STM's, are you having/did you have a shower this time around?

ShadowsRainFalls · June 2014

ShadowsRainFalls · June 2014

I had a shower with DS, and didn't/won't with DD. Just curious about how often STM's have showers.

FTR, I am glad nobody is throwing me one, because I have so much stuff. I only really needed to buy a few things, and my MIL and Mom can't help but to purchase some cute girly items for LO anyways.

lbonga1 · June 2014

My coworker offered to throw me another one (she threw the first one) because the one she threw for DD she changed the date at the last minute not realizing it was Super Bowl Sunday so only like 5 people came. Not that I'm complaining; it was actually really nice. But I think she felt bad. I told her I don't need anything and don't have a registry though, so it's more of just a baby celebration.

happylady07 · June 2014

Nope. I'm not big on being the center of attention, and I'm also not a big fan of showers for STMs. I hope I have hinted this enough at my friends, because they are known for throwing surprise showers (there have been 2 in my group of friends in the last 3 months!) I'm also hoping the fact that I'm team green prevents anyone from wanting to buy cute clothes

shevaCC · June 2014

Nope, didn't have one with DD either since we had just moved right before I got pregnant. But I have very generous family and friends who sent us many nice things last time around and we don't need much now.

MC03 · June 2014

I am having a very small shower this weekend, thrown by my sister. Besides my mom and my sister I invited only 5 friends, so it's more like a small celebration lunch and my sister said no gifts please on the invite. I am excited to have a little celebration for this baby and to eat some cake.

schnookee · June 2014

I found out my husband is planning a very small showerish gathering with mostly immediate family. I don't know if anyone is going to buy anything and I really don't care. We did have to get rid of all our stuff from our daughter so we do have to re-buy everything which sucks, but it is what it is. My husband wanted to do something because he felt bad that when we announced we were expecting no one really cared and just went about their business like nothing happened. That fact that he thought about doing something for me means more than any shower so I'm just really happy about that.

KittyMisha · June 2014

I'm having a "sprinkle", which is a low key version of a shower according to my friend who is hosting it, although we invited like 40 people. I don't really need anything, so I did not ask for gifts, and there will be alcohol served (not to me, obviously). It's really just an excuse to have a party.

Valancyy · June 2014

I was offered one by a co-worker with my 2nd, but I declined. It was more of a, "oh, we need to start planning your shower." I just told her I didn't want one, since they had just thrown me one for DS#1.

I wasn't offered one this time, and I definitely didn't want/need one. With #3...we hardly needed to buy anything.

BeachM · June 2014

Yes I had a small sprinkle with close friends at the end of May. No expectations or requests of presents/baby gear but I got some cute clothes and some adorable muslin swaddling blankets which I actually did not have any of from last time. It was more of a "let's eat and chat" party with a few small gifts thrown in.

tamarar5 · June 2014

This is my third, but even though my mom offered to throw a second baby shower for my second, she never followed through. It sucked too, because we ended up having a boy, and he was born 6 years after my first... So I had already gotten rid of all my baby stuff. Nbd, it just would have been nice if she would have ultimately said she wasn't going to throw it because she kept telling me not to buy baby stuff because she was going to throw the shower. DH and I ended up having to go out the week before my due date and get EVERYTHING.

tabaskoa · June 2014

I voted SS - I had a shower the first time around, this time my sister wanted to throw me a Sprinkle. It's just a few people, close friends and family, and I didn't register or any of that. I think it will be fun! I had a boy and this time it's a girl, so I know my friends are excited to buy girly things.

ungraceful13 · June 2014

No. My aunt offered (she hosted one of my showers with DD) but we both agreed since it had been less than 2 years and I didn't need much that we might as well skip it. Which is good bc the last month has been horrible for my family and her especially so I wouldn't want that on her too.

lookame3639 · June 2014

I had a shower for DS 7 years ago. All his stuff expired and/or got damaged/sold. We have a few crib sheets we can use but that's about it. FI isn't DS dad either. Anyway we basically decided that we'll do everything new or new to us (shopping at thrift stores and resale shops).

kmontem · June 2014

I have a close group of girlfriends who throw sprinkles for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. babies in our group. They threw me a sprinkle last weekend for my 3rd (first boy) and it was super small, no registry, and pretty much just an excuse to get together and admire tiny baby clothes.

Jenrileysmom · June 2014

I'm having a small one on July 13th at my aunt's house. Just family and a couple of friends.

Kondasa · June 2014

No, but my friends planned a surprise lunch out and gave me a $100 babies r us gift card.

tamarar5 · June 2014

weeklyplanner said:
I'm a FTM, but what I've learned from this thread is never get rid of your baby stuff. I feel so bad that some of you got rid of everything and now have to rebuy. I'm sure it's exciting to buy new things for this baby, but such a financial hit too.
I often thought that second baby showers were a regional thing and didn't happen around here. But recently, my FB feed seems to be full of "sprinkles," so I guess I was wrong. I know my mom and her friends were not very keen on the idea of a sprinkle (I overheard them talking about it).
For me, whether someone has a shower or their 5th kid, I always bring a gift. I guess for showers I bring more expensive gifts, but a new baby is always a reason to celebrate!

Cannot agree more! To make matters worse, I had to buy 2 cribs for DD1— somehow, one of the corner supports splintered on her first, so had to replace. I then loaned my second crib to my cousin when she was expecting her first. Well I got pregnant right after her first baby passed away rafter birth, so I didn't want to ask for it back so soon, then she got pregnant again right away.... Now I have a 16 month old and we need to buy ANOTHER CRIB.

shaylagirl · June 2014

I am.

My son is 16, his son is 12.

I didn't have a shower with my son. I have no idea if he and his ex-wife had a shower with their son.

I figure; massive age gap(s), different sex, new couple.

I didn't ask, but my sister was DYING to throw one, and she's SO excited about it. I know that DH's co-workers are also throwing us one; I'm just hoping for cake at that one. And, some my co-workers have mentioned wanting to do one. Again, I'm just hoping for cake.

I do know that this is SUPER unpopular on the Showers board. Oh well. If this makes me a gift-grabby hoor...then whatever. Just give the fat pregger woman cake.

missmiss307 · June 2014

I didn't expect to have one, but I had two people offer to throw them (one for friends in the town where I live, the other for family back home), so I accepted. They asked if I wanted to do a registry or just diapers and wipes, and I told them diapers would be great and not to go to too much trouble. Mostly just want them to know I appreciate the thought but that we already have a lot of stuff we need and don't want them to overdo it.

rockyrollgirl · June 2014

No, they would be so close together that I do not think it is necessary. I have declined the offer from my MIL.

andreamarnold · June 2014

I'm not having one... the idea of a sprinkle to get some baby clothes sounds kind of nice (especially since we are having a girl this time and I only have tons of boy clothes), but no one has offered that. To be honest, I am kind of enjoying finding the best deals and picking out everything that I like. With my DS, I feel like we just rushed through Target and Babies R Us and scanned a bunch of junk because we didn't know exactly what we needed. I'm sure once she is born, friends and family will come over with little gifts too. SO EXCITED TO MEET HER!

workmm01 · June 2014

I don't know why it's so frowned upon. I hope I have one when we are expecting again since none of our friends or family have thrown us one this time. Not for the gifts. It would just be nice to have a celebration.

Jenrileysmom · June 2014

workmm01 said:

I don't know why it's so frowned upon. I hope I have one when we are expecting again since none of our friends or family have thrown us one this time. Not for the gifts. It would just be nice to have a celebration.

It's not frowned upon in my area or in my family/circle of friends. I've been to many second showers. I was shocked by all of strong opinions about this topic on TB.

GinnyJ2012 · June 2014

My SIL asked who was throwing me one/when it was and I let her know that showers for 2+babies aren't really done. It was common where I lived before, but not where I'm located now.

MeganEMcG5 · June 2014

I answered "yes," but I wouldn't exactly consider it a shower. Our friends are hosting a BBQ tomorrow for us. There's about 20 people going. I'm sure there will be gifts, but I didn't register. I asked her to write something tactfully saying we have everything we need, but if you wish to get a gift that the necessities (diapers, wipes, clothes, etc.) are best. Just as a point of reference, DS is 3 1/2 and this one's a girl.

momnamedandrea · June 2014

I voted SS. We are going to have a sip and see after the baby, we have most things, there are a few important things that I borrowed with DD but will need this time and can't re-borrow because they are in use. Since we are team green this time we will wait to baby is here so close friends and family can celebrate and bring small gifts like clothes if they want.

Raclla · June 2014

Nope.
DD just turned 1 this week.
It feels like I just had showers about 2 minutes ago for her.

kcm3 · June 2014

We didn't for our second, but my best friend and aunts are doing something small for the 3rd. I made a "wish list" of some things that have seen better days after 2 babies, but no presents are expected. This is the first pregnancy I've lived in the same state as my family, so it's more a reason to celebrate with them in anticipation of the new addition.

reb84 · June 2014

We are having our second girl and moved to a new state in January so I didn't expect anything. A coworker asked if she could throw a little shower for the ladies at work and I accepted. It was very kind of them to think of me and baby when I really haven't worked here too long.

pmpkn219 · June 2014

having a sprinkle from my work ladies only, didn't know them with my last pregnancy, they've insisted they want to buy pink clothes and diapers. there's 11 of them.

babypants11 · June 2014

My friend and her mom (who is my mom's best friend) are throwing me a tiny sprinkle. It will be under ten people and I didn't register anywhere. We are only doing this bc we are having a boy this time. Also, I'm always happy to get my very favorite people together.

BeachM · June 2014

I'm not sure who ended up being more pumped about my sprinkle, me or DH. My friend who organized it ordered a big sandwich tray from my favorite local gourmet deli and DH ate the leftovers all weekend. He kept saying "I'm so glad you had another shower!". Haha! I think he was also relieved that this one did not involve needing him to move large quantities of baby items into our house like the last one. A couple small toys, blankets, and clothes were easy to put away. He was very overwhelmed by all the big stuff last time.

Rosebean · June 2014

I am not having one (to my knowledge), but I would probably decline if I learned my friends were thinking of throwing one. I had one friend who did get a shower for her second (a boy) and her first child was 2 years old.

DS will be 18 months old when this LO comes, so we have everything. And things I have loaned out are coming back slowly. Incidentally we are team green, so my only major purchases will be probably another change table (to keep in another room because we have a two bedroom house and DS has the other room right now and is STTN) and I bought a second crib second hand. I will buy more clothes if this one ends up being a girl... So a shower would be very overkill right now. I still have ten thousand blankets from the last one!

rockyrollgirl · June 2014

@Rosebean‌ oh my....the blankets. Do not even get me started on the blankets.

PecanSam · June 2014

We are celebrating this baby by having a BBQ soon after baby arrives. This way everyone can meet the baby at once rather than having constant visitors for several weeks.

ebp913 · June 2014

No shower and no sip n sees. I can't do large crowds with a newborn after my son almost died of RSV at 3 weeks old last year. People will see the baby when they see the baby. Thankfully by #3, people mostly just leave you alone!