What not to say to a working mom (vent)

lmac2582 · June 2014

So a client that I had helped while I was pregnant came in today and saw the picture of my baby on my desk. It's her 2 months sticker picture and she asked me how old she was ... "Two months" I said. "Oh really?! How long have you been back to work?" I told her just this week and she says to me "yeah I just loved my kids too much to go back to work" . My head spun and I looked at her and said "I guess I love mine too much to not be able to give her what she needs and wants" Then tried to get her out of my office ASAP. She's married to a Doctor and I'm married to a manager at target... People are awful.

Ksample89 · June 2014

Some people are just asses

WifeofaComposer · June 2014

You definitely handled that like a lady - I would've gotten nasty before she'd have known what was going on. I've been getting shit because I'm NOT going back to work. My husband and I decided that my earnings would be just enough to pay for childcare (it's ridiculously expensive here), so it wouldn't be worth it for me to work. He certainly doesn't earn much, but we're managing. Don't listen to asinine comments from people who have no idea what your situation is - you're doing the right thing for your daughter because you do love her.

Mustardseed2007 · June 2014

Good for you for calling her out on it- she clearly doesn't think!!!

RedBird11 · June 2014

That would really piss me off! I'm like you... I work because I DO love my LO too much. We couldn't provide for him if I didn't work .

Rrrrrachel · June 2014

What is wrong with people?!?

mamamaei · June 2014

Just wow! Some people don't even think

LaNorte · June 2014

Excellent reply! Good for you!

BiggerinRealLife · June 2014

Wow. I love to say to unthinking people: "Do you realize what you just said?" and watch them backpedal.

heids4787 · June 2014

W-O-W... I would have totally froze if someone said that to me. Although my salary pays a little more than covering daycare, it still helps support our family. Plus, I genuinely like working, but it doesn't mean I love DD any less. Sounds like this woman is a helicopter mom in the making. What was her reaction after sticking it to her?

ashcole28 · June 2014

What a d bag! Seriously?!?! Who does that?!?! Everyone's situation is different and that snooty bitch does know yours! You handled it very well!

MrsZ0811 · June 2014

Thats Horrible! I am a SAHM and I would never dream of saying anything like that! I realize that I am lucky to be able to be a SAHM. Some people are just so ignorant and the things that come out of their mouths! You handled it so well, if it was me, i would have hauled off and decked her!

NatalieBier · June 2014

She sucks.

lmac2582 · June 2014

After i said that she was like "well I guess I never really worked even before my kids" Barf! Is that supposed to somehow make it better? By now rubbing in that you have never been a peasant like me and worked for a living. The worst part is she never even realized she was being a bitch. She is so pretentious that it never even occurred to her that I was offended. Once we were over the "you're shit for working" she assumed that my mom was watching the baby since I wasn't. As if that is the only other acceptable option. So I think she felt sorry for me when I said "no she goes to a sitter, my mom works too" I really wanted to say " I come from a long line of working women who just have kids to pay someone else to watch them because we obviously don't love them if we work".

I didn't add all this to the first post because I had a limited amount of time before the screaming for a bottle began.

goblue555 · June 2014

lmac2582 said:
After i said that she was like "well I guess I never really worked even before my kids" Barf! Is that supposed to somehow make it better? By now rubbing in that you have never been a peasant like me and worked for a living. The worst part is she never even realized she was being a bitch. She is so pretentious that it never even occurred to her that I was offended. Once we were over the "you're shit for working" she assumed that my mom was watching the baby since I wasn't. As if that is the only other acceptable option. So I think she felt sorry for me when I said "no she goes to a sitter, my mom works too" I really wanted to say " I come from a long line of working women who just have kids to pay someone else to watch them because we obviously don't love them if we work".

I didn't add all this to the first post because I had a limited amount of time before the screaming for a bottle began.

I get this all the time about who is watching my kids. 1) my parents both work 2) our nanny is WAY better with my kids then my parents would be!

allyandmike24 · June 2014

Eff that entitled, out of touch bee-otch. You're an awesome Mama and don't ever forget it.

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