January 2015 Moms
indojay3
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Judgemental Parents=Judgemental Children
indojay3
member
I'm usually not one to stick my nose into other people's business, but I have to take a moment out of my life to call some of you out. I'm sure by the end of this you'll feel something. Whether it's anger at me, happiness that someone is speaking out , if you've been a victim, or if it just simply changes some of the opinions you had on things. What I'm asking before I go on is that you keep an open mind and read this until I finish. A lot of moms, specifically second or (whatever) time mommies, like to attack other people who are trying to find a parenting style that works for them. The whole breast is best policy isn't the only way to feed a Child. C'mon we all know this. We should also all know that is is never okay to ostracize, criticize, or call another woman selfish if she choose NOT to feed from her natural supply, or CANNOT feed from her natural supply. There are many different reasons a woman decides to choose the path she takes... And I'm sure you and your very opinionated self were not on her things to worry about. Trust me she has 1,000 other things she's worried about. Also, there are some of you against keeping pets, against having intercourse while pregnant, against this against that, yatta yatta. I could go on all day. But think about this... How did you feel during your pregnancy when 50 different people wanted to put their input in on your parenting style. I'm sure my mom got shit for spanking me, but I sure as he'll love her for it. Let me set you straight now I was NEVER beaten or mistreated as I child. I was actually spoiled as hell, but nothing kept me in line more than a good old fashion hand to the bottom. I turned out just fine without breast milk, my mother was probably sexually active while pregnant... Not that'd I know or anything but isn't that how I got here? I graduated high school with a 4.0 GPA, and I'm in college now focusing on what's best for me and my soon to be family. The point is there are so many ways to parent. Your way isn't the right way. Your words as parents can hurt people, and they stick to your children who learn all of life's lessons from their own life and your teachings. No one wants to raise the bully who forces other children to self harm, no one wants to see their child in jail for a hate crime. Please realize your fault as parents, take some responsibility and clean up your language to other people and around your children. Judgemental parents call for judgmental children. Just think how much better we'd all be if we minded our own business.
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Re: Judgemental Parents=Judgemental Children
I feel like this post is trying to start/perpetuate some "mommy wars."
Look, if you are seeking validation from the internet about your parenting choices, you are looking in the wrong place. Everyone here wants to do what is best for their kids. If you ask for an opinion, as a second time mom, I will give it to you. It probably won't line up 100% with what you want to hear. We know you are trying your best. We all are. Its just very easy to take things personally when the conversation is so near and dear to your heart.
This is why when I ask for internet opinions it is usually about things that are fun for me to discuss, like who was the greatest baseball player of all time. I have a soft spot for The Babe, but would love to see how he stacks up against some of the modern players.
TLDR I don't care what you do with your boobs, but if you ask, I will tell you what I did with mine.
<p align="center"BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
i vote troll.
BFP#1 EDD 04.20.2010, SUNSHINE baby boy born 03.31.2010
BFP#2 EDD 12.07.2014, natural mc 04.09.2014 at 5w3d
BFP#3 EDD 01.14.15, RAINBOW baby girl born 01.16.2015
jan'15 january siggy challenge: baby fails
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Carry on.
Did I miss something while sleeping til noon today?
DSS: 15 DS: 7
DD born 1/3/15
J15 June Siggy Challenge - Fave TV Dad (Sandy Cohen)
dx: Unexplained IF
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
If you spent any time on this board, you would see that most people are pretty open-minded about things like formula vs. breast milk, sex during pregnancy, etc.
It seems like you feel like you've been attacked and abused in the past. My mom has a lot of opinions about things, and I've just learned to say, "Oh, thanks for that advice. I will take it into consideration, and DH and I will do what we feel is best for our family."
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I don't think a tl;dr would help in this case :P