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Samantha Skye - Aug 30, 2006 AND Maxwell Griffin - April 14, 2009
Stupid and flamable: Disappointed in gender of baby? Long.
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I knew it was a boy. I felt like it was a boy. From day one, I've thought "Boy". But it COULD be a girl. DD (2 yo) kept saying it was a sister, and I would light up at the thought. (I always wanted a sister -- I actually always wanted an OLDER sister. Mom said she could not help me on that one.) But doc says it's a boy. We have the name almost picked out. I want to make some stuff just for him. I don't know if it's just because he's the second born (like me) and we've gone through this all before, or if it's a boy, but there just doesn't seem to be any excitement. And, ashamed to say, I think I would be more excited if it were two girls. I could picture two girls playing princesses together, etc. I just don't know what to picture an older sis and younger brother playing, even though my older bro and I played Star Trek and Star Wars from a young age.
I'm not really upset that it's a boy. I'm kind of upset at all the stupid people who said, "Make this one a boy, will you?" (Dad, bro, even DH wanted it to be a boy.) Like two girls would be deficient in some way.
I know I've posted about this before, but I have this idea in the back of my head that "they could be wrong". It could still be a girl. (I didn't see the goods and the doc said she held the reservation to change her mind, but was pretty confident.)
I love my little guy. I love feeling him move around. But I just don't know what to do with a boy. I can't wait to hold him in my arms, so all doubt will go out the window and I can just snuggle him, know he's mine and that no matter what, I love my daughter and I love my son. I'm just a bit confused here.
(And yes, BTW, I am very happy that I got pg so easily and that my baby is healthy. I am blessed on both counts.)
Samantha Skye - Aug 30, 2006 AND Maxwell Griffin - April 14, 2009
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Re: Stupid and flamable: Disappointed in gender of baby? Long.
natural mc @ 10w4d 3/7/10
DS2 born 9/13/12
Eh, you'll get over it when he's born and love him. And I know plenty of big sister/little brother combos (including my nieces/nephews on each side) that get along and play together great.
It's totally understandable and a normal reaction, especially when its the second child. We found out we're having another boy and while I'm getting excited, my inital response was less than stellar.
People will never learn to keep their traps shut; everyone has an opinion about what sex your babies should be -- as if you could pick!
congrats on your boy ... BOYS ROCK!! You'll see; you are going to LOVE him.
wow.
I really love having a little brother. We're 3 years apart and always played together. We're really close and good friends as adults.
The morning of my u/s I asked my dad what he thought it would be. ?he said "God loves me, he will give me a granddaughter."
Well, I had to call him after the u/s and tell him that God does not love him, and he is having a grandson.
You get what you get and I believe it is that way because it was meant to be. ?The idea you had in your head (and what everyone else has) was not the way it was supposed to be. ?
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Thanks for giving me support, ladies. I guess I can look forward to my little guy trying to protect his big sister on her first date, on my little girl giving her bro dating tips. On her dressing him up like Snow White.
I will always love both my kids, no matter what their gender, but it's one of those crazy things that I just am having trouble picturing.
Samantha Skye - Aug 30, 2006 AND Maxwell Griffin - April 14, 2009
You ARE lucjy to have one of each.
And I PROMISE you, you will be so in love with him. LIttle boys LOVE thier mommies, they are awed by them...he will be your little man. and DD will be Daddy's girl!
Agreed.
My brother and I are also about 3 yrs apart... he also has a learning disability, so he doesn't act nearly his age. I never, ever once said I wished I had a sister. I always wanted my brother to be OLDER, only to protect me- which he's done now that he's 6'4" anyways!!
It wont be a disappointment to DD if you don't let on it is to YOU.
I am laughing about you telling your dad God does not love him! HAHAHAHA...my best friend wanted a boy SO BAD! and she had a girl. she was heartbroken after the ultrasound and now she loves that little girl so much she wants ANOTHER girl next time around! (I want a girl too, but will be fine if its a boy, he will be my little buddy)
Seriously?? H's grandmother, who is over 100, also said "Well, we need a girl in this family now," but I attribute it to her dimentia. People can suck it if they're annoyed at whatever sex we end up having, and they can blame my husband.
I could have written this post myself! Except we are having two girls instead of one of each. I thought FOR SURE since this pregnancy was so different that it was a boy. Didn't help that the whole family was saying (i.e., hoping in my opinion) that it was a boy. When the Dr. said GIRL I think I was in a state of shock. Left the Dr's office, got in the elevator and lost it. Then after it sunk in I started thinking of all of the reasons it would be great to have a girl. Now I go back next week to confirm the gender and now I'm hoping they are right and it's still a girl. Funny how our pregnancy mind works.
And yes, I agree with you-I am also happy that we got pg so easily (this time around, the first time took 2 years and a lot of work!) but I think I was set on only 2 kids so the thought of not experiencing a boy at first was tough. Now I'm excited to be raising best friends! That, or arch enemies, but I'm hoping for the best
Good luck to you too!
Ok I just LOL at my desk! I love that you told him God does not love him, he's having a grandson. Too funny!!
My younger brother and I are super close. He is best friends with my husband, we do everything together, we'll be spending new years eve together, he loves coming over and helping me around the house, he was the best man in our wedding (my husband's choice - but I encouraged it!). I couldn't have asked for a better sibling!