Parents and In laws announcements

Kelley6 · June 2014

Has anyone announced their preganancy to your parents and in laws? I am just curious. My husband and I are thinking about waiting until August to make the announcement.

4RingCircus · June 2014

I told my mom the day I got my BFP. We are going to visit my in laws on the East Coast in a few weeks so our plan is to tell them then.

MrsLaurenandDan · June 2014

I've told my mom and dad (divorced) and we'll tell my ILs this weekend.

Momarazzi007 · June 2014

We are waiting to FIL's bday mid July. Which is funny bc he hates celebrating it And having me there... (He doesn't like that I'm not a stay in my place meek woman- he asked if I talked to my father that way when I called him out for lying one day and I said- who do you think taught me?!?!). So they might know something is up- but hubs wants to tell everyone where I'd be happy to just keep it to ourselves to stave off inlaw drama. But I made a photo puzzle of us from Halloween last year (divert your judgemenatal eyes) we went as Superman,woman and girl and for pic I held up a newborn Superman onsie and at bottom of puzzle it says expecting a super addition! I have put it together w DD several times so whenever she sees it she gets super excited and has to do it right then. This will force them to do it right away.

copperrose · June 2014

We told both sets last night over FaceTime (we are long distance for both).

karencz · June 2014

Yep we told parents and ILs, that is it for now though

MrsT11 · June 2014

This is our first pregnancy and although we are busting at the seems to tell the world, my wife and I are going to wait until August to share the big news! Plus we want to incorporate a sonogram photo!!

ker180 · June 2014

We are telling our parents today when we travel back home. We are not announcing it to anyone else until my first apt in August.

uromys · June 2014

We plan on telling both sets of parents this weekend. Since I am rarely one to turn down a glass of wine at a family dinner I think they may catch on anyways.

jkremp · June 2014

We have told my parents because they provided a lot of support (especially in the form of childcare) during all our RE appts so they knew where we were in the process!!

FrecklesInside · June 2014

We will tell my parents soon. I'd need their support if we had a loss. We will wait until 13 weeks to tell his parents and any other family and friends.

lifeisnot2fear · June 2014

Not yet. We are having a family dinner tonight with his mom and Aunt who is in from out of town. Our plan is to get there early and prep the waiter to make sure there is NO alcohol in the drink I order even though I will probably order some type of mixed drink. They would be very suspicious if I didn't order a drink. We do want to tell his mom soon, but not tonight with his Aunt, her ex and their daughter, and their daughters friend in tow. We'll prob see her in the next 2 weeks to celebrate MH's birthday, so we'll tell her then. My mom won't find out until after we hear a heart beat and sometime right before the rest of the world knows because she has a big mouth.

My MIL actually picked up the "Baby Maker" beer brewery shirt I gave my husband to announce to him. She frequents that brewery and I told her it was for "way in the future to announce to him", but I know she knows it's coming soon. So I think we'll meet her for dinner or have her over and he'll be wearing the shirt to announce it to her. My mom is long distance, so we may have her go to my sister's house where we can tell her via Skype.

PHNJenna · June 2014

We just told my MIL last night, we tried calling the Dad's too (my Dad & FIL are in Alaska together right now) but they weren't able to talk at the moment (bummer

), so we'll try again tomorrow when we can all get on speaker phone.

cafecreme · June 2014

we're waiting until our initial ultrasound, sometime around late July. My husbands birthday is early august, so I was thinking of maybe of planning a party for him, and then inviting everyone and during it we would announce.

YellowBag · June 2014

I am going to try to wait until my dad's birthday (July 18) to tell my parents. We'll tell my in-laws once we hit second tri.

CoozieInMyPurse · June 2014

My parents are on an extended RV trip right now and hard to get in touch with besides text. So I'll wait until they are back home in mid-July and find a weekend soon after to drive up (4 hours from us) and tell them in person. His parents are here in town, but circumstances and busy weekends mean we probably won't see them to tell them in person for another couple of weeks, which works for me. I'd rather make sure all is looking good, especially after the way the nurse scared me yesterday, before we tell them.

wishiwaspreggo · June 2014

We're telling my parents tomorrow before we go up to NW IN to resentfully attend a bridal shower (long story, will probably bitch about it at some point on this board. Back to happier topics!). We bought a jar of Prego sauce (like my avatar!), spaghetti, and little bottles of Corona. We're going to pretend we're dropping off dinner and drinks and let them make the connection.

My mom texted me about my IUI yesterday. I told her I wasn't allowed to test until Saturday. I've known since Tuesday and I feel kinda bad I haven't said anything yet - was really tempted to Facetime her and Dad. But it's more fun in person and they're on the way to NW IN so it's easy enough to stop by and tell them

I'm going to tell close friends tomorrow after I tell my parents - basically anyone who I'd feel comfortable with sharing news of a CP or miscarriage. I'm going to need people to cry to if this doesn't work out, you know?

I'll tell my parents that they can announce it to anyone they'd like on the condition that they be the one to tell them I miscarried if it happens.

We're telling C's mom mid-July when we take our trip together to California. She's going to wonder why I'm not drinking and why I'm moving kinda slow if my symptoms are bad. She'll be really excited, too This is both my and C's moms' first grandkids!!

WalkersFurMama · June 2014

We're planning on telling our parents sometime next week. I have my confirmation of pregnancy appointment on Monday and if that goes well we'll tell them shortly after.

FrecklesInside · June 2014

wishiwaspreggo said:

We're telling my parents tomorrow before we go up to NW IN to resentfully attend a bridal shower (long story, will probably bitch about it at some point on this board. Back to happier topics!). We bought a jar of Prego sauce (like my avatar!), spaghetti, and little bottles of Corona. We're going to pretend we're dropping off dinner and drinks and let them make the connection.

My mom texted me about my IUI yesterday. I told her I wasn't allowed to test until Saturday. I've known since Tuesday and I feel kinda bad I haven't said anything yet - was really tempted to Facetime her and Dad. But it's more fun in person and they're on the way to NW IN so it's easy enough to stop by and tell them

I'm going to tell close friends tomorrow after I tell my parents - basically anyone who I'd feel comfortable with sharing news of a CP or miscarriage. I'm going to need people to cry to if this doesn't work out, you know?

I'll tell my parents that they can announce it to anyone they'd like on the condition that they be the one to tell them I miscarried if it happens.

We're telling C's mom mid-July when we take our trip together to California. She's going to wonder why I'm not drinking and why I'm moving kinda slow if my symptoms are bad. She'll be really excited, too This is both my and C's moms' first grandkids!!

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I remember this story from TTGP - I'm assuming this is the shower for the close friend who doesn't have you or C in her bridal party because her husband to be is a homophobic asshole? It must be tough to go to the shower, I think I personally couldn't even go. I haven't heard an update on this in a while though, so I don't know if you've tried to talk to her about the *real* reason she is excluding both of you or not.

Irishcurls · June 2014

I'm telling my mom this weekend. We'll tell my dad and stepmom at his birthday at the end of July, right after my first appointment. ILs are coming up a week later so it works nicely to tell them all in person, since no one is closer than 2 hours from us.

starsailorr26 · June 2014

We told my parents a few nights ago. We plan to tell our IL's when we see them since they've been out of town, likely this weekend. They were all so supportive after our loss, we can't see not telling them yet.

wishiwaspreggo · June 2014

@FrecklesInside - Yup, that's the very wedding I'm pissed off at her still. She lied to us and we caught her in the lie. I stalked The Knot and found other couples who are getting married at that same chapel. Looked up the bridal party and boom, several of the bridal party members are in fact NOT Lutheran and I even found a gay best man! So, it's not even a church rule. It's my friend's fiancé's rule that we're not involved. Whether it's because we're gay, not Lutheran, or he simply doesn't like us, I don't give a flying fuck. He should never have told my friend who she can and cannot include in one of the most important days of her life. Fucking prick.

But yes, we're going to the shower. We have reasons for going, specifically people are going to be wondering why we didn't show up and we wanted to see our other friends who are attending. We decided we'll make our own Sinner's Table where the divorcee, the lesbos, the atheist, and the fornicator can all sit together in happiness

We're going to tell said friends about my pregnancy tomorrow. I wanted to announce it at the shower but C thought it would be too tacky. Oh, well. At least she has more class than me!

janda426 · June 2014

I told my mom, aunt and one sister Wednesday the day after the BFP. We told H parents Wednesday night and everyone was thrilled. I kind of said we are cautiously optimistic as we haven't seen a heartbeat or anything yet but both of our moms have been through a miscarriage and I think they will be good support if God forbid the worst happens.

We told my SIL and her H because we are currently camping with them and it was kinda obvious when I had to stop to pee 5 times on the way here and I'm not drinking anything besides water. We will tell the other SIL on Monday. She's a piece of work who had a baby last year so I can't wait for all the unsolicited advice from her ::sarcasm::

As long as everything continues to progress smoothly I'll be letting immediate family (I have 8 siblings, a bio dad and two stepdads) know as we see them over the next few weeks.

We'll be "out" to everyone else a few weeks after we see a heartbeat.

FrecklesInside · June 2014

wishiwaspreggo said:

@FrecklesInside - Yup, that's the very wedding I'm pissed off at her still. She lied to us and we caught her in the lie. I stalked The Knot and found other couples who are getting married at that same chapel. Looked up the bridal party and boom, several of the bridal party members are in fact NOT Lutheran and I even found a gay best man! So, it's not even a church rule. It's my friend's fiancé's rule that we're not involved. Whether it's because we're gay, not Lutheran, or he simply doesn't like us, I don't give a flying fuck. He should never have told my friend who she can and cannot include in one of the most important days of her life. Fucking prick.

But yes, we're going to the shower. We have reasons for going, specifically people are going to be wondering why we didn't show up and we wanted to see our other friends who are attending. We decided we'll make our own Sinner's Table where the divorcee, the lesbos, the atheist, and the fornicator can all sit together in happiness

We're going to tell said friends about my pregnancy tomorrow. I wanted to announce it at the shower but C thought it would be too tacky. Oh, well. At least she has more class than me!

C is right, announcing at the shower is a bad idea. I hope you have an honest conversation with her though - YOU deserve to tell her that you realize why she is making this decision and how much it hurts you. I really do hope you and C have that talk with her. How incredibly upsetting and frustrating.

graciesmurf · June 2014

We're not telling for a while. I'm not sure when yet, maybe after the u/s appointment and labs come back. I understand that everyone grieves differently, and with my past CP I just wanted to move on. My mom sobbed when I told her I had the loss. She even called in sick from work to cry over it. I understand her point of view since she had several losses and didn't want me to go through that, but her crying was the worst part of the loss for me. This time around we're keeping the info to ourselves at least for a little while.

2Swanns · June 2014

We're going to try our hardest not to tell anyone until Sept. 1. We're close with our families but I just don't have the itch to tell anyone yet.

Part of it might be that we didn't want kids for a long time and people have pretty much accepted that about us. When we announce, I know I'm going to hear it all - "We knew you would!" "We told you you'd change your mind" and so on and so on. Also, my mom will have to have updates every day on how I'm feeling and I'm just putting that off for as long as I can...

Kelley6 · June 2014

2Swannses, same here about my mom wanting daily updates. I rather postpone that for a bit and just keep it between my husband and I. This is my first pregnancy, and I'm just trying to process it all.

cafecreme · June 2014

I plan on doing this as a facebook announcement, how cute is this y'all?!?

BostonAlison · June 2014

I just told my mom on the phone... she was quite surprised and very happy

spaceykatie · June 2014

2Swanns said:

We're going to try our hardest not to tell anyone until Sept. 1. We're close with our families but I just don't have the itch to tell anyone yet.

Part of it might be that we didn't want kids for a long time and people have pretty much accepted that about us. When we announce, I know I'm going to hear it all - "We knew you would!" "We told you you'd change your mind" and so on and so on. Also, my mom will have to have updates every day on how I'm feeling and I'm just putting that off for as long as I can...

LOL This is where we are too. Less so from my mom and more so from DH's mom. I don't want to go through all the "I told you so's" until I'm past the 12 week point. Otherwise I might have to go through them more than once.

Momarazzi007 · June 2014

Beary+Ghastly said:
I plan on doing this as a facebook announcement, how cute is this y'all?!?

And I plan on stealing this!!! Super cute!!!

jjgrl55 · June 2014

I'm really conflicted on this question. My dad is out of the area until the end of July, and he will definitely be the most excited, so I want to wait to tell him in person. The other new grandparents are all out of town, so there's no need to wait to tell them. But I almost feel like it's unfair to tell them so soon and make my dad wait until July? But I also really, really, really want to tell them. Especially my mother, who has had a loss and would be a great resource if something were to happen. But there's no need to be so hasty as well.

Eh, I'm just making a mountain out of a molehill. I'll figure it out. But my answer for now is- I'm obsessing about it way too much.

sandc63 · June 2014

We told my mom the day I got my BFP, but won't tell MIL until prob august bc my SIL is expecting and due any day now, and since they had such a hard time conceiving I don't want to steal the spotlight.

poobear2015 · June 2014

We are telling my FIL/MIL's on Friday. So it will have been a week from the 1st BFP. I just want to make sure this little bean sticks because I'm so skeptical. So when we are over for the 4th of July, we are putting DD in a "big sister" shirt and seeing how long it takes for them to notice. I may wait to tell my parents. My brother has a big mouth on FB. I had to wait with DD and when I finally told them at 10 wks, he bragged on FB and my reveal was busted.

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