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Hey new peeps!

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First of all, congrats on your baby. Second......please don't post or reply with out taking part in the board. I see two people post under the sticky thread that didn't read to NOT post unless you are posting your birth announcement. FFS, lurk and read. That is all......




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    Reading the post is too hard.....reading is overrated.




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  • kaitm22kaitm22 member
    Thank you! That was bugging me!

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  • KatWAGKatWAG member

    Slow your roll. I didnt say anything about the Birth announcements thread i didn't even read it) . I get that its annoying but it is not the only time newbies have been jumped on for posting. It seems like in the last 4-6 weeks whenever a newbie posts, the response is along the lines of "we dont know you so screw off." Which to me seems to a knee-jerk response.

    Yes, I understand that a majority of you post here multiple times a day. But that doesn't mean that someone else cant drop in when they feel like it.

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    dogperson11 said:

    KatWAG said:

    Really? Its not your place to tell people (regs, newbies, special snowflakes, etc) where to post. I realize that this is at times a tight knit community but it is also just another internet forum. People can drop in and post whenever and how ever they like. No matter how annoying it may be.

    It really bothers me when a newbie posts a question (whether its a stupid question or a completely valid concern) and people jump down her throat. Not everyone has time/ energy to keep up with this forum. It doesnt mean they have any less of a right to post. If you arent interested in talking with a newbie, then dont reply. Its pretty easy.

    There's so much wrong with this. The birth announcement post CLEARLY states it's for announcements only - no comments, just "love it".

    This is "at times a tight knit community"?! At times? The majority of us have been here together for over 6 months. We've had ups and downs and victories with each other.

    Would you expect to walk I to a party where everyone knows everyone else and automatically get support without first trying to get the feel of the room or get to know the people? Heck no.
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    dogperson11 said:

    Really? Its not your place to tell people (regs, newbies, special snowflakes, etc) where to post. I realize that this is at times a tight knit community but it is also just another internet forum. People can drop in and post whenever and how ever they like. No matter how annoying it may be.

    It really bothers me when a newbie posts a question (whether its a stupid question or a completely valid concern) and people jump down her throat. Not everyone has time/ energy to keep up with this forum. It doesnt mean they have any less of a right to post. If you arent interested in talking with a newbie, then dont reply. Its pretty easy.

    There's so much wrong with this. The birth announcement post CLEARLY states it's for announcements only - no comments, just "love it". This is "at times a tight knit community"?! At times? The majority of us have been here together for over 6 months. We've had ups and downs and victories with each other. Would you expect to walk I to a party where everyone knows everyone else and automatically get support without first trying to get the feel of the room or get to know the people? Heck no.


    I understand that the birth announcements thread is for birth announcements. But please stop acting like its an actual, real rule that only announcements and "love its" are allowed. Its a courtesy.

    And in all seriousness, I think its great that so many of you are so close. But that doesnt mean that there arent other people here looking to get a question answered.

    Non-regs keep getting smacked around and told how to post when it isnt anyones place to tell another poster how to post. If you dont want to supprt someone you dont know, then ignore them. That is the beauty of an internet forum.

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  • dogperson11dogperson11 member
    KatWAG said:


    dogperson11 said:

    Really? Its not your place to tell people (regs, newbies, special snowflakes, etc) where to post. I realize that this is at times a tight knit community but it is also just another internet forum. People can drop in and post whenever and how ever they like. No matter how annoying it may be.

    It really bothers me when a newbie posts a question (whether its a stupid question or a completely valid concern) and people jump down her throat. Not everyone has time/ energy to keep up with this forum. It doesnt mean they have any less of a right to post. If you arent interested in talking with a newbie, then dont reply. Its pretty easy.

    There's so much wrong with this. The birth announcement post CLEARLY states it's for announcements only - no comments, just "love it". This is "at times a tight knit community"?! At times? The majority of us have been here together for over 6 months. We've had ups and downs and victories with each other. Would you expect to walk I to a party where everyone knows everyone else and automatically get support without first trying to get the feel of the room or get to know the people? Heck no.


    I understand that the birth announcements thread is for birth announcements. But please stop acting like its an actual, real rule that only announcements and "love its" are allowed. Its a courtesy.

    And in all seriousness, I think its great that so many of you are so close. But that doesnt mean that there arent other people here looking to get a question answered.

    Non-regs keep getting smacked around and told how to post when it isnt anyones place to tell another poster how to post. If you dont want to supprt someone you dont know, then ignore them. That is the beauty of an internet forum.


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    If new people want to make friends and join in, fine, but be courteous. Also, no one is telling posters how to post (besides the birth announcement thread), but new posters are getting all butt hurt if they don't like the responses they're receiving. You don't get to decide how people respond to your questions. "That is the beauty of an Internet forum."
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    KatWAG said:
    dogperson11 said:

    Really? Its not your place to tell people (regs, newbies, special snowflakes, etc) where to post. I realize that this is at times a tight knit community but it is also just another internet forum. People can drop in and post whenever and how ever they like. No matter how annoying it may be.

    It really bothers me when a newbie posts a question (whether its a stupid question or a completely valid concern) and people jump down her throat. Not everyone has time/ energy to keep up with this forum. It doesnt mean they have any less of a right to post. If you arent interested in talking with a newbie, then dont reply. Its pretty easy.

    There's so much wrong with this. The birth announcement post CLEARLY states it's for announcements only - no comments, just "love it". This is "at times a tight knit community"?! At times? The majority of us have been here together for over 6 months. We've had ups and downs and victories with each other. Would you expect to walk I to a party where everyone knows everyone else and automatically get support without first trying to get the feel of the room or get to know the people? Heck no.


    I understand that the birth announcements thread is for birth announcements. But please stop acting like its an actual, real rule that only announcements and "love its" are allowed. Its a courtesy.

    And in all seriousness, I think its great that so many of you are so close. But that doesnt mean that there arent other people here looking to get a question answered.

    Non-regs keep getting smacked around and told how to post when it isnt anyones place to tell another poster how to post. If you dont want to supprt someone you dont know, then ignore them. That is the beauty of an internet forum.


    What threads are they getting told how to post? I am honestly asking, maybe I missed it.

     

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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
    jillielizabeth said:

    Slow your roll. I didnt say anything about the Birth announcements thread i didn't even read it) . I get that its annoying but it is not the only time newbies have been jumped on for posting. It seems like in the last 4-6 weeks whenever a newbie posts, the response is along the lines of "we dont know you so screw off." Which to me seems to a knee-jerk response.

    Yes, I understand that a majority of you post here multiple times a day. But that doesn't mean that someone else cant drop in when they feel like it.

    You may not have mentioned the announcement thread, but @aelhunt‌ clearly did. I see responses to new posters the opposite as you. When someone takes the time to introduce themselves they receive a warm response. In contrast when someone blatantly disregards the intent of a thread or asks a question for the umpteenth time and then disappears without so much as a thanks, that will get a negative response. It's not clique-ish, it's common courtesy. Of course some of us are more active than others and that's fine, but understand that this is a community: a give and take of information and experiences. I think newcomers are welcome if they are truly interested in joining.
     
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    I think that is a fair point. And I agree with it on principle. But I haven seen a number of time where the poster is met with hostility.
     
    I remember a huge uptick in newbie threads about a month ago. And the response wasnt great.
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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
    jillielizabeth said:

    Slow your roll. I didnt say anything about the Birth announcements thread i didn't even read it) . I get that its annoying but it is not the only time newbies have been jumped on for posting. It seems like in the last 4-6 weeks whenever a newbie posts, the response is along the lines of "we dont know you so screw off." Which to me seems to a knee-jerk response.

    Yes, I understand that a majority of you post here multiple times a day. But that doesn't mean that someone else cant drop in when they feel like it.

    You may not have mentioned the announcement thread, but @aelhunt‌ clearly did. I see responses to new posters the opposite as you. When someone takes the time to introduce themselves they receive a warm response. In contrast when someone blatantly disregards the intent of a thread or asks a question for the umpteenth time and then disappears without so much as a thanks, that will get a negative response. It's not clique-ish, it's common courtesy. Of course some of us are more active than others and that's fine, but understand that this is a community: a give and take of information and experiences. I think newcomers are welcome if they are truly interested in joining.
     
    (SITB)
    I think that is a fair point. And I agree with it on principle. But I haven seen a number of time where the poster is met with hostility.
     
    I remember a huge uptick in newbie threads about a month ago. And the response wasnt great.
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  • allygirl520allygirl520 member
    edited July 2014
    Oh look, someone saying something that has been said a million times on every Bump board.  If you don't like how we roll, then scooch on over to Baby Center or something.  You could support us, instead of putting us down... :(

    ETA: This is in response to the White Knight up there.

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  • shaylagirlshaylagirl member
    KatWAG said:

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    I think that is a fair point. And I agree with it on principle. But I haven seen a number of time where the poster is met with hostility.
     
    I remember a huge uptick in newbie threads about a month ago. And the response wasnt great.
    Because they were just jumping in without so much as an introduction.  THAT is what had so many of us up in arms. 

    Those who took the time to say "Hi!  My name is...I'm due on.....I'm having....Nice to meet you all!" were met with open arms and questions and were well received.

    Those who didn't weren't well-received.

    Or, as has been suggested time and time again here; it's like walking in to a room where there are already conversations going on and just screaming out your question/thought without so much as a "How do you do".  You wouldn't do it in the real world, why is it any more acceptable to do it here?  Don't society's rules factor in here?  Just because we're communicating via keyboard instead of our vocal cords doesn't negate the way we interact with one another here.
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    YoginiKiki said:
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    #1.  If you don't like what we are serving...don't eat here.

    #2. There are plenty of other internet forums and google searchbars that can answer all of your mucus plug related questions.  This isn't Dr. Google, this is a community.  One that I rely on heavily and will get up in arms for because it is one of the few that I truly feel like I belong in.

    Go ahead...I dare you to call me an internet loser.  Comment on how I dont have IRL communities.  IDGAF.
     
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    I understand that this is a community. But it is also a place for questions and mucus plugs or braxton hicks. There are threads about these very types of issues happening right now.
     
    And I never said anything even remotely close to calling someone an "internet loser" or made a comment about real ife. I obviously dont have any issue with internet forums since I participate in them. Those are your own insecurities coming out. But it is a perfect example of the hostility I was referring to.
     
    Some people have stated th at they believe newbies have been welcomed here. I really hope that is the case and I am just remembering the exceptions.
     
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  • Kferrell0201Kferrell0201 member
    I was FLAMED very early on for "white knighting" and accusing people of being hostile toward newbies. I stuck around though, and there have been a few times when I was annoyed by a Reg's harsh response. BUT... I have recieved A LOT of very appreciated support during several difficult times throughout my pregnancy. I have also grown to love and care about several members of this BMB. So it annoyed me quite a bit as well to log on and see there was 2 new posts that were actually just comments! My heart had sank thinking someone had something go wrong, and I think thats why the majority of people are so upset about the posts.
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