Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: SUMMER EDITION GTKY
Favorite summer family activities?
Hanging out in our pool, being able to be outside, fires in the evenings, roasting marshmallows, camping, farmer's markets, ice cream at the local creamery.
I used to read but honestly it's been a very long time and I can't see myself picking it up again any time soon with a 6 1/2 month old.
I know this is lame but I drink mostly ice water!
I don't know why but summer always makes me want grilled stuff. Burgers, brats, you name it. Also coconut shrimp.
We have no vacation plans and I'm a little upset because I found out my husband is going to participate in a big regatta in August and he's taking time off to do it. He should be using time off to do something together as a family. We haven't taken a single vacation together since we got married. Ok, I'm a lot upset.
My favorite summer family activities were always just having adventures together. I love exploring new places but some local things I'm looking forward to are sailing, going to the zoo and trying out some hiking trails.
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I'm not a fan of the hot & humid but enjoy being able to get outsude without putting on all the layers.
Reading anything good poolside/beach side/ or lake side?
Not really
Favorite summer drink (with or without alcohol)? Summer Shandy
Favorite summer foods? Grilled asparagus
Any vacation plans? DH and I are going on a weekend roadtrip to TN.
Favorite summer family activities? BBQs with family & friends.
2. Nope. Only reading websites on my puny android thing (that cant even fit a pdf reader) while DD eats.
3. Lots of water. Then margaritas on the rocks or pinot grigio or a not too buttery Chardonnay. Or some good ale. Hmm can you tell I just spent 9 months with no alcohol? Or limeade with extra lime juice to make it not too sweet. Or lemonade with extra lemon.
3. Early summer - strawberries!!! Later - corn on the cob, green beans, tomato /Basil/mozzarella salad. Really any fresh local produce. And lobster rolls and crab rolls from the place across the bay we can kayak to. But this summer we might have to drive there.
4.no. but we live in "vacationland" and it's the first summer I won't be away for most of it for my old summer job so I guess that is sortof a vacation.
5. Hiking / being outdoors. Also when it was just me and DH, kayaking. Now... we'll have to see what we enjoy doing with DD!
- yes. I love sun and warmth
Reading anything good poolside/beach side/ or lake side?
- I am not currently reading anything. I'd probably prefer to just zone out this year...having a toddler and a newborn.
Favorite summer drink (with or without alcohol)?
- frozen lime margaritas, Corona, or Coca Cola on ice
Favorite summer foods?
- bbqd steak (eat it all year), bbqd homemade burgers, I guess anything bbqd, bbqd corn on the cob
Any vacation plans?
- rent a cottage
Favorite summer family activities?
- no idea...new family, new ideas
Just finished the 8th in a series called Outlander. This one is called In My Own Heart's Blood. LOVED it and can't wait for more.