I can't stop yelling :(

SallyAnneS · June 2014

I am irrationally angry with ds over everything he does because of the side effects of the progesterone I am on. I know I am acting crazy. But I can't seem to stop myself from being angry 24/7. We are potty training which isn't helping matters at all because a) we can't leave the house to get a break to regroup b) I am not a patient person at all so his accidents 2 seconds after using the potty are frustrating me c) if I am not on top of him every waking second he is peeing on the floor it seems like. He is also not listening and doing stuff he knows better then to do. So i am yelling. A lot. I hate it, ds hates it. And my DH just yelled at me for yelling so much. I am really annoyed with dh right now because of that. Apparently I am a terrible parent and have no idea what I am doing and yelling is making everything worse. (his ignoring ds and paying on his phone all day and seeming pissed off but not saying anything is a-okay though) I'm sorry, I am friggin pregnant and on crazy pills, I know the rest of my week is going to be spent trying to not lose my friggin mind potty training and my usually happy go lucky ds is spun out of control. And I am tired and queasy and emotional.

Okay but to the point... how do I stop the yelling cycle? And how do I deal with getting through p/t without losing my mind? It HAS to work this time but it seems like our life is never going to be the same again. We are usually out and about all the time, long car rides to the zoo, not worrying about every 30 minutes using the bathroom etc. I feel like we are never going to be able to leave the house again or at least in the same way again where we go do earrands for 3 hours or whatever.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2014

Do you have to potty train now? I would wait until you're out of this phase of pregnancy personally.

Becid24 · June 2014

Just do your regular routine & bring lots of changes of clothes. My kids all did better out in public than at home. We would go potty before we left, then again when we got to the store, before leaving the store & so on. I think I know where every bathroom is in 3 counties but whatever. Don't stay in it will only make you both irritable.

SallyAnneS · June 2014

KC_13 said:

Do you have to potty train now? I would wait until you're out of this phase of pregnancy personally.

He needs to be fully trained by September for preschool. And from what friends irl have told me it takes months to be fully trained. If it wasn't for preschool I would never, ever train him. Maybe that is a fffc but I have no issues with diapers at all and

gremaud07 · June 2014

I really have no advice. But I feel you with the yelling , damn progesterone !

SallyAnneS · June 2014

beci24 said:

Just do your regular routine & bring lots of changes of clothes. My kids all did better out in public than at home. We would go potty before we left, then again when we got to the store, before leaving the store & so on. I think I know where every bathroom is in 3 counties but whatever. Don't stay in it will only make you both irritable.

Really? hmm... that is good news as he is going on vacation with my mom this weekend. Hopefully he will do okay with her then. I think I am going to wait till next week to take him out. I don't think in my current state of mind I could handle if he pees in the car, and on the floor in stores etc. But maybe I can take him to the park though.

SallyAnneS · June 2014

gremaud07 glad I'm not the only one feeling this way. It really is making me such a bitch.

spring_time · June 2014

I am sorry you are having such a tough time. I don't have many suggestions except to walk away if you feel like you are about to yell. Your LO is old enough to understand that Mommy needs a break/time-out.

Also, give yourself a break. If TV needs to babysit your LO for a few hours, so be it. It won't cause any permanent damage.

As for your DH, give him tasks to help you out. I am not sure if it is typical side effect of pregnancy, but during the first trimester, I hated my DH. The sound of him breathing sent my blood pressure through the roof. I cannot imagine how I would have felt toward him if I had the added chemical reaction from progesterone.

lexusolsen · June 2014

I say this every potty training post but here it goes again... Pull up over the underwear. Problem solved.

I also have a potty (with a lid) in the car. I throw a grocery store bag and a few paper towels in it to absorb the pee and let her go.

Mrs.Greg · June 2014

How many days are you into potty training? My Anna was stubborn as hell! I did the 3-day potty training method and she just straight peed all over herself right up to the 3rd day. I watched her like a hawk and put her on the toilet every time she wet herself. And on the third day, right when I was about to give up and just put a pull on her, it just clicked. I feel ya on the whole potty training to start preschool! My babies are starting in September too and until like 6 weeks ago, we hadn't even started potty training. Good luck!!

sometimesalwayschaotic · June 2014

I would put a hold on potty training. He does not sound ready. With my first I waited until she asked to do it and it was a very easy process. She has had very few accidents in the last 6 months. I know you're feeling the pressure from preschool but it is something that can't be force. You don't need the extra stress right now on top of being pregnant. Give everyone a break and just have fun right now. Also, take a nap! I am a much nicer person when I take a nap. You have a lot of time before September.

vlagrl29 · June 2014

Does fully trained mean even night time, because DD still wears a pull up at night. Just a couple months ago we were able to let her sleep in undies during nap time, up until then she was still peeing in a pull up during naps. It doesn't really take months to potty train. I guess it depends on the kid. DD was pee trained in 2 weeks, but it took longer for the poop part. Yeah there were accidents here and there, but it was not a big deal. You just have to constantly remind them "do you need to go to potty?"

SallyAnneS · June 2014

We are only on day 2 this time around. It is actually going pretty well on the whole. He only has big accidents today before lunch. I got home from grocery shopping and maybe he was just really excited to see me? Ge has been fine for the past 4 hours and drinking a ton of water. He did poop his undies but while hiding and told me right away. I think i have a good reward system going now.
Thank you for all the support. I must sound like a broken record this week.

SallyAnneS · June 2014

@vlagrl29: just day time trained. But i am thinking fully pee and poop trained and able to ask to go when he needs to.

penguingrrl · June 2014

He definitely doesn't sound ready to potty train and that's not something you can force regardless of preschool requirements. I thought my middle one was ready at 2.5 and went whole hog with it and she did great for a full week in panties. Then it turned into a battle of wills because she suddenly had a negative association with it and she flat out refused to potty train until she was almost 4. If I said a word about using the potty, wearing panties, whatever she would burst into tears and have a tantrum. It was a disaster.

vlagrl29 · June 2014

yeah, he may not be ready. I did almost give up on DD last summer when we trained her because of all the accidents, but DH told me not to give up and just a couple days later she was getting the hang of it. I would still go out and about if I were you even if you are training him. I would just put a pull up on DD when we ran errands, but once we got home she was in panties only. I swear the little potty was a permanent fixture in our living room for months! We even brought it outside when she was playing with the neighbor kids. She actually got the 3 year old next door to train because he wanted to do what she was doing. Maybe take a small break from it and get started again. Don't make it a negative thing for him….not saying you are but he may regress if there is yelling going on. Maybe have him clean up his accidents. That might help.

BloomingMomma · June 2014

I wonder if you picked the wrong preschool. There are daycare/preschools that are ok with not having kids potty trained; see it as a developmental milestone. Like walking or talking.... You can't really rush it. I hope things go easier for you, too, and I wouldn't put the blame of yelling on you alone, but the environment can play a huge part of stress. If you didn't have potty train pressure due to perhaps unrealistic preschool requirement, would you still feel yelling a huge issue?

jesselayne8 · June 2014

We had to PT for preschool too. It took DD a full 9 days on the "3 day method". I wanted to quit after day 5 but MH talked me into giving it a few more days. DD peed on the floor of Target on day 5. I was mortified but I can now laugh about it.

dizzycooks · June 2014

Do not stay home just because you're potty training. I still take dd to the bathroom in new places and show her where it is. I entertain everything equestrian to potty and go myself very often cease if she sees me go she then wants to go. As far as being fully trained, my dd still can't ask to go in a way most would understand. She doesn't wet her pants but if she couldn't get to the bathroom I'm sure she would. How many hours is preschool? 3? You have plenty of time to work with him. Take a deep breath. As for long car rides, we generally time long ones around naptime anyway and so she wears a diaper. Initially I put her diaper over her underwear for long rides not at naptime, but now I know how long she can handle and make sure she pees before we go.

mandymack · June 2014

That is SO hard, I'm so sorry, I can feel your pain, sadness and frustration

Ugh, potty-training, is there anything harder about raising kids?!? I purposely did NOT register Nolan for fall Preschool because I'm not confident I can get him PT in time (he just turned 3, too!) so I totally understand your panic and well-intentioned focus on PT.

I wish you the very best of luck!!! {{HUGS}}

Mommy2CB · June 2014

Our DS1 starts preschool in Sept too so we will be full time PT soon. He pees every night before bed as part of his routine, and sometimes will go during the day if i ask but not always. No poops yet.

His preschool has a toddler room for kids who aren't potty trained but I think it's more like a daycare room than actual preschool so I'd like to avoid that.

I'm the same though I would normally never try to rush potty training.. It's just for preschool. We will see how he does.

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