Sharing TEDx talk on IF warning-sad video

AMShark · June 2014

I came across Kara DeFrias's TEDx talk on IF, and I thought I'd share. YouTube link: TEDx: Cloudy with a Chance of Baby

I'm a mostly closeted IF sufferer - I've told a select audience. I don't know if this talk is going to change my mind completely (I did consider posting it to my FB page, but I'm still not ready to go quite *that* public).

At the very least, this talk made me reflect on how much of an improvement I have felt since finding an on-line community that understands what I'm going through.

So, thanks, ladies, for making IF suck a little less.

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Subject line edited to warn people that the content of the video may be considered sad. (No resolution to the speakers IF issues).

Carol77B · June 2014

Thanks for sharing, I'm going to watch when I get home. Did you see on USAToday where the Today style editor (I don't watch, so I don't recognizer her) announced that she is fat because she is doing IVF? That made me pretty grateful to her for putting herself out there like that: https://entertainthis.usatoday.com/2014/06/27/today-show-bobbie-thomas-buzz-ivf-weight-gain/

My husband is pretty private about our IVF and didn't want me to post on FB about it (I wish I could post on FB that's why I'm fat!!!), which has been hard, because I would like to be out there with it and get the support of my larger friend community; instead just a few close friends and family members know the details. I have decided that when there is a point where I can share news on FB that I will mention how long and how many IVFs it took us, so that I'm putting that out there, even if I don't share it along the way.

I'm super grateful to have this on-line community, too. Thanks to everyone on here.

Carol77B · June 2014

It sounded like people were posting mean things on her Instagram and FB page along the lines of "Is that a baby or a burrito belly?" I was really surprised about the IVF weight gain- I think it is a good thing for that possibility to be publicized more. I've been worried about people I work with speculating that I'm pregnant when it is really the IVF meds, stress, exercise restrictions, etc.

AMShark · June 2014

Carol77B said:

... I've been worried about people I work with speculating that I'm pregnant when it is really the IVF meds, stress, exercise restrictions, etc.

I know how you feel. I was more bloated after my loss than I was during my short pregnancy. I absolutely dreaded the idea that someone would ask me if I was sporting a "baby bump."

Thankfully, no one said anything to me, but I couldn't help but wonder if people were speculating.

pblge · June 2014

***Just a warning that this video is a pretty sad story, so it might be hard for some people.***

I'm not out because eventually lots of older childless women will be voting on whether or not I get to keep my job, and I suspect not all of them would be supportive of the fact that I've had somewhat special treatment because of IF. I hope to come out after that vote.

And YES about the bloating and being nervous about questions! During this last round I really looked pregnant in the last few days before ER. We even took a photo in the pregnancy pose asthis may be as close as I ever get. I was NOT sticking my belly out!

AMShark · June 2014

@pblge - Thanks for the note - I hadn't thought to include a warning, but I've just added one to the subject line of this thread. (Good lookin' out)

btw - I *wish* that's what I looked like bloated. I wouldn't even look like that after a 7 day master cleanse followed by a colonic .... and pneumonia.... with my jaw wired shut. (I could keep going...).

I am wishing you do get your real bump someday soon - but I know you'll carry cute. If I'm ever lucky enough to make it to a baby bump, I can guarantee you, it ain't gonna be pretty (but, none of us is really going for pretty :@) ).

poohniki · June 2014

I might watch the TED video but I shared the Today Show story about Bobbie Thomas on Facebook. I wrote about how important it is for the media to shine some light on this issue, so I am very honored to share on my page. I spent years keeping it a secret and I am so glad I am no longer doing that. I have nothing to be shameful about.

Thanks for sharing

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