  • barista411barista411 member
    There is a killer wonder week around 34 - 37 weeks. This normally when separation anxiety hits. So it sounds like he has hit this round of wonder weeks.

    In the meantime I would maybe try moving him to is own bed. Even if it is just right next to your bed. This would allow you to try a gentle version of sleep training.

    CIO is not my cup of tea either. I tend to go for Pick Up Put Down. That is just what seems to work for us. I put DS to bed then let him fuss a little if I can tell he is ramping up to crying I pick him up calm him then put him back in bed. This way he knows I am there if he needs me but it reinforces that it is bedtime and he needs to go to bed.

    Hang in there! You are doing amazing!
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  • Karadee1Karadee1 member
    "The No Cry Sleep Solution" book has some suggestions on helping babies sleep while still cosleeping. Most of the suggestions center around helping baby to fall back to sleep on his own without CIO. We were able to help wean him from needing endlessly rocked to sleep in the middle of the night. G now wakes up 1-2 times, and still gets half a bottle in the MOTN.

    I always bring up this book, it was so helpful to us when we were at our wits end with sleeplessness and G being way overtired. The plan we followed took some patience and consistency on our part but it was worth it.

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  • mamasoup030mamasoup030 member
    I have few suggestions but lots of empathy as we are going through the same thing lately. Hayley used to sleep so well, lately it has been crap. And in the mornings, trying to load the car for daycare is miserable as soon as she can't see me she goes ballistic. I'm thinking I might get tough and move her into her room at night. I had to start putting her into her pack and play because our bed just isn't big enough for 3 anymore, and to my great surprise- she prefers it and sleeps better. It's worth a try. She's still right next to me, but sleeps better on her own. I'm hoping her current bad sleep will improve without our snoring/ moving in our sleep disturbing her. Fingers crossed for you that some improvement comes your way!
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  • mmm50mmm50 member
    We're going through the same issues TJ.  N loses his ish if he can't see me or sometimes even when I set him down and am still in plain view.  

    We started trying to get him to sleep in his crib.  Each night I put him in his crib for the first stretch of the night.  Sometimes he falls asleep nursing and I can transfer him and he stays asleep or falls right back asleep, sometimes he wakes up and screams bloody murder, and sometimes I put him in his crib after he has eaten but before he is sleeping.  

    I will let him cry for around 10 minutes.  As soon as I put him down I change into pjs, brush my teeth, take out my contacts, etc. and get ready for bed.  If he doesn't settle down or sound like he is settling down  after those 10 or 15 minutes I will go get him and we'll co-sleep that night.  So far we are 3 of 5 of him spending at least the first couple hours in his crib.  

    I actually sleep worse with him in his crib because I'm irrationally anxious about things that are very unlikely to happen (like SIDS).  But I think once he sleeps there for a while I will be more chill about those irrational fears.  

    Good luck!
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  • TJHineTJHine member
    Thank you all so much for your ideas and support. I'm sorry I totally posted and ran, but we are leaving on a trip in the AM and today has been crazy.

    I'm trying to get myself used to the idea of him sleeping in another space than me. I'm scared that he will hate it, and honestly I'm afraid of being lonely. I like to hear him breathing.

    He doesn't take a paci at all, so that isn't it.

    I think when we get back I'm going to reread all of these and try to implement some of them. Thank you again!
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