Our twins will be arriving soon and I am starting to worry about how to schedule them sleeping, feeding, & playing/stimulation wise. I'm a FTM so everything is new to me. I've read books about scheduling twins but I'd rather hear what actually works for other twin moms. I do plan on breastfeeding & pumping and I also plan on waking when they need to eat so they are on the same schedule. I'd like to tandem feed if possible or at least feed them around the same time... Is that possible for you all? What is your schedule like?
Re: Twin sleep & eat schedule
They were both in the NICU, but upon discharge they wanted me to feed half fortified bottles of BM and I preferred to nurse on demand bc pumping and bottle feeding is so much more time intensive than just whipping out a boob. I knew they didn't have any problems nursing effectively - I'd just have to do it more often. So I nursed and nursed and nursed. Plan on 8x-12x a day.
I logged all feeding for 4 months to look for patterns. I let them take the lead on creating their own schedule. Usually if they ate at the same time, they also slept at the same time. But not always.
Around 4 mo, the feeding schedule jelled. Their schedule seemed to need an adjustment every 2-3 mo throughout the first year as they dropped naps and started eating meals.
Don't force it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. There's a fine line between consistency and insanity. (I feel like I toe that line daily, haha!).
In the future I'll likely start tracking nap and feeding times, which I did with my singleton. But right now it's kinda pointless.
Full disclosure: they were never in the NICU or had any semblance of a schedule set by me or nurses.
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
Around 5 months things started to settle and by 6 months their nap patterns were pretty solid and they were sleeping through the night, so that's when we started one up both up and really keeping a strict feeding together schedule.
Tracking their napping and feeding habits around 5 months helped us figure out their general patterns.
If nursing is your goal, focus on nursing on demand- you may not leave your sofa for hours- but that's okay- it's how you get nursing established. Get as much help with their latch as you can before you leave the hospital (nursing 2 is uncomfortable the first week- it gets a lot better). Re tandem nursing- you'll decide what works for you- in the very beginning one at a time is easier so you can focus on getting the latch right (it really takes 2 hands at first).
Re the pump- if things are going well, don't pump for at least a few wks. Look for babies to swallow during nursing, wet/poopy diapers, weight to stabilize then go up. If your babies are doing well with nursing, there's no need to complicate things with pumping (at least not for a little while when you'll want to be able to leave and have something for them to eat when you're away.)
Good luck!
Eva, born on 1/2/11
Celia and Lily, born on 5/17/13