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DH not excited to share news

tlc4mamatlc4mama member
in February 2015 Moms
My MIL and BIL tend to be judgy McJudgersons and will almost definitely have something negative to say about our exciting news.  I completely understand that our family is larger than the norm but I feel that unless they pay my bills then they are not allowed to share their opinion and rain on our parade.  This baby is a complete surprise.  Yes, sometimes we are overwhelmed.  Yes, my DH works A LOT.  But I wish that if they have something to say other than "Congratulations!", that they would please keep it to themselves.  We shouldn't feel like we have to stifle our excitement because of their negativity.

*Rant over*
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  • misskaydeemisskaydee member
    I completely understand and am a little hesitant to share the news for this reason too. FIL expects us to always follow in their footsteps and since they had a girl and a boy, when we had our second and it was a boy he kept saying it was great that our family was complete.. um, did I say that FIL??
    It can be frustrating that everyone seems to have an opinion on such a personal decision, I hope your DH's family can be non-judgy and excited for you when you share the news!
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  • HernsyHernsy member
    Isn't it funny how people like to think they know what is best for us? Don't stifle! A baby is a blessing no matter what & I know when they hold that baby for the first time they'll think it too!!

    However, I am also the type that would tell someone, "Thanks for your opinion, but it's my life." :D
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  • tlc4mamatlc4mama member
    It's nice to be in this forum where we are all genuinely excited for one another  <:-P
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  • thegoodpotatothegoodpotato

    My brother can be a bit of a douche.  This baby is definitely a surprise, and makes things really complicated for our family in the upcoming future.

    My brother keeps hinting at me that I should "get rid of it".  I am definitely pro-choice, but I would never have an abortion because the baby is 'inconvenient'. 

    The first thing he said to me when we told our family was that I could "have it taken care of".  He hinted at it again when we discussed what my mom's reaction was.  I mentioned that this will be my second Canada Day in a row that I'm pregnant and can't participate in the Canada Day festivities (i.e. drinking until we're silly), and guess what came up?

    I tend to ignore him because he thinks it's funny to get people's goats.  I know he's just saying it to see if he can get a rise out of me, and tact isn't always his strong point.  But jeez, I want to bring the nut-punch bus sometimes.

    Just life with my brother.  We don't have a strained relationship or anything.  He's just a bit of an emotionless robot, and I accept that part of him.  Oh, brothers....

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  • tlc4mamatlc4mama member
    Wow. I can't say that my ILs would suggest that. They'd just make snide comments about how we're going to handle another. Like we've ever asked them for anything. We don't even leave our boys with sitters. I really don't know what their beef is.

    I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that from your brother. Hopefully he tones it down soon.
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  • thegoodpotatothegoodpotato

    Haha... I have learned through the years to mostly ignore what he says.  He's just that kind of guy.  It's really hard to describe our relationship - we still like each other, but I think it's because I'm really good at compartmentalizing my emotions when I'm around him.  My little sister has more trouble with it because she can't take emotion out of the equation at all when interacting with people.

    I'm sorry your ILs are so judgemental.  There were a few women on my other BMB that had 5 or 6 children and felt judged for having so many.  The more, the merrier, says I.  :)

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  • reneamac313reneamac313 member
    I'm sorry about all that. I definitely feel your pain...my family are the ones who are judgy McJudgersons. My DH and I have decided to hold off until 13w to tell anyone mainly because of them. I know if they were to find out now they would do all that they could to turn this into a negative situation, which it is far from that! His family has been completely supportive of us in every way and I would like to tell them but if my family found out that my ILs knew before them we would never live it down. I put some distance in between us for a reason and only maintain contact with them for my niece (who I raised when she was younger).
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  • amt0312amt0312 member
    I say be excited regardless of their opinion or negativity! I mean, what's better than pissing them off even more as you act completely oblivious to their obvious disapproval? Just keep acting happy!!!!!
    Just be completely over the top happy to really get them going. 

    And report back. Thx
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  • HerHighnessHerHighness member
    I have a lot of siblings (my parents married young then divorced and both had more) i think as long as you are paying your own bills it's nobody's business if you want to have 2, 4, 6, 8 or completely Dugger out.

    To many people in this world think they have the right to comment on somebody else's business. Its bullshit.
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