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Needing input

Doubletrouble12Doubletrouble12 member
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I don't post very often so here's a little background..I have twin DDs that are 21months and 
twins SDs that are 8.  They are home EOW Friday to Friday.  I work full time and am off every other weekend, which
is the weekend they are home.  Right before they come home I'm so stressed out and really don't look forward to it.  
My DH has a weird schedule as well so a lot of times he is working some of the weekend they are home. 

I feel like the weekend is supposed to be somewhat enjoyable and I just don't really enjoy it. I'm fine taking my DDs
out to do things or visiting family when my DH is working, but feel like it's so much extra when I have my SDs as well.  I really wish I enjoyed them
being home more but have not got to that point. Before the younger ones arrived I do feel like I had a better relationship with them.  
I just don't know what would help.  I don't feel like my DH really understands where I'm coming from since he is not a step-parent.  He is also not great about talking about things.  Any input or similar situations?


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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    That is a Lot of children to handle on your own which explains feeling overwhelmed! I don't have any advice. I'm sure the ladies on here will be very helpful for you but I get why you feel how you feel and hope that you can come to some resolution that will help. Adding working full time - sheesh! You have a lot on your plate!
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  • alb2411alb2411 member
    Could you also employ your SDs to help out with the younger kids? That way they feel like they have an important responsibility that also gives you a little breather while the four kids entertain each other, and could also give the siblings another opportunity to bond. 
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  • Doubletrouble12Doubletrouble12 member
    Thanks for the input! I didn't want to just seem like I was complaining. I'm glad others agree that it is alot to handle! I like the idea about planning ahead and maybe having a little help and having the older girls help. 
      @miraclebbye I've thought about switching weekends but then I'd feel bad because my DH would have all 4 all weekend when I work, plus if he has to work then I have to figure out babysitting. I work 12hr shifts too. It sounds so nice though having my weekend when they are gone though.  

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